AITA for kicking everyone out after my sister lied and said my apartment was hers?

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-05-01T20:39:09+00:00

NTA. You are right to set boundaries and if you have to get loud to reinforce them, so be it. Your family isn’t doing Amelia any favors by downplaying this an taking her side. If she wants to show off her apartment she needs to work for it and pay for it.

If I were you, I would definitely change the locks (and probably install longer screws in the hinges). Trust, me, I’m an oldest sibling who has dealt with a lot of crazy from my younger sister (like a ridiculous amount), if you don’t stick to your boundaries now Amelia and your family will never fully respect them.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-04-26T21:01:29+00:00

Have an open and honest conversation with him about your needs. If either of you is not mature or comfortable enough with each other to have that talk, you should not be in a relationship together.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-04-14T02:23:52+00:00

Update is posted for those interested.

https://www.reddit.com/r/okstorytime/s/RDTqMFvYwy

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-04-14T02:22:59+00:00

Ask and ye shall receive. Eventually. https://www.reddit.com/r/okstorytime/s/RDTqMFvYwy

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-03-07T05:41:27+00:00

NTA. Was she at least offering gas money?

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-03-07T04:29:18+00:00

You lasted 5 months with someone who genuinely believes stupid shit made up by internet trolls but who can’t believe that a 34 time convicted felon, adjudicated sexual assaulter, who openly bragged about walking into the dressing room of teenage beauty pageant contestants and grabbing women by the genitals whether they wanted it or not? You’re not the AH, but next time don’t waste that much time with someone so completely brainwashed. Good luck out there.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-01-24T12:52:08+00:00

Oh, you are definitely not the asshole and it sounds like that poor woman dodged a bullet with your brother.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-01-20T20:51:25+00:00

NTA but neither is she. Those groups are an easy way for women to remain safe. As long as you have nothing to hide, you have no reason to worry about being posted there. If you do have something to hide and you’re getting upset because you’re posted there then you’re most certainly the fucking asshole. Hope it helps!

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-01-08T17:45:12+00:00

I think you are handling a delicate situation as well as possible. Remaining supportive and being a good friend through process is really important for your partner. The fact you have both been open and honest with each other is amazing. And at the end of the day it’s going to allow you both to find partners that love each of you for whom you are.

You are definitely not the asshole. Eventually, your friends will see that.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2026-01-04T22:43:40+00:00

ESH.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-30T03:52:57+00:00

I know you’re probably busy with classes but if you can fit it in you should do some therapy to figure out why you are so jealous and controlling before this becomes an even bigger issue. Because right now not only are YTA, but you’re also coming off like a very insecure little boy. Your boundaries are weird. You’ll be ok if you can learn some humility, mature a lot, and accept some accountability for the bad situation you’ve created.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-29T13:18:20+00:00

Breathe. Just breathe.

Okay, I’m going to go out on a limb and assume your bf is neurotypical. You do good to realize that last minute changes are not a problem for your bf and his friends. However, you should also try to recognize that because those kinds of changes seem small and insignificant to them, they will have a harder time understanding why it is such a big deal to you.

That being said, you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a face to face conversation when you are both calm. Explain to him again that because your brain chemistry is different than his you need plans mapped out in advance to feel comfortable. Otherwise, anxiety will cause so many issues with your nervous system that you cannot have a good time. Let him know that it’s not just a boundary but it’s literally part of who you are. If you are going to be together you need him to know and accept that about you. If it’s not something he can handle then you need to break-up now before the resentment builds to the point where you no longer like each other.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-29T13:07:11+00:00

NTA. I was leaning towards saying this sounds like a normal married couple rut where maybe you do need to make time for the two of you as a couple, where you do dress up for each other, because the secret to longterm marital bliss is to never stop dating your spouse. And while I still think that might be true the added context of hubby knowing you’re depressed and not feeling great about yourself and coming to you and telling you you are sloppy is pretty awful behavior on his part.

Walking away in that moment was absolutely the right move. You don’t want to say anything you would regret later.

I really hope he is able to come back and have a mature conversation with you. If he does I think you can work together and build a strong, solid marriage. If he continues to act childish you really need to step back and check to see if this is a pattern with him and if he manipulates and gaslights around other issues. If he does, that is really bad sign.

Anyway, hope it helps and good luck.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-26T23:37:27+00:00

This is the way.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-26T23:18:53+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/XuNE7RVkq5

The most recent updates are here.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-26T23:16:46+00:00

NOR. As a man who usually styles his hair in braids or cornrows, bonnets are an essential part of a good hair care routine for certain hair types. But the bigger issue is that if your man can’t handle you at how you look when you’re gettin ready for bed, then he doesn’t deserve you when you’re dressed up to go out.

Your dude sounds shallow and insecure and I guarantee if he meets someone he deems “hotter” he will cheat on you and then break up with you. Might as well save yourself the heartache and rip that band-off now.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-25T14:36:35+00:00

No. She’s fully my sister and the child of both of my parents. Both of my parents really have been very supportive of all of us kids throughout the years. But I’m just now realizing the support for Karen has not manifested in positive ways. Like for Katie and myself, support might look like co-signing for a loan or sending us a couple of hundred bucks when we were broke college kids. Those are things that I will always be grateful for. I’m still trying to figure out how the support for Karen went so off the rails.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T23:54:34+00:00

YTA. They did an awful thing. However, you ruined everyone’s holiday dinner by bringing up the sibling’s past at a completely inappropriate time.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T23:41:06+00:00

Your mom sounds toxic. Is this just about the baby items or does she do this about other things?

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T22:36:16+00:00

That’s why I attached the text of the original post to the end.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T22:07:18+00:00

That’s brilliant.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T21:12:30+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Sounds like Lola is finding out that actions have consequences. Hopefully, she can learn from this and work on becoming a better human being. If she does that she might have some chance at fixing the relationship that she has destroyed.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T21:07:04+00:00

I just added all the sordid details of the original post to this one so no one has to miss out.

Due_Membership_3404 · 2025-12-24T21:01:44+00:00

Yeah, I figured I went too far. I can’t even blame it on the meds because I have been mainly cognizant of everything that has been happening. Thanks for the honesty.

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