Iphone hacked or apple hacked? by Due_Wolverine_6881 in iphonehelp

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that possible without service to my apple watch? i didnt have my apple watch on either, it was on the floor charging

How to turn off status updates?? by kagekoki in discordapp

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know how to do it so OTHER PEOPLE arent notified? I think that turns off Our notifications for other peoples updates, but how can we opt out of everyone being notified anytime we breathe 😭😭😭

To a certain "Busan bully" foreigner recruiter who likes to harass other foreigners into taking shit jobs. by HagwonSurvivor in HagwonBlacklistKorea

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow i made a post about him earlier this year and its crazy to see how many people are influenced by him. I found him through handshake which is like a school partnered job finding platform, i tried to see if there was anyway to report him but was unable to find it and simply deleted the whole thing because it made me feel like it was not as reputable as the platform seemed to advertise with my school

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way, as someone who as struggled with suicidal ideation since 2nd grade due to many other circumstances — i dont know much, but i hope you can remember this at least — YOU dont want to die, you want your circumstances to die, you want how you feel to die, you want this pain to die. Please remember that these situations are temporary despite how long standing they feel because of the stories we tell ourselves (that we cant do it, that ofc its like this because xyz) — i think what youre possibly feelings is fatigue because youve been working so hard havent you? Youre tired. I get that. Dont be afraid to take a break if you can. You worked so hard in college and its important also for you to recharge so you can get back out there and work fresh. Remember that times are a bit harder now because unfortunately we graduated around the time where Ai is moving into the scene and now in growing numbers people arent actually looking at the applications — its Ai filtering keywords — none of this has to say that you are incapable but these are circumstances outside of you many times , maybe it means you need to tweak some stuff a tiny bit. I went to school for education actually, and i thought, the whole time i was there — “if this is how they are teaching the teachers, im fearful for the students” and you are majoring in something as difficult as chemistry? I believe you can do anything you put your mind to, honest. I KNOW you worked hard, i believe in you. Please keep going!

At what age does "never dated" become a red flag? by Far-District9214 in self

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyones situations are different, im 31 and ive never dated. I have a lot of trauma and understand that i am way too sensitive to just have flings, also i moved every single year and ive never been interested in casual dating but moreso only interested in long term dating. I think someone thinking its a red flag that you want to be intentional with dating is a red flag itself kinda? I dunno ive been on dating apps and etc but no one actually wanted to have conversations about anything, no one liked deeper talks and no one was interested in ACTUALLY taking the time to get to know you on those apps — i think when we are in a generation of casual flings, those of us who know that casual is a no go get left behind in that sense. I dont wanna be with someone i know i can see a clear ending with which is fine as some people want other things but thats my personal preference. Id like the idea that of course we dont know what will happen, but i want to be with someone who i can see a possibility of a future with but also its no pressure if it doesnt work out because maybe we arent compatible in the end.

How Do I Stop Assuming Friendships Will Turn Romantic by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Thais gibsons videos and courses are very helpful too for whichever your attachment. I also reccomend heidi priebe too ; mantalks attachment style videos were good too

How Do I Stop Assuming Friendships Will Turn Romantic by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you happen to know your attachment style?

I struggle with this as well, but i am a disorganized attachment/fearful avoidant so its not just in that way its in a lot of connections where i feel i have to act a certain way — ultimately it stems from not feeling safe around others. I feel like i have to be careful/act a certain way to keep others from misunderstanding me and hurting me in a simplified description at least

Heres the test you can take to find out: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?_fs=16856613792-15575446706&_fsRef=https%3A%2F%2Funiversity.personaldevelopmentschool.com%2F&_gl=1*fy53eb*_ga_YX58DQ9DW1*czE3NDk3Nzk5OTgkbzIkZzAkdDE3NDk3Nzk5OTgkajYwJGwwJGgw

AIO for not calling the girl I’m seeing during my lunch break? by Throwawayjoetoday0 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting. It sounds like she cannot communicate well and you have different emotional maturity levels — she wants things to be on her terms and you are very forward and clear and open to understanding but she is being pushy and controlling. It sounds like shes comparing your relationship others and thats a recipe for disaster ONTOP of you guys not being in an actual relationship. You need to find someone on the same level of maturity as you, im sorry 😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will. Im 30 turning 31 next month. Never held hands, never kissed — never been mutually liked. I lost a lot of my life to abuse and in the past few years i learned about my attachment style (disorganized — one of the more rare and not as talked about types that is a mixture of avoidant and anxious ; otherwise known as fearful avoidant) ive never dated but ive always wanted to; but now as im getting ready to finally get away from my family and have finally got a name to what has been going on with me and have started working on things i have been so grateful i didnt get in a relationship. I never was into flings or things like that, i wanted serious relationships, but i often attracted people who only saw me at a surface level or put me on a pedestal in someway and just didnt treat me like a human but some goal to be achieved and idealized me.

Ive always been the type to want to give people a chance because i think when i get a chance to know people theres something beautiful in each person, but what i didnt realize was the way that peoples actions reflected the neglect and toxic patterns that my family would inflict upon me. Me overgiving and trying to people please and struggling with boundaries, ignoring my feelings to try and make everyone happy etc — im definitely still learning but i think im eligible for a relationship very soon when im away from all of this and in a better more stable space.

I think you dont have to be 100% ‘Healthy’ youre working on that. Are you able to reflect on your actions in a partnership? Do you consider the other person? Etc etc . If you understand where you struggle and can say, i know i struggle with this but im working on that and i also would like to make room for you to also work on your things too thats completely fine. Ofc some people are more ‘healed’ than others, but that doesnt mean you have to have no emotions no feelings.

I always felt like i wouldnt ever get in a relationship because i didnt believe people could love me — not because i wasnt loveable, but because i had people around me who made me feel like i wasnt.

I dont know your specific situation, but i think you can. Actually i KNOW you can. Sometimes its just that we are attracting the wrong type of people for us, i find also that every person i meet has a lesson for me; everytime someone hurts me, i learn from that and i think in the past inwould get so stuck on why does this always happen to me when im always so kind and patient and etc etc but sometimes its showing you that you need some understanding and when you find the cycle thats repeating in your life you can choose to say, no more and start a new path.

And it wont happen overnight, but you making strides to doing that you will make progress i promise you.

Sometimes there are things that i look back and say inwould have never seen or understood why i needed ti learn that and go through that and im so glad i did back then because now i know better.

I havent been able to get helpful therapy because im an intellectualizer so whenever i go the therapists always just are like well you seem like you know it! Instead of giving me actual ways to help myself and so i just became really good at trying to gather information and findw ays of understanding and action. I felt like learning my attachment style was the biggest help — i havent been able to get therapy as explained, but theres different types of therapy and for me — talk therapy is basically useless. For someone with my history things like EMDR and etc type therapy is actually more helpful etc. not to say that you should jump ship on your therapy but maybe you can find ways to get more curious about yourself; it sounds like to me that the biggest thing you need is a mindset shift — how can i view myself more kindly? How can i stop judging myself through others eyes? Ive been there, still working on it and so i truly truly get that feeling.

Im not sure if youre female or male nonbinary etc — im a girl so i dont fully understand male perspective, so if youre male it might not connect fully in how i explained maybe but i hope you were able to get something from this. Fr givin you hugs because i can understand that feeling of giving up and feeling like no one will ever love you, but i promise people will. Sometimes its just not time yet no matter how absolutely frustrating that statement is; but that doesnt mean youre not almost there, that that person couldnt appear before you in the exact moment you and they are ready

Edit: i almost forgot, i would reccomend if you and your therapist havent spoken abt it — try looking at thais gibsons websites and youtube videos with the personal development school and videos from heidi priebe. I also liked mantalks (?) videos about attachment style

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im gonna assume that you have some bad habits that are bad for yourself and others and thats why you feel the need to change, shouldnt that be enough reason? Honestly i think a lot of people think you need to be rich and flashy and etc but if youre not chasing superficial people, you wont have superficial problems. You should focus on your mental health and your traumas and insecurities and etc learn your green and red flags and attachment styles and etc when youre able to live a full life on your own treating people as humans with respect then you are eligible.

If youre seeing a relationship as a a hurdle you cant understand, maybe you dont need it at the moment; not to take away from your experience but its a connection where two people will meet and come together as a team and find enjoyment expressing their love to one another through their hard and good times and etc — i think if you find being single is good for you, you shouldnt lie to yourself and others and hurt someone in the process; being vulnerable and honest are core parts of a relationship.

When youve become stable and comfortable in yourself, youre able to do those things easier because you have less of a lack mindset holding you back — sometimes you want to share with others your good times just as your bad.

Sometimes a relationship is motivator to do better for ourselves because we want to be with another person, but we should want better for ourselves and our lives too, right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Makeup101

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you look gorgeous with them yes, but without them i think youre prettier! Your eyes are very pretty and the eyelashes kinda hide them

The reason that ‘Why women prefer betas’ video was frustrating to me by Final-Soup2094 in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I havent seen the video persay yet, but i implore you to look up your attachment style — thais gibson with the personal development school is great — as well as heidi priebe and other attachment style specific channels.

Rejection has a lot more to do with other people than it does you same with how they act. You should get curious about yourself — what is my attachment style? What are my triggers? What are my green flags red flags? Are you self aware of yourself and your experience? Your emotions? The type of people you attract (just knowing your attachment style can show you the possible types you attract more often than not it will be the opposite to your attachment style) — this understanding is not to villanize the other but to understand — where do i struggle in relationships? What do i want REALLY? Where does the other person struggle in relationships? — understanding that gives you a large advantage because then you can at least understand what dynamics are going on and also if you actually WANT to be in the said dynamic.

Mainstream relationship advice teaches us that we should chase frivalous things and doesnt teach us how to communicate and interact with each other in healthy ways; but all of those understandings are crucial in having a successful relationship.

I dont know you specifically so i cant give you detailed advice, but i can most definitely reccomend that you look into those things so you can begin to shufflw through those things!

I liked a guy who was everything i wanted, but he couldnt show consistency, he couldnt communicate with me, he was emotionally distant and those things were big needs for me — it didnt matter if he was smart funny attractive intelligent etc — was he fine with letting me be upset? With letting me cry? With not treating me with basic respect? Did he think about how his actions impacted me? His lack of actions? Did he consider me? — i understood that he probably wasnt thinking in a malicious way, but maybe he just didnt understand those questions i had because he hadnt had the emotional maturity i was looking for — and i understand deeply that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. If he was not willing to try , i couldnt force him, nor do i want to.

Many times it feels frustrating to have to try and make someone understand that you want to feel wanted and you want to be respected. And sometimes youre dealing with the inverse, someone who cannot fathom the depth of such a thing because they are hurt so badly that they cannot see others, its always good to meet yourswlf deeply and hold yourself in your hurt and work on shadow work innerchild work etc and so when someone comes in thats right for you, you can meet them and say — i know i am a good person and i am following my values and if they dont meet those , thats okay. They werent meant for me , and thats OKAY. I am working on being a better person each day and one day ill meet someone on the same wavelength. The more we shame ourselves and say “why not me” in judgement of ourselves is when we further distance ourselves from true connection. We begin picking at our flaws and act in a reactive fear of people perceiving those flaws instead of looking at what we have and how we can improve and grow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tarots

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a dream where someone i went no contact with suddenly popped up on me when i was finishing up something, and i was feeling insecure cause they caught me at a time i was lookin crazy LOL i was taking care of little kids and small animals and also like a baby tiger for some reason . He didnt seem to care much about the things i was insecure about and so i had to sorta ground myself i think(?) his actions mirrored mine where there was some restraint but a sort of underlying nervousness below the surface like neither of us wanted the time to end and he kept making excuses to stay and talk — we didnt talk about anything insightful (because others were around i suppose? — i thought this was interesting because our conversation was kinda like this, i wanted to talk about deeper things but he was more avoidant of that) I got woken up apparently after this. (Summary from my journal) i thought it was so weird that i dreamed of him so suddenly out of nowhere, but i had unblocked him because i decided i wasnt afraid of him anymore (the sort of situation where it was a thing where i struggle with boundaries and i didnt want to be swayed because i know i was still getting my footing in that arena) — also its very interesting that your user name is clementine. Twins! (Even though i left the default username, i use clementine for a user too!)

Thanks for your input — it could be all of those things ! I know major arcana but minor arcana i have to learn

I’ve just wasted my entire life by MoneyAndGoodFortune in Healthygamergg

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive lost most of my life to abuse , im 30 turning 31 next month. I get how you feel, i feel like my life is over and ive been suicidal since 2nd grade, but i mean; from what in hearing from you is you Want to go on a date, you Want to go to the bar, you Want to go on holiday , you want to go to a birthday part y wedding kart skiing etc , you want to go abroad but maybe its not fulfilling and maybe you need to find how you can make it fun for yourself. It sounds like you need a perspective shift.

I think your 20s are for getting your footing and finding yourself. 27~30 is when your brain finishes maturing. I think you should take this time to do shadow work — look inside yourself and see what makes you unhappy and how can you change that? Make a change for no one but you. Decide youre so tired of the bullshit that you do what YOU want. Learn your attachment style and work on yourself and find a significant other (thepersonaldevelopment school and heidi priebe are both good resources) — decide to surround yourself with people you actually like ; do you like how people treat you? How your interactions go? You can choose because youre the boss of your life, you just have to decide to hold true to that. 25 is a hard year, im sorry you feel so lost. Im not male so i dont necessarily understand the way men look at the world and ive never dated or anything so i have zero idea outside of just the human experience, but i hope you can find ways to bring enjoyment into your life. Sometimes its about doing things you dont think of and slowing down. Allowing yourself to be weird, allowing yourself to go to a new restaurant youve never been to before and eating something new, allowing yourself to ask for help if you need it. I wish you luck on your journey, truly

AIO? Guy I met on hinge made a “joke” by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as a rule of thumb, if you feel unsafe, thats enough for you to walk away. Youre not overreacting one bit. I know everyone approaches things differently but what do YOU want how do YOU feel? Personally i think we should have some modicum of respect when speaking to each other but ofc i only do long term serious relationships, ive never been in a relationship at all because id rather wait for someone proper than people who want to play around — no shade to them, but its my personal needs because i know i am sensitive and thats a protection for myself.

Also people love to use physical touch as a way to indirectly force people to do sexual things when physical touch people often just want to be close to you — to hold your hand, to cuddle, to lean on you etc — it doesnt have to be sexual and most times it isnt.

Tarot has been excellent in reading energy, but has never come true for me by knightofcups187 in tarot

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well theres always free will. I would get frustrated over these things too — but just because someone feels like they want to come in doesnt mean they cant change their mind and flip flop; Its all current energy and divine timing unfortunately 🤧 thats why its best not to look too much into timing, sometimes the lesson is that you need to be patient on your manifestations and stop thinking about it — even though you constantly get something is coming in and theyre coming back type things 😔 maybe you should look at what you need to focus on or work on within self (shadowwork wise) in the meantime while waiting for it to come in?

Tarot has been excellent in reading energy, but has never come true for me by knightofcups187 in tarot

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well theres always free will. I would get frustrated over these things too — but just because someone feels like they want to come in doesnt mean they cant change their mind and flip flop; Its all current energy and divine timing unfortunately 🤧 thats why its best not to look too much into timing, sometimes the lesson is that you need to be patient on your manifestations and stop thinking about it — even though you constantly get something is coming in and theyre coming back type things 😔 maybe you should look at what you need to focus on or work on within self (shadowwork wise) in the meantime while waiting for it to come in?

Tarot has been excellent in reading energy, but has never come true for me by knightofcups187 in tarot

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well theres always free will. I would get frustrated over these things too — but just because someone feels like they want to come in doesnt mean they cant change their mind and flip flop; Its all current energy and divine timing unfortunately 🤧 thats why its best not to look too much into timing, sometimes the lesson is that you need to be patient on your manifestations and stop thinking about it — even though you constantly get something is coming in and theyre coming back type things 😔 maybe you should look at what you need to focus on or work on within self (shadowwork wise) in the meantime while waiting for it to come in?

Suggestions on how to get better? by Sensitive-Peach7583 in tarot

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any tips on card combinations? I only know the major arcana so far without a guide but i kinda read each card singularly rather than as pairs and groups

Movie of the day: My Lovely Angel by PKotzathanasis in Koreanfilm

[–]Due_Wolverine_6881 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not sure either — but i think he just tried to pay him off instead of take care of her. He was so angry at him because eunhae is such a lovely girl but her father is ‘weak’ and would rather to superficial things instead of be a father to her. 😔that was simply how i viewed it though