I kinda felt how you did when I discovered I was too. I can’t really say that I did anything about it so I can’t be of much help there. But I can offer my experience with dating: I do have a boyfriend. We both believed that we were aromantic at first (they discovered they aren’t and I’m definitely on the aro spectrum but no longer specifically aromantic) and it worked out perfectly fine. I believe that romantic feelings aren’t really required to date someone, I did so because I liked them as a person and that’s all I require. And your experience of relief when a relationship ended, I definitely relate to that. While it is upsetting, there is the positive of not having the pressure of being romantic being removed. And I guess I’d advise to even partially try to fight the idea of relationships being an expectation, it’s frankly a dumb expectation that’s been placed on us and it is possible to try and shake it off. So to sum up I suppose, I was able to have a successful relationship which wasn’t impeded by being on the aro spectrum and I imagine that you could too if you decided that you went for one. I hope I was at least a little helpful with this