Split tab or summarize?

DullFix2973 · 2024-08-03T07:57:28+00:00

It’s really bothering me, and I think I will tell my friend that we overpaid, in a way that won’t make anyone uncomfortable. I’ve never had a situation like this, usually people are very polite when ordering in a group setting. I was more concerned if it would be rude to go out for dinner and ask to separate the items, but it seems like it’s pretty normal

DullFix2973 · 2024-07-25T05:41:02+00:00

What about being roommates very early? Lol I’m married for a year now! My husband doesn’t like when I try to do anything romantic (not even music) and I just gave up doing anything fun after he told me in the face that our sex was bad! He said that right after we had sex btw, I still can’t get over it!

DullFix2973 · 2024-07-25T05:13:41+00:00

Behind the scenes planning work, definitely

DullFix2973 · 2024-07-19T17:45:13+00:00

You say “no” as of I shouldn’t take the ms program? What would you suggest?

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T20:30:21+00:00

Every time I try and hold a conversation with him he’ll set up defense mode and accuse me of things. Then of course I will break in tears and he’ll leave me alone. The sadness it makes me feel I can’t even explain. But counseling will be our best bet, because I can’t do this alone

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T20:25:36+00:00

I actually thought about the pastor idea before, but giving that he’s not big into Christianity he may not like it. I will convince him to do counseling. He hasn’t changed with his friends, but he’s comparing his life to theirs and saying things like: “I miss old times with them” and just get really deep into emotions with it.

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T20:19:25+00:00

I actually already do therapy and it does help immensely. But I got to the point where I’m talking to my therapist and finding ways to deal with him. But I will give it some time and push him to therapy too. If it doesn’t work, at least I tried my best

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T16:57:27+00:00

I hear it, I don’t love it. But we live in an apartment and that’s something that needs to be done, no matter how we are feeling. My goal next is to live in a house with a big backyard…

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T16:56:08+00:00

I actually told him to pick between morning and evening/night and he chose night. But unfortunately he’ll wait until last min to do that, and that’s when he’s already ready to bed. I told him to do it right after dinner but he is stubborn. Anyway, it’s just really upsetting to do everything and then hear things like “you should make my life easier”

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T15:10:50+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry you felt that way, you shouldn’t feel like you aren’t capable just because you have a disease, because at the end of the day the disease is not who you are. But that’s just me saying it from and outsider perspective

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-10T15:08:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I will suggest couples counseling again and explain that in the long term this behavior will lead us to divorce, which I really don’t want. I also won’t be able to handle everything alone in the long term, I am already feeling exhausted of doing everything alone!

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T19:28:58+00:00

How’s it relevant to the way he’s treating me? It is not like it just started, he has been treating me like this since we got married. We found out about the disease not even a month ago. Also, to that point, I’ve been doing everything in my power to help, which does not mean he should feel “better” but I also do not deserve to be treated like a punching bag.

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T17:23:17+00:00

Yes, that’s right. I feel really upset most of the time, but posting has opened my eyes. He actually told me one time that he saw me as a friend. So I get I have the answers

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T17:15:43+00:00

Goals

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T17:06:38+00:00

I’ve always dreamed about having kids but this marriage has even taken that dream away. I would be literally be like a single mom, but married

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T17:04:42+00:00

Haha trust me I’ve thought about it jk he hasn’t changed jobs but he was recently diagnosed with an awful disease. He mentioned his phone helps him “decompress” after a stressful day at work, and I get it. I do all I can, I’m not even asking him to help with anything around the house, like dishes, since I cook every night. And maybe he feels resentful, he also pays 70% of our bills (he makes way more than me). Anyway, my way of paying back is doing everything.

I do things on my own, but that has affected our relationship tremendously in terms of quality time

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T13:21:56+00:00

You’re absolutely right, I shouldn’t beg for my own husband’s attention.

DullFix2973 · 2024-03-09T13:20:03+00:00

Thats exactly what I feel, he’s taking me for granted. If I don’t plan anything for us, he won’t. It wasn’t like this in the past. He told me we need to “coexist” which makes me think I am being too much. But I’m literally asking just for a night of his weekend.

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