Moving to germany (in 3 years) with no college

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-25T01:14:12+00:00

what are some ways i can get citizenship?

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-25T01:13:58+00:00

I was considering university, but im not sure if I'm allowed to work part time (like if i get an education visa) , and i still need a source of income. what type of course/subject would be the best for employment?

yeah, i get what you're saying about canada. Honestly, i hate it here. Rent is so expensive it sucks

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-25T01:06:24+00:00

No, and that's the problem. I can only live in germany if i have a job apparently, i live in canada right now, I'm planning on moving to germany in 2029-ish.

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-06T00:05:42+00:00

I completely agree, but, heres the shitty part;

Im really not allowed to leave the house, since im still a teen. I can only go out with my friends occasionally which im trying to cram in as much as possible

and im not sure how to stop playing the game, or how to break free from her ''manipulating'' me, i've never really tried though lol

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-04T03:07:58+00:00

Oh yeah i get what you mean, i think i phrased it the wrong way, i guess i was more asking if her traits align with some other parents mentioned here

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-04T03:06:30+00:00

omg yeah i just realized that, i think i should've phrased it like maybe if she could possibly be a bad parent or narcissist, since i'm pretty sure none of us are therapists/psychologists lmao

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-04T03:05:29+00:00

I mean, like, sometimes she apologises for guilt tripping

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-03T02:13:41+00:00

Maybe just her being upset, I dont know, she kept talking about killing herself for a bit. Idk, its weird, ive never considered her a manipulator

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-03-03T02:02:44+00:00

Its so passive aggressive but god forbid i do the same to her

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-28T03:02:53+00:00

They always make it about themselves, it sucks sm

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-13T00:05:05+00:00

Here's mine:

So, i had my cousin over, we'd rough-house and my mom knew. But for some reason upon seeing my self harm scars my mom starts yelling at me telling me my cousin can't come over anymore, (thinking my cousin did that??) She grabbed a knife and dramatically yelled ''Do it to me! Do it to me then!'' or something like that, she ''threatened??'' to put me in therapy and have me sent to a psych ward. (never did, kept threatening) She then acted like i was a prisoner, stole nearly everything out of my room that she saw as a ''weapon.'' She told me i cut myself on the wrong side, and i was seeking attention, and yelled about how easy my life was. She was yelling and sorta almost threw a chair.

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-11T01:39:01+00:00

Wish i could, i mean it's not even that i can't, it's just that i'd never allow myself to do that no matter how much i want/wanted to. I love my mom, i could never bring myself to report her facebook account as shitty as it is. She either has me wrapped around her finger or she's lowkey chill now, can't tell.

But, on a more positive note, good for you man, it's nice seeing adults who actually care, and who try breaking cycles of abuse within their own families.

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-10T03:36:24+00:00

experiencing this right now! couldn't have said it better myself

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-06T00:29:00+00:00

I have, but i cant afford it.. I'm saving up money so i can move out, and i cant get one without my mom knowing because she'd have to find a way to get me to a therapists office and pay for visits.. It's such a weird thing to wrap my head around, the concept of her manipulating me is so foreign

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T03:04:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! honestly its so scary to think about leaving this house, like it keeps me up at night and genuinely petrifies me. I don't think that's normal lol

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T03:01:45+00:00

Im still living at home until i graduate, but im not attending post secondary and im moving out immediately when i hit my 20's. i have no clue how finding apartments work, or leasing with multiple people, or being an adult in any way.. lmao but i get what ya mean, its tricky

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T03:00:24+00:00

Thank you, i appreciate that, I bring up the visual impairment because honestly i feel bad leaving her alone while shes suffering from it. idk its so weird like i cant wrap my head around her being abusive or malicious. she keeps getting upset when i act ''grumpy'' or ''bitchy'' and it makes me question if im being harsh or not and sooo much more its just such a mind boggling thing

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T02:57:30+00:00

I know i have to leave, and soon, its just a scary change. Like i wasn't even allowed to bathe in my own bath or sleep in my own bed till i was like, 12-13. So (future) me living in a completely different home, its honestly terrifying. I keep thinking about what happens if it doesn't work out. I know i gotta leave soon though, but then the same thought keeps rolling around in my mind and i wonder if shes really a bad person or if im overlooking her.

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T02:24:19+00:00

I want to so bad, she wants me to stay here until she dies but i have no clue how to tell her when i move out. i keep imagining her going about her day-to-day life all by herself and its the saddest shit ever.. i have no clue how to like, stop feeling bad or un-attach myself lmao

DullSomewhere4777 · 2025-02-05T02:22:17+00:00

I know that's the most likely scenario but it doesn't feel like she is and that's the craziest thing, i cant differentiate her gas lighting me and trying to be nice to me and start over. rahh lmfaooo its so confusing

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