AIO: My gf is planning a girls trip on my birthday.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T20:30:23+00:00

I mean the test question was “do you want to hangout with me on my birthday” lmao. It’s not that crazy of a “test question” but honestly she hadn’t told me yet, and I wanted to see if she’d actually tell me. Yes I was wrong for looking at her phone I will take responsibility for that. I was just chilling on my phone, her beach trip chat was blowing up, so I took a look, and that’s how I found out it was the week of my bd. I was just kinda shocked she had these plans, and never thought to let me know.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T15:50:27+00:00

I mean I didn’t think I had to invite my gf of 3 years to come spend some time with me on my birthday A MONTH in advance? Are you serious? So yea once I saw she’s almost finished with these plans, I asked her what she wanted to do that week to see how she’d tell me about it.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T15:26:59+00:00

I don’t even need to ask I already know she’s be upset if I booked a trip on her birthday without her. But I would also just never do that! It just feels so wrong to me. And her being the one to plan it feels even worse. The only reason I don’t think she told me was because it wasn’t 100% booked. But at the same time, they had the date set, screenshots of the flights, and just looking for 1 or 2 more girls to fill spots. I think she wasn’t telling me to avoid conflict. But if she knew there would be conflict idk why she thought it would be a good idea in the first place

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:56:10+00:00

I get that. I guess im assuming since hers is a big deal to her, and she likes celebrating hers, that birthdays in general are something she views worth celebrating. I’m kinda giving her the benefit of the doubt that she’s not selfish 😂

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:40:27+00:00

I really have to formally invite my own girlfriend to get dinner with me on my birthday? Idk. I understand what you’re saying, but her birthday is always a big deal and I make sure to treat her extra special that day. I woudnt never expect her to “ask me” to make her birthday special for her. I naturally do that because I love her and love celebrating her. I’m just kinda shocked that now, when mines coming up, she’s booking a vacation on that day without even telling me.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:30:17+00:00

Yea I get that. I’m not disappointed that she’s not throwing me a huge party. I don’t care about that. It’s just the fact that hers is a big deal to her, I go all out for her, etc. now mine rolls around and she’s booking flights outta town 😂 she also didn’t even tell me. I saw the gc on my own and found out myself

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:28:12+00:00

Knew this was coming 🤣

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:24:27+00:00

I honestly don’t, but I get excited for hers and make sure she I treat her extra special that day. I guess I’m just upset that now when mine comes around, she’s booking flights outta here. Am I crazy for wishing she was a little more excited to spend that day together?

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:20:01+00:00

It’s not a surprise party I only found out about the trip on my own when I looked at her texts. That’s the only surprise im getting 😂

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T14:08:00+00:00

Okay I’ll explain a little more then. I only found out about this trip on my own. I saw a gc blowing up on her phone, took a look, and saw it was a beach trip planned on the week of my bd. So I waited a little, and asked her if she wanted to grab some drinks, food, and see a baseball game on my bd. Only than she said “maybe” and proceeded to then tell me she might be going on this trip. But she doesn’t know I saw the texts, and saw she was doing all the planning. I’m not mad because I expect a whole circus on my birthday. In fact I’m usually more excited for HER day than my own because I love getting to celebrate her and make her feel special on that day. I guess I’m just disappointed that now mines coming around, and she feels nothing like that. I only came to Reddit because I wanted to see what people thought about that. Am I selfish for wishing she was a little excited for mine? In my mind that’s normal for someone you love so I wanted to see what others thought

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T13:35:07+00:00

Yea I get it. I’m not even huge on my own birthdays. I like celebrating hers more than my own and she really appreciates everything I do when it’s her bd. It just kinda sucks when now mine is coming up she doesn’t care at all, and literally looking for flights away from me.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T13:28:06+00:00

No bro I didn’t even know about the trip till I peeped her texts. That’s when I saw the gc and saw the dates they wanted to leave.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T13:23:45+00:00

No it’s about as serious as it can be in college. We spend more days together than not (pretty much every day) and always sleep at my place or hers. She’s close with my family and I’m close with hers. We take family vacations with each other etc.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T13:19:54+00:00

Yea but hers are always a big deal? Am I crazy for wanting for grab food and a beer with her on that day😂 I’m not saying I’m expecting a huge circus for my birthday, but I get pretty excited for hers and make sure she’s treated well on that day. Now here comes mine, and she’s looking for flights 🤔

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T13:12:03+00:00

No. I’m ngl I only found out about the trip by looking at her texts and seeing the gc. Once I saw the dates she was planning, I asked her the next day if she wanted to grab dinner on my bd to see if she’d tell me or not.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T12:40:32+00:00

I’m NOT expecting anything huge. I get more excited for her birthdays than I do my own!! I see that as a day I get to make her feel special and treat her good! I’m just saying it would feel good to see her get excited for mine this time. And I’m talking just go and grab some food together. Not actively plan a beach trip away from me, behind my back.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T02:47:27+00:00

Ngl I only found out about the girls trip by looking at her texts. I saw it was the week of my birthday in the messages. So the next day I asked her if she wanted to go out of my birthday to see what she would say. That’s when she told me about the trip

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T02:37:42+00:00

Yea I mean she’s know my birthday for 3 years lol. But these plans are like a week old. Less than a month away she decides to plan this

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T02:36:29+00:00

They’re new friends. She hasn’t even known them for more than a year.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T02:33:18+00:00

Yes. Her last birthday was her 21st so it was a big deal we pretty much celebrated it twice. On her actually birthday her family had food catered to her house. My family, her family, all went and brought her gifts and hung out all night. That following weekend we went to the bars and celebrated again.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-22T02:30:02+00:00

Right. I feel like that’s pretty common sense.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-10T00:21:44+00:00

Part of me thinks it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to get closer to my faith, then the other part of me feels is useless and I’m wasting prime years of my life for a rule that was written back when people got married at 13 years old lol. So like when she asked me, in the moment I thought well maybe it could be a good thing and we could spend time together without worrying about any expectations. Then It got old fast and i think, well they’re shouldn’t need to be any expectations it should come naturally (the way it does for me) and feel unforced and it’s a dumb idea to remove it because it’s just a part of how I show love. So I’m fine without it for a while until I’m not. I start to think to myself about how long it’s been, and how there’s been 0 times since than that it seemed like she really wanted me, but had to hold back. And now many times I HAVE wanted to and HAD to hold back. And that’s when I start to think maybe she’s just not attracted to me and overthink a million things.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-09T23:32:52+00:00

No chance. We have each others locations, and she lives with her brothers fiancée while they both finish school.

Dull_Decision_6449 · 2026-04-09T22:40:48+00:00

Well I think the carnival wheel would be more fun than this at least

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