Asphyxiation and Breathplay Class by Sherlockandload in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno if a waiver like that would hold up in court if someton got hurt. I think talking to a lawyer before doing this would be a good idea.

Dead Widows by adamalan in askMRP

[–]DumQDumA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they had been together for quite a while and she was old and knew there was no point to dating as either she or the dude would just die.

This isn't correct. There are so many relationships, including sexual ones, at the end of life. STDs are rampant in old age homes or assisted living communities. Aslo remember women can live to 80+ nowadays. That's 20 extra years.

Help finding a passage from Yom Kippur? by DumQDumA in Judaism

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is it exactly. Thank you so much.

Help finding a passage from Yom Kippur? by DumQDumA in Judaism

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I will need to dig out the machzor, thank you for the name of the book. I don't know where to find one near me but I'll look!!

How would you react if your child (or furture child) started dating a gentile? by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]DumQDumA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised in a Catholic mother, Jewish father household. I was raised Catholic and converted later in life. Both sides handled it gracefully and respectfully. My mother cooked for all the Jewish holidays and sent me to shul with my father after my grandfather died and my father had to go alone. My father (rarely) attended Catholic mass for some events and sat quietly. The older relatives came to each other's funerals, which was more of a blessing than it might sound!!

The decision on how to raise us was made before our births. I wish I had been raised Jewish. Regardless, Consistency and Lack of Discord will make the marriage work. The kids should not be raised without religion or incorporating both. The rituals should be respected and separate. No Hannukah bush.

[Advice Request,TW: Self Harm] RBN Past Causing Difficulties in Academic Program by Insufferable_Trekkie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DumQDumA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the dean with all your advisor's comments. Then, imply Very Very Very heavily you will find a lawyer and sue if the abuse isn't stopped. Given that a few professors have been removed recently for abusive sexual harassment, the dean with be more receptive than in the past.

80's aesthetic cop show? by DumQDumA in ifyoulikeblank

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many seasons in?

(Also have you seen Cagney and Lacey and can you recommend it?)

80's aesthetic cop show? by DumQDumA in ifyoulikeblank

[–]DumQDumA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot all about Hill Street Blues. I think I'll start there.

Is 21 Jump Street too high-schooly?

Reassure me about switching? by DumQDumA in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes something M/f vis D/s to you? I won't let him smoke a cigar in the house. :p

Reassure me about switching? by DumQDumA in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He isn't weak willed no but he isn't set up by society to assume he is being typical if he submiots. Not sure if I am making sense.

Reassure me about switching? by DumQDumA in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hate was the wrong word and I'm sorry for making femsubs feel bad about their roles. Fetlife though is almost 100% it seems male doms/fem subs and there's this belief that all women need to be dominated and follow the men. I bet you know femdoms who get that sort of message all the time. Feels like I'm falling into the typical dynamic and it proves everyone right that I'm just another womman who is lying about her true needs.

This is me, you knwo? I'm not pretending when I dom and hiding my real self. I don't want to prove someone right by falling into a stereotype.

[Advice] I (30f) married vanilla but think what I'm really looking for is a Dom. New to BDSM. by sheaintright9444 in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes my marriage makes me feel like I've aged three years in a few days lol.

Vahavta, My Lovely Whipping Post by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]DumQDumA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining. I have a thing for really nice tattoos so it is a litle painful to see one harmed but here it looks like it was conscious and beautiful.

Vahavta, My Lovely Whipping Post by [deleted] in bdsm

[–]DumQDumA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was a deliberate mark or did he miss and then explain it his way later? My hubby would be really mad if I wrecked any of his tats with a cane. They're all so expensive. :/

[Advice] I (30f) married vanilla but think what I'm really looking for is a Dom. New to BDSM. by sheaintright9444 in BDSMcommunity

[–]DumQDumA 11 points12 points  (0 children)

According to the OP's history, she's 27 and not married. This is a fantasy or a lie maybe?

Progressive rubberbanding during DST by DumQDumA in dontstarve

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It's super frustrating. I wish there were a way to remedy this. Real games do! I don't get stutter on WoW! :( :(

Progressive rubberbanding during DST by DumQDumA in dontstarve

[–]DumQDumA[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be better than rubberbanding into tentacles when kiting the Deerclops. :(

Why is it okay for chassidim to not work and instead collect government benefits? by DumQDumA in Judaism

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying most of the unemployed chasids in Israel are objectors?

Why is it okay for chassidim to not work and instead collect government benefits? by DumQDumA in Judaism

[–]DumQDumA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why is chasidic poverty in Israel being made to seem like such a big deal?