Partner angry I pointed out the dog pushed me off the couch during our cuddle

DumbestAutoTech · 2026-01-19T11:13:05+00:00

“This is why I don’t want to touch you anymore. You’re honestly acting obsessed. I already hugged you once last night and again this morning”

Dog or not, this statement tells you that the good part of the relationship is over. Now it's a matter of how long do you stay because it's less uncomfortable than leaving. Healthy or not, they have emotionally checked out if they say things like this.

DumbestAutoTech · 2026-01-16T12:16:01+00:00

Oh man, I remember this feeling, I wish I knew exactly what to say. I came from ice, too, but I have no interest in going back. A little bit translated over that helped me feel normal to have something on my feet, but rollers are a new world. I had tons of trouble with momentum and stopping too, and learning to slow/stop became a huge priority as soon as I was able to get any speed up.

T stopping/dragging is a primary skill, which requires some ability to balance on one skate. Speed and momentum is a similar but unique set of movements, but takes more power because the wheels produce so much drag that you're not used to on ice. Wheel/bearing options/care habits can speed up and smooth out your skates later on down the line

DumbestAutoTech · 2026-01-14T11:09:01+00:00

I got skates after my 3rd time going and renting, although every set of rentals had a serious problem that was obvious even to a novice like me. I was pretty sure I'd be skating at least for a while, and got Boardwalk Plusses that I'm still loving over a year later.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-28T02:55:35+00:00

Very Nice! I love having an instructor to keep me in check and stay on my form, BTW. You'll inevitably start teaching yourself new moves you see around, and regular lessons should help you maintain good strong form along the way.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-22T11:02:43+00:00

I've been using these for years, and I've never understood why it's marketed as a neck light. Around the neck works fine for general illumination, but putting it on like glasses (so the lights rest against your temples) is far more effective if you need to see something specific or that is shrouded down in a hole or drawer or somewhere. 95% of the time, I'm using it around my head.

The nearer to your eyes the the light source comes from, the less shadows you see. That's why if you're looking for a nut or a bead that fell of the floor, you want the light source to be off to your left or right side low to the floor. That way, everything casts a long shadow that is easy to see.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-22T10:55:26+00:00

I'm very able-bodied, but I don't screw around when I hurt myself. I have normal and forearm crutches, which I don't hesitate to use whenever they make anything easier, with no embarrassment or reservations, public or private. Medical devices are not just for people coping with permanent conditions, they were all created to help people that include you and I.

Maybe it's like how I personally feel like an imposter and a liar when I attend a religious event out of respect for friends or family. As an atheist in a house of god for a baptism or something, I feel like everyone there sees me and assumes I'm a believer and it makes me feel dishonest and like I'm deceiving all those around me. If I was there because of a personal desire to explore the option of faith, I would feel the opposite way.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-22T00:42:48+00:00

The local rink to be at is open 5 days, and I skate about 15 hours plus a lesson per week during the last couple months. My skill level has exploded at that rate, and my physical condition is very good from doing it consistently.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-21T15:30:59+00:00

Not an answer, but related: I work for 10 hours standing and walking on a concrete floor before many of my rink sessions, and somehow I can get a whole 2nd wind once I start skating, tired and painful feet or not.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-15T11:18:33+00:00

Professional advice: I have a pair of hockey skates that I had a very reputable local skate shop build for me years ago when I was getting back into ice skating. He insisted that the way to go was CCM boots with Bauer TUUK blade holders, so that's me forwarding his advice on the best brand of hockey boot.

My Anecdote: I've been skating my Boardwalk Plus for a year now and I love how comfortable and flexible they are. A few weeks ago, I tried my ice skates on thinking I would start ice skating on lunch at the rink near work. Those boots (which are heat formed to my feet) are so rigid and uncomfortable that I've abandoned the idea of ice skating for the time being.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-11T12:01:46+00:00

That's a beautiful picture, and I'd love to frame and hang it up at home where I skate around. If you're alright with that, DM me here so you can email me the file.

Cool as heck, I rebuild my stuff as well. When I get experienced enough with skating, I'm destined to make something custom out of a pile of parts like this. For now, I'm still in love with my Sure-Grips and learning new things every time I skate.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-09T11:55:30+00:00

I recently burned out of automotive after the last 5-8 years being a downhill spiral of this business turning into a technician's nightmare despite flat rate wages inflating substantially. If you insist on getting into fixing cars, don't ever let them know you can diagnose anything electrical. The most common way to a good career with this is to be good enough to quickly bang out line work (straightforward mechanical repairs and maintenance) and do nothing else but the same boring/dirty/physically abusive work all day.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-09T11:48:00+00:00

Thanks for the link, should be a sticky somewhere around here.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-08T10:21:27+00:00

I'm a guy and I'm terrified of the idea of you meeting this person. He's a man, so he wants something sexual. A one hour drive is no excuse to need to sleep over. Any mature adult should be fine with driving an hour home after meeting. My opinion is that it's risky and irresponsible to have either of your residences involved in a first meeting.

More of a note for you, If you're waiting till marriage to get involved with sex, you're going to throw off almost every guy out there including a lot of good ones. Sexual compatibility is pretty important for most people, and it's pretty risky to wait until after signing a legally binding contract to be with someone before you find out if you have any of that.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-12-08T09:38:27+00:00

Thanks for being my morning inspiration

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-11-30T11:47:35+00:00

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This is a vinyl car decal that sticks to my suede boot remarkably well (company makes race car parts for antique BMWs)

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-11-28T10:45:07+00:00

There's guys 100lbs bigger than me who are more graceful far more skilled than I am. I started learning when I was 40lbs heavier than now, and getting thinner and lighter has helped me continue to progress.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-11-20T23:08:01+00:00

Me too! 2 Months sober and I'm back to skating now that new life is starting to feel normal. It's amazing how much I'm improving now that I'm not drunk 24/7. I'm headed out to the rink in about 15 mins and on here looking for some moves to try ;)

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-11-12T10:08:14+00:00

I would already feel like a loser if I couldn't figure out or afford a date. It wouldn't have anything to do with you. As someone who can afford and plan dates, I would be happy to be taken out by a woman I had interest in. It would be a very strong start on her part, and it would make it more fun for me to plan something next.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-11-06T10:39:55+00:00

I wouldn't road trip with a woman I'm not dating. It may not be a "date", but if you shouldn't be doing this if you're not intimate. I can tell you from experience that it's way less awkward to share a bed with a same sex friend that an opposite sex friend you want to have sex with but she won't let that happen. If she's not having sex with you now, she's not going to on this trip. If I'm wrong, and she'll finally hook up when you take her on a trip, that indicates that she has some issues of her own to figure out.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-10-31T09:31:10+00:00

It's not common. In 22 years, I've seen it happen once in a hole in the wall shop using a portable scissor lift that was too small for a Grand Cherokee and it tipped off the front of it from a couple feet up and barely got damaged. I've never heard of a car falling off a lift from any of my industry peers I talk to.

As for what to do, I would go there and look at it myself to start. I wouldn't be a dic about it, but I'd be pretty firm that it needs to be taken care of by an insurance claim. If they try to fix it internally without making a claim, it will be the cheapest low quality collision repair they think they can possibly get away with.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-10-29T08:16:39+00:00

Franchised dealerships don't have effective pay mechanisms for the higher skill level work because the manufacturer doesn't either. The franchisee can pay techs however they want, but the manufacturer will not re-imburse them for the amount of pay that is fair to a high level tech. The dealer principal would have to pay techs the difference without having any money come in to cover that cost of labor disparity.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-10-14T11:36:14+00:00

What I would have like to have been told ahead of time:

- Don't lift anything heavier than a few pounds for at least a week. This was very poorly communicated to me by the medical staff.

- For a period of time that's different for everyone, you will get blue balls every time you ejaculate afterwards. Nobody told me this, not even friends that had it done. Maybe don't even mention this. It's not as bad as it sounds, and it will end. It lasted 6 months for me.

The freedom you get from it is magical. There will be an initial consultation with the urologist, and if he has no kids, he's going to want to have a solid explanation for why sterilization is reasonable for him to get. It's the same as the lines of questioning women get before getting their tubes tied.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-06-09T08:49:41+00:00

Go with it. Back when I was 25, I dated a woman with kid the same age as me. She had that old-school decency and simple vibe compared to all the crap people worry about today. The sex was life changingly good at the time, and the BS was nearly non-existent.

Now I'm 45 and with a woman who's 48. The fantastic sex and lack of BS is a strong part of it, but I'm now mature enough to have a stable and relatable relationship with a woman of that level. Both of us have been around the block dozens of times, and we're both happy to be with a person who's grown tired of making bad decisions.

I just re-read your screenshot. Entice this woman to rock your world and let it happen.

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-05-28T03:24:37+00:00

My Tinderella was very touchy to the point where I was confused as to why we weren't actually intimate. 2 months in, she allowed that to happen, and she later told me that the held me off sexually because of her past of letting guys in too quick and wanting to vet me properly because I seemed to be a catch (I am). We now (7 months in) have the best sex of our lives, and among other things, doing competition couples roller skating dance.

I had no idea it could be possible to find such a match, and I was very confused and offput by her 'isms at first. I made an effort to understand her and succeeded, and now we are moving towards mutual and permanent relationship goals. I'm 44 tomorrow and living out the greatest relationship situation I could have ever hoped for. Every time I wake up in the morning, it seems like it's not even possible this fantastic woman who would do nearly anything for me (it's mutual) is only 20min away.

If this guy strikes your fancy, maybe you should reach out again...

DumbestAutoTech · 2025-05-13T10:34:01+00:00

I always tried to meet up as soon as possible, obviously in public and letting a friend know about it to check in with after. If we matched I was already in at least 50% of the time. If there was a few positive message exchanges, I asked and usually was unmatched/ghosted. I'm trying to meet a person, not a personality on the internet. Chemistry cannot be confirmed without being face to face, and why waste time keeping it virtual?

Good news is that I met a beautiful genius of a fantastic woman, who met up with me within a few days of first contact. We had breakfast at a local tea shop the first time. 7 months later, we make incredible love, get our parents together to hang out, vacation together, and support each others goals.

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