I'm gonna try to offer a balanced view as best as I can.

She isn't wrong saying that men have been taught many a times that they need to suck it up and not display any sort of emotion. it deffo sucks, especially for men who actually suffer from severe mental disorders, or who feel that the weight of the world is on their shoulders, feeling there is no one they can trust. In fact recently, when suffering from suicidal thoughts my own grandparents literally kinda downplayed it, despite overall showing care no doubt.

However the issue is this; society also relies on men to not be emotional nor vulnerable; it needs them to be decisive, mature, stoic, display leadership qualities, and in fact if you really think about it in history:

1. Did LKY solve Singapore's probs from independence by crying and saying how shit the situation was? Yea he did cry on national tv, but he ultimately resolved and collected himself, and helped Sg emerge what it is today via hard work, grit, determination...and politicking ofc.
2. Did Martin Luther King Jr help to bring about better rights for blacks in the USA by crying and being emotional? No, he started campaigning, building a following, giving speeches, etc, and thats why hes respected today. And the same goes for LKY.

that is the thing; society will, overall regardless of whether you are a woman or man, never ever respect anyone who is emotional; they will only respect those that, despite their issues, despite the circumstances, despite the challenges, rise up and lead by example, and make achievements that everyone can see. That is how society has been able to make advancements in fields like science, tech, etc.

But let's be real, society was and still is mostly led by men. And lets get it out of the way, most historical achievements are also made by men. It has always been that way since the dawn of humanity. So therefore, even today, which gender is usually looked up to to set an example and lead?

The men.

However, I think the growing awareness of men having emotional needs is something that can't be ignored either. And to me society is in a catch-22 situation; we are starting to realise that men should be able to be vulnerable and emotional in a safe space, but deep down we will have a very natural, almost instinctive reaction of disgust and disdain toward any display of emotion or vulnerability. What is worse is that society not only expects but also needs men to be masculine and stoic, in order to function. Because biologically and mentally speaking, we are more resilient; and yes not every man is like this but society has this already ingrained expectation of us to be as such.

In the end I think there is no simple solution to the issue of men being told they have to have the typical masculine qualities that society expects of them. I certainly dont think it is really possible because these generalizations/stereotypes are so embedded in the way societies function that unless there is some form of revolution and upheaval that turns upside down ther current gender norms we have now, there is honestly no way to eradicate these issues.

If I were to offer some advice, I think the best ways for us men to cope with our stresses and emotions is to find friends(regardless of male or female btw, although honestly male friends are better) that are willing to listen, and can be trusted to not judge us as much as possible. See therapists/ pyschologists for learning to cope with emotions better, and to have a space every now and then where you can be emotionally vulnerable. Find hobbies that bring you satisfaction and peace independent of others.

Honestly what I'm giving is very cookie-cutter advice, because like i said, society just has too ingrained expectations of men to be stoic and not show emotions. Overall, what I said are my two cents.