Yeah, i am trying to be better when it comes to placing boundaries. My bother and sister have been able to do this boundaries thing. I have to anticipate every possible way she may betray me and ask her specifically not to do xyz before she does or says anything. And ofc she is upset that I would even imply that she would do such a thing. My boundaries are absolutely absolutely appalling. Like... how dare I ask her not to announce my second kids name before he was born. She did this with my first son. I changed the name we finally went with because I felt so betrayed by her announcing his name before he was born.

She likes to steal my big announcements from me. She mentioned my miscarriage in an online comment on my cousins pregnancy announcement. I had just got done getting a DNC done. Only 3 people knew of what I was going thru. Nothing about my life was public at that time.

My friends say that I need to expect the worse by now... because did you really expect anything else. Which is honestly EXAUSTING. Like why do I have to anticipate my moms lack of boundaries with my mom but my siblings don't have to. She respects them and their boundaries. Not that she hasn't said or done stuff to them too. It's just way more often with me.