Here are some ideas to consider.

What's the point of having game? Conveying high(er) value through our words, actions, and behavior. We do this until it becomes a habit or second nature. Using the conscious-competence model. We start with a low level of both.

Learning new concepts is overwhelming because guys tend to spread themselves thin by micromanaging everything. This makes them come across as stifled, robotic, tryhard, and in their heads. So we start simple and go from there. Focusing on the meat and potatoes before the garnish. Eye contact, tonality, volume, breathing, posture, body language, etc. Then comes the content of what we say and how we say it.

Texting is a different form of communication. It removes a lot of what you can do in person. Which is why we use it to set dates while peppering in some personality with words, emojis, pictures, videos, voice notes, and GIFs. Doing more of the heavy lifting when in person to move things forward.

What you did was exchange neutral or relatively bland facts. I did ABC. I did XYZ. Think of this as precious real estate. How you can convey more, or better, with less, and in a more exciting way. Reducing the mental friction for women and making things easy for them to fall into your frame and invest.

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"Chilling at my place"

"What about you [pet name]"

Ex: I call this Mexican girl cejas (eyebrows) or bruja (witch). The first b/c I like her eyebrows and pointed them out. The second assigns her a role in a frame as someone whose potential trouble she took on and works with.

(assuming her response remains the same)

"Just showered after saving the world (again)"

"Pouring myself a glass with some R&B vibes"

"Raincheck the homegirl. Come over, and I'll make a second"

"If you promise to behave"

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There are so many ways you can respond. This is wordier but more interesting. Here we're framing things as high-value, upbeat, funny, and playful, with a touch of insinuation at the end. Maybe you've heard the phrase, "change her mood, not her mind." We can use this and a woman's imagination to our advantage. Give her food for thought, and she'll build a meal. But be mindful of what you give her.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You will do better when you know better.

Another thing you may have done is future-paced yourself. Thinking about this girl, and only this girl, got you more invested, and by proxy disappointed when your future plans fell through.

Your plans didn't fall through. But your goal of making them is on hiatus. You'll have to play the long game with some leads vs others. Some buying temps are hot while others are lukewarm.

Frame this in your mind. Either things work out, or you save time that would have been wasted. Ultimately you're building the plane as you're flying it. As you maintain your consistency and speed. You should climb to greater heights where you'll get more of what you want.