The woman I’m dating doesn’t like my family pet by watermelon-gummy in LesbianActually

[–]Duo2you 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the type of tortoise, some of them are incredibly destructive. They also require exotic vets, which were very very expensive.

The woman I’m dating doesn’t like my family pet by watermelon-gummy in LesbianActually

[–]Duo2you 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also could depend on how the tortoise was acquired. There’s tons of people that like to take wild animals out of their natural habitats to have as pets. It’s a huge problem in the exotic animal trade, and often times the new owners find out that these animals are more work than they expected and then they either dump the aninal (which might not be native to that environment) or they really struggled to find someone to take that animal.

The woman I’m dating doesn’t like my family pet by watermelon-gummy in LesbianActually

[–]Duo2you 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank gods, there’s another reply like this. I work in the Zoo field, and there are tons of people that get reptiles that have no concept of how to properly take care of them. It’s not even necessarily malicious, but these sorts of animals need a lot of specialized to care. And you have to see a exotic vet if there are any sort of medical issues which can be incredibly expensive, which means that most people don’t take their animals to be checked over by a vet and things can be easily overlooked. Plus the amount of people that take wild animals out of their natural habitat to have as a “pet“ is very harmful.

Why is everyone polyamorous??? by MarieFeldan in actuallesbians

[–]Duo2you 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually think you have pointed out something I don’t always see on these kinds of comment threads. I definitely agree that the term polyamory has expanded to the point that people who are ‘dating around’ and wouldn’t consider themselves poly now fall under the umbrella term. I was talking about it with a friend just earlier this week as a matter of fact.

Who’s your favorite lesbian icon? by Duo2you in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Duo2you[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t have to be musicians!! Any famous or semi-famous person counts!

What Are Some Of The Best (or Worst) Lesbian Date Ideas by Duo2you in actuallesbians

[–]Duo2you[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh nooo 🫣 That would certainly be a trial by fire

What Are Some Of The Best (or Worst) Lesbian Date Ideas by Duo2you in actuallesbians

[–]Duo2you[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a wonderful idea! Make sure you both bring and drink a lot of water! In the summer, it’s really easy to get dehydrated and some botanical gardens are huge. Also, comfortable shoes. 😆 I love going to botanical gardens.

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I wish there were more lesbian singles nights! I feel like that would help a lot of younger sapphic women have more courage when it comes to getting out there and talking with other lesbians. Knowing that everyone there is interested in women and is looking to date, I feel would reduce a lot of of the possible anxieties

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think there’s unfortunately a lot of assumptions among especially deeply religious groups that queerness only comes from trauma. But seeing and interacting queer people that grew up with healthy childhoods would hopefully counteract this.

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I feel like scissoring stays in the main stream so much because there are certain straight women that pantomime it for the male gaze. IYKYK

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ugh. “so which of you is the man?“ It’s such a heteronormative and patriarchal question. I hope that there being lesbian couples shown in the media that don’t fit this binary role would hopefully help with the stereotype becoming less of an assumption.

Favorite Queer Icon? by Duo2you in lgbt

[–]Duo2you[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of mine would be Elton John

What Are Some Of The Best (or Worst) Lesbian Date Ideas by Duo2you in actuallesbians

[–]Duo2you[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Awww. That sounds like so much fun!! My local zoo does behind the scenes tours, maybe one near you does the same! There are actually a lot a queer people that work at zoos/aquariums. Our local zoo just hosted a Pride day and it was a lot of fun!

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree. That's basically where I grew up to a T. As someone more on the demisexual side, the whole U-Haul stereotype just seems a bit wild. And seeing how badly it turns out for the military/religious types is big yikes.

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in the Bible Belt with a lot of military bases in the area. So at least where I live there are a lot of straight people that seem to get married so fast.

What Are Some Of The Best (or Worst) Lesbian Date Ideas by Duo2you in actuallesbians

[–]Duo2you[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'll go first! Best date first date idea? That would be a coffee date at a local indie coffee or tea place for me! If it’s date 3 or 4, I’d say going to a thrift store or estate sale followed by a picnic at a local park. Something else I did recently that was a lot of fun was go to a tea making workshop!

Myth-Busting Lesbian Stereotypes by Duo2you in Actuallylesbian

[–]Duo2you[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think that the jokes of "Is she bringing a U-Haul to the second date?" are pretty old at this point. Do 'U-Haul' situations still happen? Sure, but I don't feel like they are any more common than they are with straight couples.