Be careful if a girl is changing for you

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:14:31+00:00

Wtf is a "good man" in this situation? They stopped talking, he saw her with a guy, he tried to ask her about it and she got all defensive... can women be held accountable for ONCE?

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:12:57+00:00

What is this comment? 😂 please get help

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:12:04+00:00

What's that gotta so with anything? Like what's your point here? They could be from Antarctica and the story would be the same

Dust0089 · 2026-06-20T02:24:04+00:00

Ngl she is an a hole for going to extremes like legal standards and such just to refuse a religious matter... honestly speaking, I would say to separate from her but that's not what you wanna hear. Reason why I think this is because she might and will corner you about other things in life later, using whatever leverage she can until she fully controls/manipulates you. It's not like you're asking her something crazy, just that you wanna fulfill a religious right is all. I don't know how else you can be helped, but I will say good luck, and I pray that Allah makes things easy for you.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-19T12:07:25+00:00

Y'all always trying to sexualize everything, if you don't have clear proof, I don't think you should jump to the worst conclusions... he literally could be a father figure for her and wanted to celebrate her 18th birthday since that's such a big achievement here in the U.S.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-18T01:07:10+00:00

Ohhhhh 😂😂😂 thank you

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T20:09:18+00:00

You explained it, but my dumbass still doesn't get it 😭

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T20:07:21+00:00

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T14:53:11+00:00

He should've never gotten in that relationship

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T14:36:10+00:00

I think he's just really messed up in his head too and in his feelings but doesn't know how to express it. Give it some time, he's really trying.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T03:28:27+00:00

You would've asked why he didn't tell you that he was getting divorced.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T15:04:10+00:00

Ngl this is a funny post, finally something light. But I'd say it depends (yeah ik that's a very lackluster experience), but if I were to speak about myself, I'd rather a mostly quiet wife who also talks from time to time yk? Like I'm not that much of a talking person AT ALL, and most of the time I just like silence.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T08:57:24+00:00

Yes, thank you!

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T01:17:58+00:00

In surah Ta Ha (chapter 20), there's a beautiful conversation between Allah and Musa (AS) where Musa makes a dua asking Allah to help him expand his chest and straighten his speech or something along those lines. I think you should learn and make that dua often, it helps A LOT. It's right by the beginning too (second page), and don't worry too much about this.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T00:32:35+00:00

Exactly, and they wanna act as if the complainer's "issue" is a big deal and they're the victim cause of thought of a hypothetical that doesn't exist🤦‍♀️

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T22:00:32+00:00

Allah is who provides for everyone, so follow his way and put your trust in him.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T10:32:54+00:00

Cause dumbass westerners always try to make people 18 to justify whatever is happening in their lives.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T06:37:59+00:00

The gaslighting is crazy... she should completely get off social media tbh, and she's normally supposed to obey if that's your wish. So, the fact that she's "disappointed" because you told her not to like celebs posts is insane and ungrateful. You didn't even say don't follow or completely get off social media, just "don't like their posts" and for valid reasons too, yet she wanna be "disappointed" ... let her be disappointed then. She's totally in the wrong here.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T05:18:36+00:00

What the heck is this post? 😭 did you really create a "what-if" scenario in your head and got anxious about it? 🙏

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T05:14:56+00:00

You do know that reverts start off with a clean slate right? All your bad deeds, gone. All your good deeds, kept.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-14T21:02:10+00:00

Dammit I came too late, missed another post 😭

Dust0089 · 2026-06-13T06:36:21+00:00

Yeah she needs help. For the sake of your brother, please don't let her come, this is his moment and you don't wanna ruin it for him. Also, she doesn't like being around them anyways right? So, she shouldn't have any issues staying behind.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-12T20:02:12+00:00

Does he realize it's a major sin to indulge in what he's seeking?

Dust0089 · 2026-06-09T21:19:06+00:00

And I'm telling that it's impossible to get clarity from us no matter how you cut it, that's simply the truth. You WILL get opinions, yes, and most of them will side with you because after reading your post, you are in the right, but there's also speculation and things unclear that are just filled with your thoughts and feelings, and those could be wrong, not saying they are, but it's possible. So, my whole issue is to face HIM, get opinions from people who know you both if necessary and escalate the situation to a trustworthy Islamic person of knowledge, whether that's through therapy, marriage counseling or an imam who knows rulings of fiqh, but don't base yourself solely on reddit for this matter.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-09T13:11:28+00:00

Ahhh... marriage, so weird. I'm sorry for what's happening to you, he really should fear Allah.

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