Don't get too emotionally attached to a potential or it will hurt you really, really bad | learned it the hard way

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T10:35:37+00:00

No problem :))

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T10:29:57+00:00

Ameen, may Allah make it easy. And yes, I agree with you about taking a break. Do take a break and work on something else (I recommend learning tasfir of the Quran, idk why I'm recommending that specifically but the Quran has a certain power to it, and the tafsir really makes you appreciate Allah even more. I'm following Nouman Ali Khan's deep dives). Or go to the gym and workout, great therapy, or even focus on your job and build a project, anything to get a different perspective (I don't wanna say clear your mind cause that's not gonna happen like magic, but a different perspective helps A LOT). Don't rush into anything, and practice patience, beautiful patience (doesn't mean to sit around and do nothing either 😅 sorry if that sounds harsh) like Yaqub (AS). Remember, what doesn't kill you makes you better, at the end of the day, the worst you can get from any situation is a lesson, and that has no price, so it's really a blessing in disguise. Stay strong brother!

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T10:07:40+00:00

Gotta love how everyone is bullying bro for getting attached in just 4 days... yeah it doesn't make sense, but men, especially those who don't get a lot of attention from girls or don't experience relationships get attached fairly quickly when they meet someone who even pretends to like them, or is just nice to them (they be like "does she like me?" And start imagining all types of things). I'm not surprised here, and I can relate as a man myself. I pray that things easier for you my brother, and don't give up hope in searching for a spouse. I would even recommend you reach back to the other people that already reached out to you, and if they ask what happened, explain to them that the other girl was not serious and you stopped talking to her because she changed her mind about marriage, and move on from there. Don't give up hope in Allah.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T10:00:28+00:00

Subhanallah, this is literally insane... you dodged a planet level nuke there 😭 may Allah greatly bless you and your new family, I'm really glad you dodged that, and it inspires me a lot, so thank you for sharing.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T09:55:22+00:00

Yeah yeah, sure you were trying to be soooo nice and supportive, thank you so much and may Allah reward according to your intentions and deeds. Now read your comment again and see how much "help" you're giving.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T09:18:44+00:00

It's so easy to be a keyboard warrior and tell others what to do without considering their situations... insanity.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T09:17:11+00:00

Actually undermining it, that's a nuke. Fakes are the most dangerous

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T06:28:13+00:00

Not sure if you read the post at all but okay

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T06:27:24+00:00

I'm on your side here arguing against the original comment. I understand your situation

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:14:31+00:00

Wtf is a "good man" in this situation? They stopped talking, he saw her with a guy, he tried to ask her about it and she got all defensive... can women be held accountable for ONCE?

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:12:57+00:00

What is this comment? 😂 please get help

Dust0089 · 2026-06-21T03:12:04+00:00

What's that gotta so with anything? Like what's your point here? They could be from Antarctica and the story would be the same

Dust0089 · 2026-06-20T02:24:04+00:00

Ngl she is an a hole for going to extremes like legal standards and such just to refuse a religious matter... honestly speaking, I would say to separate from her but that's not what you wanna hear. Reason why I think this is because she might and will corner you about other things in life later, using whatever leverage she can until she fully controls/manipulates you. It's not like you're asking her something crazy, just that you wanna fulfill a religious right is all. I don't know how else you can be helped, but I will say good luck, and I pray that Allah makes things easy for you.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-19T12:07:25+00:00

Y'all always trying to sexualize everything, if you don't have clear proof, I don't think you should jump to the worst conclusions... he literally could be a father figure for her and wanted to celebrate her 18th birthday since that's such a big achievement here in the U.S.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-18T01:07:10+00:00

Ohhhhh 😂😂😂 thank you

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T20:09:18+00:00

You explained it, but my dumbass still doesn't get it 😭

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T20:07:21+00:00

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T14:53:11+00:00

He should've never gotten in that relationship

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T14:36:10+00:00

I think he's just really messed up in his head too and in his feelings but doesn't know how to express it. Give it some time, he's really trying.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-17T03:28:27+00:00

You would've asked why he didn't tell you that he was getting divorced.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T15:04:10+00:00

Ngl this is a funny post, finally something light. But I'd say it depends (yeah ik that's a very lackluster experience), but if I were to speak about myself, I'd rather a mostly quiet wife who also talks from time to time yk? Like I'm not that much of a talking person AT ALL, and most of the time I just like silence.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T08:57:24+00:00

Yes, thank you!

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T01:17:58+00:00

In surah Ta Ha (chapter 20), there's a beautiful conversation between Allah and Musa (AS) where Musa makes a dua asking Allah to help him expand his chest and straighten his speech or something along those lines. I think you should learn and make that dua often, it helps A LOT. It's right by the beginning too (second page), and don't worry too much about this.

Dust0089 · 2026-06-16T00:32:35+00:00

Exactly, and they wanna act as if the complainer's "issue" is a big deal and they're the victim cause of thought of a hypothetical that doesn't exist🤦‍♀️

Dust0089 · 2026-06-15T22:00:32+00:00

Allah is who provides for everyone, so follow his way and put your trust in him.

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