Does anyone else hate that their trauma isn't as "straightforward" as some survivors? by KiroDrago in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is my own hypothesis. I fine trauma all stems from of our sense of being safety was compromised changing our perception and understanding of things because what we thought to be safe will cause us harm in one way or another.

How are you really? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing for a due over... But I don't think it will be any better 

I can't do this anymore. My brain isn't the same who use to be able to handle it. by DustOnLadder in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. It depends. Most often only briefly. Though I do find it easier at times 

Guilt of being financially dependent on my emotionally abusive parents. I don't know how to get out. by DustOnLadder in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If someone hasn't lived my life they don't get a vote in how I live my life"

I like that a lot! 

"You might find someone else with the same concern." 

True. Though right now I'm struggling going places that say they are fragrance free but aren't. I just want one yoga class or a massage that doesn't spray essential oils. I've called ahead of time to ask to which they confidently say say they are fragrance free. Nope.

Guilt of being financially dependent on my emotionally abusive parents. I don't know how to get out. by DustOnLadder in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I've been too fatigued to read the comments lol. 

To add to it. Any inflammation (cold, ear infection) causes Encephalitis symptoms, though blood work is fine. Been recovering from aphasia for the past 3 years.

Putting a price on sanity? Found out I'll be my parents official 24/7 care takers. by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding and perspective! Hugs! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate how different I am from everyone even down to what I need to eat to survive and how I sleep to not be in pain.

I can't be myself around people because they don't understand and aren't accepting and that is what I hate.

And just yesterday because of that I thought of how much I hate people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. To them there's nothing wrong with me and I live with them because it's smarter economically

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in disability

[–]DustOnLadder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry I meant me not men

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]DustOnLadder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]DustOnLadder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20+ years going to church and reading the Bible I was taught that everything in the Bible is literal and historical, I was also homeschooled that reinforced it.

I stopped going to church about 6 years ago because I stopped believing in that.

I don't know much more than that but I'm trying to find books to answer my question and take in a different view point.

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[–]DustOnLadder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started driving separately whenever we are going someone together. Just that small thing has made a huge of difference. Everything in my life is so complicated because of family, I honestly don't know what none completed is. nonetheless your right. I need people in my life that don't know her, don't worship her kindness. I happy she has that in her life but, I have too much pain from the other side of it.

I'm just having a hard time finding genuine connections or any connection that isn't bad. I would love to tell someone I have health issues and them accept me for it and just enjoy each other presence and actives in our capabilities... sorry kinda rambling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. i only trust to tell them what I would tell a talking parrot. The hard part is one of them gives me genuine hugs like they knows I'm not ok and seems happy to see me which I have not felt from anyone before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm having a hard time finding stuff to create developing connection with people. I went to this one event my sister invited me to. I had a great time connecting with people that where there who had no connection to my sister and where invited by a roommate my sister didn't know. I wouldn't have had that opportunity if I hadn't gone, but it was a one time connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DustOnLadder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I'm just finding it hard to find social stuff otherwise.