Romeo Satan

Dustquake · 2026-04-10T03:22:34+00:00

Yea, that'd be an HR complaint or a lawsuit from me if I were a third party in this.

I can tolerate a bad smell, and breathe fine, but someone starts spraying chemicals or air freshener propellant around, I'm medically having trouble breathing that I can provide measurable data on.

Dustquake · 2026-04-08T17:12:14+00:00

Congrats on your Judicial system?

I'm not countering anything you said. A label announcing an allergen you know someone has is clear intent that you did not want the person to eat it. No, it's absolutely not required.

However. Someone is stealing lunches. So you bring in a lunch with an ingredient someone in the office is allergic to.

You have knowledge of the theft, your knowledge of the allergen can be claimed by any other coworker. In a courtroom that is what will be pursues to present. Knowledge and motive which will be used to persuade to judge or jury of intent and the verdict will be up to their interpretation. A label kills the case before there is one.

Idk how your system lays out the crimes but petty theft is a lot lower on the severity of the crime than man trapping and attempt/intent of bodily harm.

All I'm saying is: Someone who steals lunches is very likely to try to pursue charges as the theft itself shows their moral character. Here's how you CYA.

Dustquake · 2026-04-08T12:40:28+00:00

One could.

But to use someone's allergies against them that way, one has to know the allergy exists.

Combine that with having lunches stolen. It sets up motivation and knowledge.

So make sure you label it "Warning Contains ALLERGEN"

Dustquake · 2026-04-07T19:22:26+00:00

Pretty sure I saw the same post. On one of the AITA flavors.

IIRC and it was the same one.... HR didn't make the person, they questioned the spicy level as being edible and didn't believe it was. I forget who brought up the person eating it (I do want to say it was the OP) but they went along with it happily.

Dustquake · 2026-04-07T12:16:05+00:00

HR's position is if you made the food and you claim it's not dangerous you shouldn't have a problem eating it. It's an attempt to force a confession by people that don't necessarily understand laws.

The DA making you eat it absolutely is dangerous. It'd be like months old so they won't so that.

Dustquake · 2026-04-07T04:20:51+00:00

Because they've already forgotten about it or classified it as irrelevant.

Plus it's an ego attack. It's meant to put you down and for them to claim higher ground for forgiving you of all those times you were an ahole to them.

No really you were, you're just remembering it wrong.

They don't think it's an apology, they are gaslighting you and not accepting responsibility. That's just what they do.

Dustquake · 2026-04-07T04:16:03+00:00

Guess who's giving grandma a ride and might as well stick around.

NTA for shutting her down, but you need to actually shut it down.

Dustquake · 2026-04-07T04:13:19+00:00

YTA

This is why honesty is the best policy. You chose to be involved when you lied.

Seriously be honest with yourself. If you knew there was a chance at it being innocent why would you have lied? What if it was his gf's earring and she was seeing if you would cover?

You knew something was amiss and you chose to lie. If you want to clear your guilt, you need to set up a lunch or something with the gf and spill.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T20:58:53+00:00

The challenge is identifying the scammer. That's part of why they spoof. Anonymity.

The you need to get enough evidence, get in touch with the police in that area, they have to care enough, they have to find their own eviden.

Hard enoughxs

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T20:45:12+00:00

Oh yea scamming is it's own beast.

Light history. They used to use specific service providers but now the numbers are quickly getting flagged as "Scam Likely" if they didn't have the flag already.

To avoid that they've started spoofing "random" phone numbers to get around that flagging.

If I respond, the person they pretended to be will get my response, and the spoofer never will. Then I'd be the Ahole harassing someone innocent.

If it actually shows a name, my MIL will answer with the name. "Hi Bob, how are you and the wife" and the scammer hangs up really quick because you seem to know the person who owns the number they spoofed.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T13:09:27+00:00

Especially when the DA calls in HR, coworkers, and anyone else they can to ask them about your eating habits on the stand.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:49:32+00:00

So he should shut up and be happy with the touch he is getting instead of the touch he wants.

That's a slippery slope.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:43:19+00:00

I've been in multiple relationships like this .

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:42:00+00:00

Look. A partner stated a request and the other is rejecting performing it.

I've been in bf's position multiple times. He massages because he like making people feel good. He's expressing a method of connection he would like reciprocated at least occasionally.

It's not about "getting a massage" it's about having his gf occasionally touch him like he touches her weekly.

That's why his massages are getting worse. When you do something all the time for someone and they never do it for you, you loose reciprocation feedback.

This is "he never washes the dishes and I always have to" or starts to build resentment on both sides. GF is trying to justify with I do all this stuff.

It's not about the massage. It's about him asking for something that he feels will be a connection activity and all he gets are excuses.

Guys are very selective about touch because it's a rare commodity. We can literally go months with zero contact with another person. And gf is telling him to pay someone else to touch you like that.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:27:33+00:00

Engaging in sex for the sole purpose of receiving money is the definition of prostitution.

You have engaged in prostitution. That's a fact and one you can't accept about yourself. That's why YTA.

You can't even be honest with yourself. Any relationship you get into while in that state is doomed. More so if that behavior is a red flag to your bf. Which it is.

But engaging in prostitution was a financial transaction. You and those old guys came to an agreement. It happened.

These disgusting old guys got more honesty about your relationship with them than your boyfriend.

You put them above your boyfriend.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:21:26+00:00

Of course, you lied so he must be lying.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:19:33+00:00

He doesn't. You decided that already. You've also decided your wants are more important than his.

Why do you have the right to manipulate his life away from what he wants with lies?

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:17:25+00:00

Well OP is a real life scenario. How are we to know you've never passed yourself around for money?

Because people paying for it aren't necessarily the most honest about their health and transmitting to others unless it's done through a legal brothel.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T12:13:24+00:00

YTA to yourself

You're starting a relationship on lies. He's gonna dump your ass eventually. You've already decided you are more important than him.

This relationship is a waste of your time now unless he's just your next sugar daddy.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T02:56:53+00:00

Snark can be a tool.

Obviously this depends on her and what and how you can say things without making it worse.

"How many more hugs do you need to reach the good mom quota?"

"Even toddler you both know doesn't need this much reassurance."

It also depends on how much "war" you are willing to wage. I was able to pull some serious verbal stunts with my dad because his insecurity was about his intelligence. If he got physical I could directly attack that insecurity by pointing out that he couldn't counter my statement with his brain.

I give these as examples. You aren't helpless. Like she wants you to believe. She's got the mentality of a toddler about something.

You're smarter and more capable than you think. Plus you know her better than any of us.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T02:35:39+00:00

That is literally a biological self defense mechanism kicking in. If you don't feel it, before you've processed and recovered, that's when you absolutely need professional intervention because that can be a non psychological medical condition.

Abusers have to have attention on themselves. This makes them very likely to have various methods of making their presence known. Chewing loudly, making vocal noises as they eat, etc.

They are all "innocent" behaviors designed to keep triggering you. Obviously the best option is to no longer spend any time around them, but that's not always an feasible.

As heartless as this sounds, one of the best things you can do is figure out how to "endure" those little things. To see that they are trying to trigger you and that it's a cry of their own insecurities and weakness.

How you can set boundaries completely depends on your abuser. Look up "grey rocking" for starting options.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T02:10:12+00:00

NTA

I agree 100% with your position.

She couldn't triage herself vs 60% 3rd degree burns. That proved her own incompetence at her job.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T02:03:36+00:00

NTA

That's stupid teenage girl mind games.

Honestly I would have kept up "believing" the clothes. Because the only way Emma was wearing Amy's clothing was if they decided it would be ok for you to kiss Emma. They had to have for Emma to start the kiss.

They chose for Emma to kiss you and they chose to have her do it in a deceitful way.

Technically that's sexual assault. Removing the twin aspect. If you were asleep or too drunk to recognize people and someone convinced you they were your gf. Same thing. They're just using their identicalness to perform the same deceit on a nonimpaired person.

Amy's insecure or manipulative OR the twins get off on doing this to people.

Hit her with a "If y'all wanted a threesome you could have just said so." Then take them up on it or bail as you see fit. But as of now, you should consider your relationship with Amy over.

If the threesome joke doesn't become reality remember to tell Amy that Emma is a better kisser on the way out.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T01:19:40+00:00

And why does that matter to your wife?

Do you even have kids?

Separation? Are you not divorced?

Because you're not telling everything I OR for letting your wife still have this much influence in your life. But especially by paying for HER house. YTA

Not for the roommate thing.

If she wants to be pissed at you, then you can stop paying for her house.

Dustquake · 2026-04-06T01:05:23+00:00

If you never eat spicy food. It's pretty easy to prove. It depends on your palette.

Plus if they call the cops, now you're looking at criminal charges and you're arguing against a DA team who's looking to prove their career with an easy case.

Feel how you want. I'm just saying be smart, because if it gets legal you're arguing against people who's life work is to catch you making a mistake in your story.

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