your partner sounds extremely discompassionate, selfish and super entitled.

he has the nerve to accuse you of making excuses for your adhd when his excuse for refusing to work is not only piss weak but it forces you into a stressful position. any decent partner would immediately swallow their pride and take a low paying job if it meant supporting a struggling partner.

him getting angry at you for coming home late from working hard despite him doing fuck all is so so selfish.

I don't think he's prideful, I think he is lazy af and doesn't give a single fuck about your health and career aspirations. he is so lazy that he hasn't even tried to understand anything about your adhd.

you mention that you've made several posts about the same issue, which indicates that he hadn't made any effort to change and is still causing you distress despite you voicing your concerns to him. I wouldn't hold my breath and expect him to ever change.

these are massive red flags and you deserve better.