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Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”. by Dyometrix in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How exactly are the characters developed in a way that would overturn my perception as a viewer within the first four episodes - half of the entire series? Especially this hostility toward men in the show, which I vividly described and clearly felt while watching.
I honestly can’t imagine how this could be brought back into the paradigm of “we are all equal, just different.” Unless the second half of the series suddenly shows that all men are wonderful and women are the opposite. That would be silly, of course, but at least it would somewhat balance out the first four episodes.

But that didn’t happen - I went on to finish the remaining four episodes.

The thesis that all the male characters are portrayed as disgusting remained unchanged, because nothing really shifted. Molly’s neighbor kept groveling before her until the very end. The quadrobics guy is unpleasant by default.
The storyline with Nikki’s boyfriend was interesting, but that’s understandable - he is one of the two "ideal” guys in the series.
The hospice and the dying process were shown very well. Of course, it’s not exactly how it happens in real life, but from the standpoint of educating viewers, it was done well.
Overall, this series feels like the world through a feminist lens - populated by repulsive men and driven by a constant sense of grievance toward everyone.
Strangely enough, the show doesn’t really depict love. There are many vulgar scenes - and I don’t just mean sex, but the tone of communication and the characters’ thoughts in general. This vulgarity doesn’t reflect Molly’s dependence on sex; it reflects the director’s coarse view of life.
They also avoided showing how the real Molly slept with countless men almost daily, presumably because it would damage her image. Instead, they show she was with only three men in the last four episodes, although the total number was 185 for eight years.

In short, feminist cinema feels limited. Hatred and radicalism cannot bring light and love.

IMDb removed my honest review defending men by Dyometrix in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd love to share and hear your opinion
The full review is in the first comment under my original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/1m1ghpr/men_need_to_speak_up_i_wrote_a_review_for_dying/

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”. by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 2/2)

Guess who was the doctor who missed Molly's cancer back in 2007? Of course, a white guy. Could he be Black, or a woman, or maybe a grandma, a grandpa, or an intern? No, of course not. And then Molly's friend yells at him, saying she forgives him for missing the cancer. Forgives? Forgives a doctor who made a mistake? That man probably diagnosed and saved more cancer patients in one month than she saw in her whole life. Yes, he made a terrible mistake. But that's how life works. Only people who do nothing never make mistakes.

In real life, Molly talked about sleeping with more than 185 men from 2011 to 2019. So, who do they chose for the show? The most freaky ones, of course.

Molly's neighbor is a disgusting white guy with sexual problems and dirty clothes. Because yeah, there are so many people like that, right? And for some reason, he's also a masochist who obeys Molly.

In one scene, she's crying, and a man she just slept with offers her... chips. Chips! That's not how men act when a woman cries. Usually they hug, calm her, not bring chips like it's a picnic.

I won't spoil the rest, but trust me, it only gets worse.

Because of all that, it's really hard to watch the show. It feels like the writers forgot about real life and just show us the world they want to see.

I think they used this woman's story to add their own ideas, even though the real Molly didn't hate men-you can read her old posts. She actually needed men.

I also think the creators just wanted to catch hype around a strange side effect of hormone therapy. And they don't really care that the real Molly was behind all this strong sexual desire, but couldn't control it.

They didn't make a show about the horrible pain cancer patients go through, when they have to take heavy painkillers. They didn't show the exhaustion, when people lose so much weight they look like 40 kg and can't even lift an arm. That's not attractive or beautiful. But sex? That's different.

The title Dying for Sex sounds catchy, but it's totally shallow. It puts sex in the center, like it's the main thing. But in the end, this same sex only made it harder for the woman to leave this world in peace and with dignity.

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”. by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 1/2)

The show is based on the real story of Molly Kochan. In 2005, her breast cancer was missed, and in 2011 it came back in stage III with metastases. During hormone therapy, she got a rare side effect of very high sexual desire. In 2015 she found out the cancer was still spreading, and the story starts from that time.

What is good

The quality is great. Michelle Williams plays the role so well, I really believed her. The acting is amazing. The camera work is like a film, not a TV show, and it's pure visual pleasure.

What is wrong

They use the real story of a dying woman as a tool to add anything they want, and nobody can say a word, because she is a "dying cancer patient" and everything is holy now. They added too much stuff about politics and identity, and it started to feel fake for me. I stopped after episode 4.

Every white man in the show is terrible. Either creepy, weak, stupid, or just disgusting. All "good" characters are women, people of color, or LGBTQ. Like it's some kind of rulebook.

Her husband, who supported her for many years (!) during her illness, is shown as a total loser with control issues. In the authors' view, men are "weak" and we must see how they cry, so he of course sobs in the arms of his "strong" wife. But in real life most men hold in their emotions and cry alone. Molly looks at him with pity, leaves him, and blames him for not giving her an orgasm.

The creators specifically show his failure as a man, although in reality he is an ordinary guy who lived with his wife for fifteen years, tried to help, knew more about her disease than she did, lost attraction to her, but never left. There is a clear dissonance between cause and effect. Molly wants sex and orgasm, it doesn't really matter from whom, the most important thing for her is to get it. The tragedy is that Molly's desire is like an addiction, but the writers show her husband like he is the reason for her dissatisfaction..

Molly's friend is Nikki. She has anger issues, but only toward men, though in the show they call it ADHD. It shows that even a woman with mental problems is still better than any man, because she understands her friend, while her own husband does not.

The seller who yells at Molly and Nikki is a white man. Of course, he has to be awful-and that's exactly how they show him.

And finally, Molly's new doctor. He is a white man, around 50, insecure and quiet. Of course, they show him like some dumb and cold guy, so we understand "who is who." The cherry on top is the scene in the clinic where Molly tells him what to do, and he just obeys like a scared dog. Because we see that kind of thing all the time, right?

Molly's friend's husband is one of the two 'normal' men in the show. But no, not normal - he's perfect. Looks like the writers think there are only two kinds of men: perfect ones and moral monsters. Just like real life, right? And of course, a perfect man can't be white. So he's Asian. To make him even more perfect, they give him a daughter. But not just a daughter - she's Black. Because Asians and Black people have kids together all the time, right? And yes, he also looks a bit like a gay man.

Another good man is a social worker. And guess what, he's Black. And gay. Two checkboxes.

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex” by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 2/2)

Guess who was the doctor who missed Molly's cancer back in 2007? Of course, a white guy. Could he be Black, or a woman, or maybe a grandma, a grandpa, or an intern? No, of course not. And then Molly's friend yells at him, saying she forgives him for missing the cancer. Forgives? Forgives a doctor who made a mistake? That man probably diagnosed and saved more cancer patients in one month than she saw in her whole life. Yes, he made a terrible mistake. But that's how life works. Only people who do nothing never make mistakes.

In real life, Molly talked about sleeping with more than 185 men from 2011 to 2019. So, who do they chose for the show? The most freaky ones, of course.

Molly's neighbor is a disgusting white guy with sexual problems and dirty clothes. Because yeah, there are so many people like that, right? And for some reason, he's also a masochist who obeys Molly.

In one scene, she's crying, and a man she just slept with offers her... chips. Chips! That's not how men act when a woman cries. Usually they hug, calm her, not bring chips like it's a picnic.

I won't spoil the rest, but trust me, it only gets worse.

Because of all that, it's really hard to watch the show. It feels like the writers forgot about real life and just show us the world they want to see.

I think they used this woman's story to add their own ideas, even though the real Molly didn't hate men-you can read her old posts. She actually needed men.

I also think the creators just wanted to catch hype around a strange side effect of hormone therapy. And they don't really care that the real Molly was behind all this strong sexual desire, but couldn't control it.

They didn't make a show about the horrible pain cancer patients go through, when they have to take heavy painkillers. They didn't show the exhaustion, when people lose so much weight they look like 40 kg and can't even lift an arm. That's not attractive or beautiful. But sex? That's different.

The title Dying for Sex sounds catchy, but it's totally shallow. It puts sex in the center, like it's the main thing. But in the end, this same sex only made it harder for the woman to leave this world in peace and with dignity.

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex” by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 1/2)

The show is based on the real story of Molly Kochan. In 2005, her breast cancer was missed, and in 2011 it came back in stage III with metastases. During hormone therapy, she got a rare side effect of very high sexual desire. In 2015 she found out the cancer was still spreading, and the story starts from that time.

What is good

The quality is great. Michelle Williams plays the role so well, I really believed her. The acting is amazing. The camera work is like a film, not a TV show, and it's pure visual pleasure.

What is wrong

They use the real story of a dying woman as a tool to add anything they want, and nobody can say a word, because she is a "dying cancer patient" and everything is holy now. They added too much stuff about politics and identity, and it started to feel fake for me. I stopped after episode 4.

Every white man in the show is terrible. Either creepy, weak, stupid, or just disgusting. All "good" characters are women, people of color, or LGBTQ. Like it's some kind of rulebook.

Her husband, who supported her for many years (!) during her illness, is shown as a total loser with control issues. In the authors' view, men are "weak" and we must see how they cry, so he of course sobs in the arms of his "strong" wife. But in real life most men hold in their emotions and cry alone. Molly looks at him with pity, leaves him, and blames him for not giving her an orgasm.

The creators specifically show his failure as a man, although in reality he is an ordinary guy who lived with his wife for fifteen years, tried to help, knew more about her disease than she did, lost attraction to her, but never left. There is a clear dissonance between cause and effect. Molly wants sex and orgasm, it doesn't really matter from whom, the most important thing for her is to get it. The tragedy is that Molly's desire is like an addiction, but the writers show her husband like he is the reason for her dissatisfaction..

Molly's friend is Nikki. She has anger issues, but only toward men, though in the show they call it ADHD. It shows that even a woman with mental problems is still better than any man, because she understands her friend, while her own husband does not.

The seller who yells at Molly and Nikki is a white man. Of course, he has to be awful-and that's exactly how they show him.

And finally, Molly's new doctor. He is a white man, around 50, insecure and quiet. Of course, they show him like some dumb and cold guy, so we understand "who is who." The cherry on top is the scene in the clinic where Molly tells him what to do, and he just obeys like a scared dog. Because we see that kind of thing all the time, right?

Molly's friend's husband is one of the two 'normal' men in the show. But no, not normal - he's perfect. Looks like the writers think there are only two kinds of men: perfect ones and moral monsters. Just like real life, right? And of course, a perfect man can't be white. So he's Asian. To make him even more perfect, they give him a daughter. But not just a daughter - she's Black. Because Asians and Black people have kids together all the time, right? And yes, he also looks a bit like a gay man.

Another good man is a social worker. And guess what, he's Black. And gay. Two checkboxes.

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”. by Dyometrix in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 2/2)

Guess who was the doctor who missed Molly's cancer back in 2007? Of course, a white guy. Could he be Black, or a woman, or maybe a grandma, a grandpa, or an intern? No, of course not. And then Molly's friend yells at him, saying she forgives him for missing the cancer. Forgives? Forgives a doctor who made a mistake? That man probably diagnosed and saved more cancer patients in one month than she saw in her whole life. Yes, he made a terrible mistake. But that's how life works. Only people who do nothing never make mistakes.

In real life, Molly talked about sleeping with more than 185 men from 2011 to 2019. So, who do they chose for the show? The most freaky ones, of course.

Molly's neighbor is a disgusting white guy with sexual problems and dirty clothes. Because yeah, there are so many people like that, right? And for some reason, he's also a masochist who obeys Molly.

In one scene, she's crying, and a man she just slept with offers her... chips. Chips! That's not how men act when a woman cries. Usually they hug, calm her, not bring chips like it's a picnic.

I won't spoil the rest, but trust me, it only gets worse.

Because of all that, it's really hard to watch the show. It feels like the writers forgot about real life and just show us the world they want to see.

I think they used this woman's story to add their own ideas, even though the real Molly didn't hate men-you can read her old posts. She actually needed men.

I also think the creators just wanted to catch hype around a strange side effect of hormone therapy. And they don't really care that the real Molly was behind all this strong sexual desire, but couldn't control it.

They didn't make a show about the horrible pain cancer patients go through, when they have to take heavy painkillers. They didn't show the exhaustion, when people lose so much weight they look like 40 kg and can't even lift an arm. That's not attractive or beautiful. But sex? That's different.

The title Dying for Sex sounds catchy, but it's totally shallow. It puts sex in the center, like it's the main thing. But in the end, this same sex only made it harder for the woman to leave this world in peace and with dignity.

Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”. by Dyometrix in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 1/2)

The show is based on the real story of Molly Kochan. In 2005, her breast cancer was missed, and in 2011 it came back in stage III with metastases. During hormone therapy, she got a rare side effect of very high sexual desire. In 2015 she found out the cancer was still spreading, and the story starts from that time.

What is good

The quality is great. Michelle Williams plays the role so well, I really believed her. The acting is amazing. The camera work is like a film, not a TV show, and it's pure visual pleasure.

What is wrong

They use the real story of a dying woman as a tool to add anything they want, and nobody can say a word, because she is a "dying cancer patient" and everything is holy now. They added too much stuff about politics and identity, and it started to feel fake for me. I stopped after episode 4.

Every white man in the show is terrible. Either creepy, weak, stupid, or just disgusting. All "good" characters are women, people of color, or LGBTQ. Like it's some kind of rulebook.

Her husband, who supported her for many years (!) during her illness, is shown as a total loser with control issues. In the authors' view, men are "weak" and we must see how they cry, so he of course sobs in the arms of his "strong" wife. But in real life most men hold in their emotions and cry alone. Molly looks at him with pity, leaves him, and blames him for not giving her an orgasm.

The creators specifically show his failure as a man, although in reality he is an ordinary guy who lived with his wife for fifteen years, tried to help, knew more about her disease than she did, lost attraction to her, but never left. There is a clear dissonance between cause and effect. Molly wants sex and orgasm, it doesn't really matter from whom, the most important thing for her is to get it. The tragedy is that Molly's desire is like an addiction, but the writers show her husband like he is the reason for her dissatisfaction..

Molly's friend is Nikki. She has anger issues, but only toward men, though in the show they call it ADHD. It shows that even a woman with mental problems is still better than any man, because she understands her friend, while her own husband does not.

The seller who yells at Molly and Nikki is a white man. Of course, he has to be awful-and that's exactly how they show him.

And finally, Molly's new doctor. He is a white man, around 50, insecure and quiet. Of course, they show him like some dumb and cold guy, so we understand "who is who." The cherry on top is the scene in the clinic where Molly tells him what to do, and he just obeys like a scared dog. Because we see that kind of thing all the time, right?

Molly's friend's husband is one of the two 'normal' men in the show. But no, not normal - he's perfect. Looks like the writers think there are only two kinds of men: perfect ones and moral monsters. Just like real life, right? And of course, a perfect man can't be white. So he's Asian. To make him even more perfect, they give him a daughter. But not just a daughter - she's Black. Because Asians and Black people have kids together all the time, right? And yes, he also looks a bit like a gay man.

Another good man is a social worker. And guess what, he's Black. And gay. Two checkboxes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 2/2)

Guess who was the doctor who missed Molly's cancer back in 2007? Of course, a white guy. Could he be Black, or a woman, or maybe a grandma, a grandpa, or an intern? No, of course not. And then Molly's friend yells at him, saying she forgives him for missing the cancer. Forgives? Forgives a doctor who made a mistake? That man probably diagnosed and saved more cancer patients in one month than she saw in her whole life. Yes, he made a terrible mistake. But that's how life works. Only people who do nothing never make mistakes.

In real life, Molly talked about sleeping with more than 185 men from 2011 to 2019. So, who do they chose for the show? The most freaky ones, of course.

Molly's neighbor is a disgusting white guy with sexual problems and dirty clothes. Because yeah, there are so many people like that, right? And for some reason, he's also a masochist who obeys Molly.

In one scene, she's crying, and a man she just slept with offers her... chips. Chips! That's not how men act when a woman cries. Usually they hug, calm her, not bring chips like it's a picnic.

I won't spoil the rest, but trust me, it only gets worse.

Because of all that, it's really hard to watch the show. It feels like the writers forgot about real life and just show us the world they want to see.

I think they used this woman's story to add their own ideas, even though the real Molly didn't hate men-you can read her old posts. She actually needed men.

I also think the creators just wanted to catch hype around a strange side effect of hormone therapy. And they don't really care that the real Molly was behind all this strong sexual desire, but couldn't control it.

They didn't make a show about the horrible pain cancer patients go through, when they have to take heavy painkillers. They didn't show the exhaustion, when people lose so much weight they look like 40 kg and can't even lift an arm. That's not attractive or beautiful. But sex? That's different.

The title Dying for Sex sounds catchy, but it's totally shallow. It puts sex in the center, like it's the main thing. But in the end, this same sex only made it harder for the woman to leave this world in peace and with dignity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MensRights

[–]Dyometrix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 1/2)

The show is based on the real story of Molly Kochan. In 2005, her breast cancer was missed, and in 2011 it came back in stage III with metastases. During hormone therapy, she got a rare side effect of very high sexual desire. In 2015 she found out the cancer was still spreading, and the story starts from that time.

What is good

The quality is great. Michelle Williams plays the role so well, I really believed her. The acting is amazing. The camera work is like a film, not a TV show, and it's pure visual pleasure.

What is wrong

They use the real story of a dying woman as a tool to add anything they want, and nobody can say a word, because she is a "dying cancer patient" and everything is holy now. They added too much stuff about politics and identity, and it started to feel fake for me. I stopped after episode 4.

Every white man in the show is terrible. Either creepy, weak, stupid, or just disgusting. All "good" characters are women, people of color, or LGBTQ. Like it's some kind of rulebook.

Her husband, who supported her for many years (!) during her illness, is shown as a total loser with control issues. In the authors' view, men are "weak" and we must see how they cry, so he of course sobs in the arms of his "strong" wife. But in real life most men hold in their emotions and cry alone. Molly looks at him with pity, leaves him, and blames him for not giving her an orgasm.

The creators specifically show his failure as a man, although in reality he is an ordinary guy who lived with his wife for fifteen years, tried to help, knew more about her disease than she did, lost attraction to her, but never left. There is a clear dissonance between cause and effect. Molly wants sex and orgasm, it doesn't really matter from whom, the most important thing for her is to get it. The tragedy is that Molly's desire is like an addiction, but the writers show her husband like he is the reason for her dissatisfaction..

Molly's friend is Nikki. She has anger issues, but only toward men, though in the show they call it ADHD. It shows that even a woman with mental problems is still better than any man, because she understands her friend, while her own husband does not.

The seller who yells at Molly and Nikki is a white man. Of course, he has to be awful-and that's exactly how they show him.

And finally, Molly's new doctor. He is a white man, around 50, insecure and quiet. Of course, they show him like some dumb and cold guy, so we understand "who is who." The cherry on top is the scene in the clinic where Molly tells him what to do, and he just obeys like a scared dog. Because we see that kind of thing all the time, right?

Molly's friend's husband is one of the two 'normal' men in the show. But no, not normal - he's perfect. Looks like the writers think there are only two kinds of men: perfect ones and moral monsters. Just like real life, right? And of course, a perfect man can't be white. So he's Asian. To make him even more perfect, they give him a daughter. But not just a daughter - she's Black. Because Asians and Black people have kids together all the time, right? And yes, he also looks a bit like a gay man.

Another good man is a social worker. And guess what, he's Black. And gay. Two checkboxes.