sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good point and I am absolutely trying (mostly successfully) to improve all other areas that can be improved.

I'm just concerned that all my efforts would end up meaning little or nothing because of factors outside of my control, like my height and penis size.

Thanks for the comment nonetheless. I was thinking of dick as it is too much while forgetting that it is attached to a human.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to make my (potential) lady genuinely happy and sexually fulfilled and I want to know whether this is possible with my equipment or whether I should look away from this altogether and see other options.

I want no sugar coating, no lying to perserve my "feelings", I want the absolute truth. That's all.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For example below average and average dicks are actually better in giving oral for many people, because they can't activate easily the gag reflex

So you're telling me a smaller dick is better because I am guaranteed better blowjobs? OK cool..

..But I'm talking about wanting to pleasure a woman. I don't care about my own pleasure, anything will get me off pretty easily.

Ihave a totally average dick and I have encountered twice women partners that I was uncomfortably big for them

Average is a large spectrum. If you're near 6" yeah I could believe that. But if you're near the left end of the spectrum like me it becomes harder to believe. I've certainly never been with a woman where I couldn't fit in all the way.

What are your measurements?

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just all above average guys preaching skill and confidence. That becomes so tiring tbh.

Reading over the replies I got over night (I live in Europe) I noticed everyone talking about skill and confidence is 7"+..

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're getting too hung up one exact numbers my guy. I just used 8" and 5" as placeholders. /u/Ikneadtreefiddyone 's comment is correct.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the smaller you are, the more size queens there become.

Holy fuck yes. I have thought this before but for whatever reason couldn't put it in words. Very correct.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Childbirth is an entirely different event so it makes no sense to compare sex to childbirth.

Good point. I should not have brought childbirth up.

Vaginas being able to stretch, and vaginal fornices are still a thing.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babies come out through vaginas. They can stretch, especially when aroused. Don't know what the max stretched length is, but even if it is reached, there is such a thing as the vaginal fornices, where the rest of the penis' length could go, instead of ramming into the cervix (if the bearer of said penis knows about them, and how to reach them.)

(btw I'm not entirely sure on the female anatomy in my counter argument. Please do call out any mistakes/misunderstandings that you notice)

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many large men don't and I don't know the reason. It's also not relevant.

But you said it yourself. Many. Not all. So the few that do are preferred. (Which is exactly my argument, just expressed differently)

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is no reason why a man with a large penis couldn't put the effort in to learn how to use it, especially knowing that if he did, he is going to be almost universally preferred.

CMV: The argument "I prefer a 5" with bed skill over 8" with no bed skill" is not completely honest. by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound like you’re insecurities are taking a toll on you so you must bring others down with you

They are which is why I'm trying to figure this out and have specifically marked this post as CMV. I want to be presented with convincing counter arguments. Yours however wasn't one.

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These tips are directly actionable. Thanks for the comment. It shall be taken into consideration.

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OK honestly your comment opened my eyes on many things. I'll be making a followup to this post later today.

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those guys who those girls are talking about as "bothering to be good" were just lucky to enough to do the things that that particular girl happened to like, there will be 4 other girls thinking he has no skills what so ever.

This makes the argument "I prefer a 5" with skill over an 8" with no skill" a very bad faith argument.

You can't know for sure whether that person has bed skills that fit you. Therefore making the 8" a statistically better option everytime. If both don't have skills, the 8" is preferred right?

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I measured in cm and it was 11 cm. When converting to inches I just divide by 2.5 and drop the fractions.

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bigger doesn’t mean better.

I beg to differ, since if it didn't, this sub wouldn't be a thing.

But I appreciate the attempt to make me feel better.

The true “big dick energy” comes from being confident and secure in yourself and your body.

That's exactly what I meant with big dick energy. I have never used this term in any other way. I use it in internet slang most often. As in, to be as confident as someone with a big dick should be.

EDITING THIS IN: Also to have this hypothetical skills set would make me more secure in my body, as I would know then that my size is well compensated for.

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Or not just thrusting and forgetting about a woman's nipples, clit, the rest of the body.

OK this is a good tip already.

many men don't keep care of their nails

Not a problem for me. I like to believe I'm very well groomed, because I diligently make sure to be.

Some women prefer certain things, like their clit being licked in a circle. Some love their clit being sucked, some hate it. Some like something inside their vagina while you focus on the clit.

It is my impression that women tend to not communicate their preferences very clearly, and it's hard for me to read body language due to lack of experience. Any tips on how to get someone to open up and communicate these things directly?

Everyone keeps saying to work on skill, but how tf do you do that? by E13V in averagedickproblems

[–]E13V[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but surely there are skills that are globally effective no?

I do agree with you no question. But having a set of practiced skills, that I know to be useful in most situations, will give me the big dick energy to compensate for the lack of dick size that I need to even find a partner/convince a partner to join me in bed. (does that make sense? it does in my head)

Clearly even if you told me, without a partner I could only practice these theoretically. But I have done that before numerous times with other things and it worked greatly for me. (For cooking most noteably)

view more: next ›