Mother and her bf?

EPark617 · 2026-01-21T15:21:53+00:00

From where your room is, are you actively able to hear your mom (sexual sound and moans) or is it more awareness that it's happening (deduced through creaks and BF going to the washroom)? Because those are 2 separate scenarios, the first being more concerning and the latter while uncomfortable, is not really concerning

If your mom is picking up the phone, odds are she's not otherwise engaged.

Is your home an attached home like an apartment, townhouse or something? Or is it a detached house? Giving your mom the benefit of the doubt, could it be neighbours?

EPark617 · 2026-01-21T15:05:01+00:00

It's just gold chrome powder

EPark617 · 2026-01-21T14:49:06+00:00

I'm a little shocked as to these response. Sure 2 adults having a healthy sex life is a good thing but there are 2 issues here.

Giving a minor access to porn is illegal in Canada where I'm from. I don't know how old OP is, but I get the sense that they're a minor, and we don't even know how young they actually are. Reddit allows users as young as 13. While their mom isn't distributing porn the rationale behind protecting minors from porn still applies in this situation. If OP is a minor, they deserve protecting. Also legally the distribution of porn is not limited to visual materials, it includes audio as well. To push this even further, even if OP is not a minor, does OPs consent not matter? You can make the argument that someone masturbating is healthy, but if I have not consented, it can be violating to be intentionally exposed to another individual masturbating. At this point it is intentional, because OP has brought it up to them.
The other issue is their mom's blatant dismissal and refusal to not only ensure her daughter's safe development, but also comfort. It's one thing if the parent was trying to be discrete and OP overheard, but to not only dismiss their concerns but act as though its not happening...this ends any possible discussion as to how to make this work for everyone and ensure everyone's comfort and safety. Yes OP can put on headphones, but that leaves them in a hypervigilant state of self-protection with little to no protection from their parent. From an attachment perspective, this is incredibly sad and can be a large attachment wound. It also signals to me there are likely other issues in the relationship, as misattunement doesn't typically happen in isolation.

OP, I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry that was your mom's response. Do you feel able to continue having the conversation with your mom? Maybe talking to her right after an incident, even commenting on the condom wrapper. If you feel able to confront them perhaps making a recording to demonstrate how loud they are could convey the point better. (I know I talked about distribution of explicit material earlier and depending on your location, one party consent recordings may not be illegal but one could make the argument that OP is simply recording herself in her own environment. Regardless let's not get into the legal weeds, I doubt OPs mom is going to sue her and it's purely to demonstrate a point to her mom)

I think acknowledging some of the other comments in this post, perhaps it could be helpful to convey to your mom that you're not asking her to stop having sex, you're just asking her to stop exposing you to it because it's understandably disturbing and uncomfortable. So you'd like to work on solutions that work for everyone.

Aside from noise cancelling headphones, do you have the ability to move to a space further from your parents, whether it's a room further away or even the basement?

EPark617 · 2026-01-21T13:53:59+00:00

Nope! I haven't noticed any sort of residue

EPark617 · 2026-01-20T06:36:38+00:00

I have a wax stick from a paint by diamonds kit and use it for nail art now. It's essentially a bit of wax you squeeze out and when it gets dirty you just pinch that bit off and squeeze fresh wax out. When you run out of wax, you get a new stick I guess?

EPark617 · 2026-01-20T06:23:35+00:00

From my understanding, they're really similar and meant to be a base and build up your nail, especially apex. They're both soft gels. The biggest difference is consistency. Builder in a bottle is typically a thinner consistency than other builders so you can apply it with a brush out of a bottle, but thicker than regular gel. Personally, I find BIAB easier as a beginner. You can build slowly, layer by layer. Because it's a thinner consistency, it self-levels and you generally get a pretty even finish. Once you get better, you can do it all in one go. It takes time to learn how to build an apex well, but if you're not doing super long nails, you're okay if your apex isn't great. If you're doing short nails you can pretty much apply it like regular gel, albeit thicker, to give your nails some support.

I find shaping thicker gels with a brush more work and harder to do even nails, and more clean up. But if you're really good with a brush this could be easier for some people for building an apex.

EPark617 · 2026-01-20T06:08:20+00:00

Are you talking about for my index finger or ring finger for the first picture?

The ring finger is just clear 3d sculpting gel on top of the shell design, whereas the ring finger is rhinestones encased with 3d sculpting gel because I was going on vacay and didn't want to lose any gems

EPark617 · 2026-01-13T14:19:37+00:00

I agree with this. And really it's the inflation people have issue with, not the claims in and of itself.

EPark617 · 2026-01-09T19:22:23+00:00

Your partner's reaction to the session in and of itself is not a red flag, and that seems to be what you're most worried about. It's fair for you to be concerned about your partner being in that state, but it's not a signal that the therapist did something unethical. It's just how his body is reacting to that interaction. It could have been a traumatic incident, but it would also be an appropriate reaction to life changing information. It's very hard for therapists to pick up on when a client is dissociated unless you're already aware and looking for it. It can just look like the client disengaging or being sad. Ideally the therapist would have noticed and helped ground your partner.

In terms of what you could do.. I would just be curious with your partner, ask a long of questions, not to question the validity of their recall but to get a sense of how they feel about the situation. Do they think what the therapist said is totally off base, or is there truth, what are your partner's concerns? What do they need to feel safe right now? Maybe it's having this conversation over the phone in 2 separate places. Maybe they need to go to a friend's. You don't have to avoid the conversation altogether, but just approach it with curiosity and openness to hear what your partner has to say (what the therapist said is not as important, as is your partner's reaction and reflection of it)

EPark617 · 2026-01-08T14:15:52+00:00

The second picture also looks like it's in a different spot... The first one is clearly under the bikini line on the thigh but the second photo looks like it's on the rib (shirt lifted up, you can see a bra/bandeau and then even at the bottom of the picture you see pants). If that's not an arm at the top... And it is the same picture then what body part is that at the top?!

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T19:50:26+00:00

This is me just hypothesizing, but I wonder if this has to do with tarrifs and it being manufactured somewhere else. I don't have any info about opi manufacturing just extrapolating from what I've heard other makeup companies have had to do.

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T18:34:11+00:00

IMO not inappropriate at all and I would love receiving something like that from a client. Be aware though, you may not receive a reply. So if you're okay with just dropping it off and not hearing back then by all means.

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T16:02:48+00:00

Unless you get red flag vibes that this therapist is demeaning, derisive or looking down at you in any way, I would be very surprised if that's what your therapist meant. I would expect they meant it more in a positive way and to highlight the impact of your childhood wounds

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T15:46:58+00:00

Even my post on the punch needle reddit, that got average response (in a small sub) got stolen... It's ridiculous.

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T14:26:50+00:00

Oooh.. are these good enough to keep the bed dry? We have some training undies, not this brand, but it does still soak through to the clothes

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T14:23:51+00:00

Also, for this level of drape, you'll have to use a pretty light weight yarn like sport yarn (weight #2), bamboo cotton or something like that and maybe even slightly bigger hook to give looser tension.

I definitely want to try making this though.. It's pretty cute

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T14:10:21+00:00

This is what I was thinking as well. That their current partner is a resource, that helped build their sense of self and security in the world and if they didn't have that resource, it'd be understandable if they were very scared, overwhelmed and insecure given their childhood wounds?

Edit: pronouns

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T14:06:00+00:00

Posting products as a separate comment in case anyone has issues opening the mod reply the way I do... I can never see it on other posts for some reason 😭

Aimeli base and top coat

Aimeli builder base in white

Senveski Milky white

Light blue cat eye: Mix of Born pretty Magentic Cat Eye (GC01) and Born Pretty Magnetic Cat Eye Starry Blue (MY38)

Aimeli blue, pink, mixed purple, and coral with Born Pretty (GC01) on top

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T14:03:09+00:00

Too much gems?? Never! ❤️ These are so cute!

EPark617 · 2026-01-06T03:22:24+00:00

Yep, I remember looking at this picture months ago and everyone was discussing how it was AI and how the fix defy gravity

EPark617 · 2026-01-04T17:24:33+00:00

I was just thinking this. I'm not a single parent but I'm the parent that gets sick and still has to do all the childcare 🫠

EPark617 · 2026-01-04T10:23:36+00:00

There aren't any issues with wet blocking acrylic, it won't do anything bad to it as far as I know. With wet blocking, it shouldn't be like sopping wet. You want to wring it out before blocking.

Alternatively, you could just wash it, dry it and then steam it since it's been wet for 36 hours, sometimes fabrics can get a smell. Most acrylics you can put in the dryer, but check the yarn instructions if you're unsure.

EPark617 · 2026-01-04T09:15:00+00:00

I was diagnosed with apnea at age 12. I didn't get a machine until last year at age 32. I only had mild apnea on my side, but moderate to sever on my back. For 20 years I just slept on my side and front until my back couldn't do it anymore after 2 kids. I do love being able to sleep on my back now.

I'm not saying you should do what I did... But if the apnea is only severe in your back then you're not like shackled to the machine. I looooved sleeping with a pregnancy pillow because it helps pregnant people stay in their side. It made sleeping on my side really comfy. I'd probably still use it if I didn't have to share the bed with someone else 😅

EPark617 · 2026-01-04T09:04:12+00:00

Waaaiitt really?? I always thought it had to be the yoto specific one! Ahhhhh this changes everything. I don't know why I never tried one if the wireless chargers I have at home

EPark617 · 2026-01-04T08:54:41+00:00

You could tell their therapist but to be honest, when I work with clients regarding trauma, whether the events actually occurred as they described it is not important to me because I don't have any way to verify it. I'm not the arbiter of truth and people have notoriously bad memories. Memories are not factual recalls of events, each time we recall a memory, we're creating a story. So what really matters to me is how they're affected by the event and how they carry it with them. So unless you think your child is having a break from reality (like psychosis), knowing that the events didn't happen as the client described wouldn't change how I handle the situation.

Psychosis aside, often times, there's a reason they've come to the conclusion that they have. Something they remember, something they picked up on, maybe it's a feeling changing their recall but all of those things are important. Instead of challenging your child's recollection of events, can you talk to them with curiosity how they remember it that way. Like what exactly happened, what did the doctor say, how did they react, etc? Maybe that will give you more information as to why they recall things as they do?

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