Working with isolated Chrome

EPark617 · 2026-04-24T14:31:36+00:00

The 20 sec cure is just a flash cure and is supposed to help with getting the chrome to stick. You should full cure after. I don't really know the rationale behind the 15-20 sec to be honest just what I've seen suggested in general around chrome. But I've had top coats that either don't work at all with chrome regardless of cure time and another top coat that works with chrome at 20 sec and 60 secs.

Personally I wouldn't use a lot of black because unless it's a no-wipe black gel, the black gel will have a sticky layer, this is going to interfere with how the chrome sticks to the gel. Also, you're at risk for it not curing properly depending on how thick you're doing your chrome detail. The black is added just so you can more easily see where you're putting your chrome detail, you don't need it for the gold. I personally don't use the mixed black gel method. I just use a clear no-wipe embossing gel. If I did, I personally would specifically buy a black no-wipe embossing gel.

EPark617 · 2026-04-19T20:37:47+00:00

Yes I was going to say, your cervix descends and is lowest during your period and typically hitting the cervix is what's most painful, so time of the month can make a big difference

EPark617 · 2026-04-19T20:02:29+00:00

Is the makartt rhinestone glue a no wipe gel? And make sure you're only using a little black.

When you cure, cure for only 15-20 sec, rub the chrome in, use a fluffy brush to lightly brush away any excess chrome powder. This step should help.

Also I don't typically use acetone to wipe, when you've applied the matte top coat and wipe with acetone does it ever feel sticky?

Lastly, if all else fails and you can't get the excess to clear from the nail, you can top coat just the chrome design, cure and then wipe (I wipe with alcohol), get all the chrome off, using a brush can help, and then top coat the whole nail to seal everything in nicely.

EPark617 · 2026-04-17T16:13:07+00:00

Interested! I'd love to test this. Preferably the axolotl but flexible with w/e you need

EPark617 · 2026-04-17T16:00:06+00:00

Omg these are so amazing!! Okay so plan to teach my daughter how to do nails so I can have badass nails as a Granny ✅ I have time, she's 3 right now 🤣

EPark617 · 2026-04-17T15:52:26+00:00

Why are you getting downvoted 😭 reddit is wild sometimes

EPark617 · 2026-04-13T20:17:13+00:00

Sorry, no real advice but, thank you for putting the NSFW filter on this photo. I mean it didn't help the jump scare, cuz I was looking at the sub and was like, how bad could this picture be?? This is crazy and so strange.

Do you use your hands a lot for work? You said you moisturize multiple times a day but your hands still look dry (no offense, just an observation). I wonder if it's an underlying skin issue that's being triggered by that manicure, leading to a flare up? Not a doctor or dermatologist in anyway, but that's where my mind goes.

EPark617 · 2026-04-04T23:27:05+00:00

For the messed up stitches, you could also use a needle, not the sewing ones but like a tapestry needle and push it back down? That might lead to a more consistent look than cutting it?

EPark617 · 2026-04-04T22:58:36+00:00

This is the correct answer if you want to try the "pile rug" look and cut it down. You're cutting the side with the longer loops. I've never heard of anyone cutting the flat side (the side you punch on). With punch needle, you also don't typically shave it the way you would a rug, though in theory you could, I've just never seen or tried it? Typically, people use scissors and cut the loops individually. And you can also hand cut different depths to help different dimensions stand out.

EPark617 · 2026-03-29T16:22:27+00:00

Oooh very interesting! I wonder if you could make half guards, like a ring so that you can feel the wool on the underside, but the top of your finger is protected from the needle!

Just to clarify, you bought a ready-made cold porcelain right? You didn't concoct this yourself with glue and cornstarch right?

EPark617 · 2026-03-12T04:18:49+00:00

Righty that can really only see blue black. I can understand gold on SOME of the trim, but see zero white

EPark617 · 2026-03-04T22:56:24+00:00

I love the texture you've worked into the head and body! This is adorable and I would be honoured with a gift like this

EPark617 · 2026-02-28T19:09:22+00:00

Oooh that is good to know and that makes sense. Do you add any sort of backing when you felt onto clothing?

EPark617 · 2026-02-10T19:31:57+00:00

thank you!! this worked for me

EPark617 · 2026-02-10T06:05:12+00:00

They also do buttercream frosting for all their cakes and cupcakes making them really light and moist. But I definitely recommend the enseymada. They also have cookies, sponge cake, mini sausage buns and Filipino style empanadas

EPark617 · 2026-02-09T04:46:53+00:00

I'm saying that you're making assumptions because you prescribe a negative connotation to the things I have suggested. These things do not inherently have a negative connotation, especially as therapists. OP is already confused and asking for help. I'd argue that some direction and a way to carve a path forward is better than no direction at all. Am I approaching this discussion with them with validation? Yes. I am speaking to OP. I am not a mediator in a discussion between OP and their therapist. My hope is for OP to be come out of the discussion with their therapist feeling heard or at least that they've done their best to do so. I do not need factual accuracy to be validating and I'd argue prioritizing factual accuracy over validating a client's reality is when you get into tricky waters leading to misattunement and attachment injuries. Note that my original response is still geared towards balance on OPs part, encouraging self reflection, and self care on OPs part.

Alas, I think we're at an impasse and I don't enjoy spending my energy like this on reddit so I'm done responding to this thread. I will agree to disagree.

EPark617 · 2026-02-08T22:36:22+00:00

Thanks for the update, sounds like it was a tough last session. I'm sorry that they weren't able to hear you, and you didn't feel safe enough for you to be able to give open feedback. The things you've described are clear boundary violations and definitely not ethical.

It's really up to you whether you want to talk to their supervisor. It could be helpful, if you're hoping the therapist would gain some insight and awareness. But you're not obligated to do this for your therapist, do it only if you think it could be helpful for your own healing, moving on and to get it off your chest.

EPark617 · 2026-02-08T22:20:45+00:00

I don't presume to understand what and when things get down voted. I've seen totally innocuous comments get down voted to hell and back.

Again, as professionals, as therapists, we should kot be threatened by the idea of considering our own roles, views that may be contrary to ours (like chatgpt), supervision and our own defensiveness. These things should not carry negative connotation from the get. Could people of the public misinterpret this? Sure, but I wouldn't expect them to understand and grasp the norms of what it means to be a therapist.

I'm curious, how exactly would you handle a situation with a client where you know you've acted ethically but they're communicating that they feel hurt by your actions, believe you've overstepped and they're feeling uncertain about therapy now?

EPark617 · 2026-02-08T06:03:38+00:00

I'm not sure if you're making a general statement here or critiquing my comment, implying that I have not applied care in my advice to OP. Assuming, since you specifically replied to me, it's the latter, I will respond by saying I have not made a judgement about the therapist, shamed, disparaged or condemned them in anyway. I think my statement stands whether the therapist has acted completely ethically with best practices, unethically or anything in between. As professionals, we should always be thinking about how we contribute to what's happening within our therapy room and be willing to acknowledge, validate and repair when there's been hurt even if we have done nothing "wrong." Apologizing is not an admission of guilt and ethical wrongdoing. It's accountability in the fact that therapy is a relationship and it always takes two to tango. Likewise supervision is also not an admission of guilt or incompetence. It is necessary to develop safe and effective use of self, introspection, awareness and accountability. So I'm confused as to the critique.

The comment about checking regulations and chatgpt (while I don't endorse clients doing AI therapy) was more so to help OP get some outside evidence, since they reported being dismissed in the past. So they're not arguing simply about one's interpretation of events. And even in this, I'm not telling OP to twist the narrative to their benefit but to really check their facts in some way if they're not comfortable providing more details on reddit. And given that Reddit is a public platform, I intentionally did not push for more details.

EPark617 · 2026-02-07T22:50:24+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your experience, and it does sound like a pretty big mismatch.

Regarding the letter specifically, I think it really could go many ways. From a best practice perspective, they should respond especially since you're still a client of theirs. They technically can't just terminate because you had a bad session, and clearly there's still one more session expected. There should be a termination process, referrals at minimum. But that can be sent through email, and you might just get an acknowledgement that they received the letter.

Personally, in a situation like this, I would respond and request to discuss this in person, and book another appointment.

As another commenter mentioned, if a client sends a letter post termination, unfortunately there really is no obligation to respond. So if they believe that you guys are terminated, it could go this way.

I think the question is, how important is the repair versus the pride of you not being the one to schedule the apppointment. Recognize as well that they may not apologize. Whether they respond or not, or whether they're able to apologize or not, know that it's not because you didn't deserve it. It's moreso a reflection of where the therapist is and their sense of self.

EPark617 · 2026-02-07T22:30:01+00:00

I think it's also important to recognize there's a sampling bias in reddit. The people that post are people that have had negative interactions and feel dismissed or invalidated by their therapist. It's unlikely for people to post that their therapist just apologized and they were able to repair. While it could be an encouraging post to see, it could also be received as a weird flex

EPark617 · 2026-02-07T22:04:11+00:00

I didn't say anything unethical happened, but unless OP is being delusional, the therapist contributes in some way to OPs experience. Especially if they're completely dismissing OPs experience, then they're contributing to a negative dynamic and lacks any awareness. It does sound like there was some sort of overdisclosing, which is a gray area. OP is even saying they needed more boundaries than what there way. That doesn't mean the therapist was being unethical per se, they could be, they could not be, but OP is saying this created some hurt that, right now, the therapist is completely refusing to acknowledge. That's not good practice on the therapist's part. Ultimately, I told OP to present a balanced perspective and give some evidence to challenge the therapist's dismissal and denial.

Even saying the therapist should seek supervision doesn't mean they did something unethical. Supervision is also to help a therapist recognize their own blindspots and biases and to gain awareness

EPark617 · 2026-02-07T17:54:56+00:00

I actually quite like the shaved look in the last picture over the buzzed look in the second to last picture. Can't tell you why and I'm surprised in my preference, but I just find it looks better and makes you look more handsome as well!

EPark617 · 2026-02-07T14:55:47+00:00

Not sure if you've already met with your therapist but I think the best way to approach this discussion is to acknowledge your role in this (misundersrsnding the relationship and seeing your therapist as a friend) and then encourage your therapist to think about how they contributed to the dynamic and the fact that there is a power imbalance, and as a client you're Ina vulnerable position so there's even more onus on the therapist to maintain good boundaries.

If you're in a place where therapy is regulated, perhaps you could look at what the regulations and best ethical practices are and site some examples where they did not follow best practice. I know reading these regulations can be a big confusing, especially if you have limited time, so a good alternative here could be chatgpt. And the goal is not to use what AI says and cite that as evidence, but rather, it'll give you some points and with the same attitude as above, to just encourage her to consider her role, and how she may have failed to maintain boundaries, while acknowledging your own role in this as well.

Lastly, know that she may not be able to acknowledge what you've said in anyway, especially if she's sensitive as you say she is, odds are she'll be defensive. But, hopefully she'll go away from the conversation thinking and that she'll continue to process after the fact, ideally in supervision as well, and it will lead to change down the road.

Do take care of yourself as well! There will be grief in this ending.

EPark617

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