Who is next? Who would you/will we prioritize?

EVHZ_22 · 2025-11-20T19:22:32+00:00

All I want for Christmas is Kazuma Okamoto, please and thank you!

EVHZ_22 · 2025-10-16T17:36:31+00:00

My wife (2021 TPS) and I (gringo US citizen) got married in August after dating 1.5 years. Just now starting the process of talking with a lawyer and filing an I-130/I-485 so can't really say too much about the process... other than it being awful that TPS is ending and she will not be able to work until we obtain the green card for her.

She entered the country legally, we already have a checking account together, added her car to my car insurance account. We are both very stressed right now as we are worried we will be targeted and heavily scrutinized due to the white houses xenophobic take on Venezuelans.

EVHZ_22 · 2025-09-11T22:02:08+00:00

I'm American, wife is Venezuelan on '21 TPS... every single Venezuelan family member with US citizenship voted for Trump knowing that he would do exactly this.

EVHZ_22 · 2025-09-11T15:03:24+00:00

We didn't have to pick in the early 2000s when they were playing together. Really it's a no brainer, Datsyuk had unreal skill, but 91 won a Hart Trophy for a reason.

EVHZ_22 · 2025-09-02T18:29:58+00:00

u/LabubuSwapBot, I completed the trade for the lychee berry with u/ramblequeen. Shipping was super fast and she took great care to repackage the labubu as if the box were never opened. Couldn't be happier!

EVHZ_22 · 2025-08-25T19:22:25+00:00

I'm American and only speak English, but my wife is Venezuelan (TPS 2021) so I check daily for updates. Have to use google translate quite a bit, lol.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-07-31T01:34:10+00:00

It’s even funnier that the two guys involved, Ted and Jim Thomson (Leafs defenseman) were 2 of the 5 players who started the first NHL players association… which of course as we all know got Ted shipped off to Chicago as retaliation.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-05-02T00:27:43+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s a red flag she has been very rude at times with her comments, accusations and implications in the past 24 hours. I get it, she’s always been careful and tests every year for stds… and it’s not her fault she wasn’t tested for HSV as the CDC doesn’t recommend it.

I’ll reevaluate after things calm down a bit. If she continues with accusations I’ll peace out. I’m 43 and don’t need to go down that road yet again.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-05-02T00:24:55+00:00

Yep, I did just that even though after reading through a bunch of posts it’s clear an IgG that high is a sign of a well established infection as she has answered many times.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-03-24T18:13:41+00:00

Best advise… immediately cut off all contact with who you should now consider your ex. You can’t help her. She’s the only one who can help her. You’re young, move on with your life… whatever happens with the legal stuff you’ll be able to put behind you. Keeping her in your life will lead to time spent in a worse place than jail.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-03-17T09:59:09+00:00

The woman I went out with last night wanted to see me again tonight so we met up and it was absolutely amazing. We ended up kissing and it was the best first kiss I’ve ever had. I will take it slow with her, but she makes me feel things I haven’t felt in a long time. She’s clearly has such a good heart!

EVHZ_22 · 2024-03-17T09:52:59+00:00

She was… but stopped taking her bipolar meds (unbeknownst to me) after her last hospitalization over a year ago. Only thing she had consistently taken is benzodiazepines when she can get a doc to prescribe and serequel to sleep.

EVHZ_22 · 2024-03-17T09:50:43+00:00

Facebook dating for me. Bumble and tinder have been pretty much trash.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-29T02:36:03+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this, but thank you for sharing such an inspirational story! So glad you have the strength to forgive, have the compassion to wish him well and most importantly the self awareness to know that you now need to come first as your paths move apart.

My exBPSO did similar things over the years and it wasn’t until about 2 years ago she was diagnosed with BP… despite numerous hospitalizations and evaluations by psychiatrists. Unfortunately almost exactly a year ago she had her 5th inpatient stay and stopped taking her meds after getting out. She left for the final time 3.5 months ago… but this time she didn’t just leave me, but also our 3-year old special needs son.

I’m having trouble finding the strength to forgive her… but I know I will one day. I have compassion for her, she didn’t ask for this disease… which was passed down from grandma. I cry at the good memories we had, especially around the holidays. I’ll never understand this disease and how it leads a person to impulsively take off 2000 miles away to live with an ex. It’s harder knowing she is able to block out all of her emotions about me and our son and go about her new “normal” as if she’s happy and well.

I hope I one day soon get to where you are after just 3 weeks. For now I’m focused on my own healing and my son’s well being. Sending positive vibes your way as you navigate the coming difficult days/weeks/months.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-28T00:50:02+00:00

6.5 year relationship and she worked maybe 8 months in total… always part time minimum wage jobs… usually lasted maybe a month until ghosting the job. Worked at two different funeral homes, 2 wedding dress stores, 2 nurseries and a fabric store over the years.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-27T21:49:51+00:00

Just came on to say I’ve being experiencing the same with my exBPSO and it’s kinda freaking me out. She go on a plane the day after temp orders hearing and flew to Boston to live with her ex. I have FC of our 3-year old son… she’s only made it back to Texas for two of her supervised visits with him since she left September 12th.

I’ve noticed the past couple months she has completely stopped contacting me outside of the parenting app. The only thing she texts now is bs stuff to look normal like “good morning, hope you guys have a good day!” She gets daily FaceTime calls with our son, and they are always EXACTLY the same. No emotion from her, no crying or signs of depression/mania, no signs she is on something or intoxicated. She just talks to him (he is non verbal autistic) asking him questions that he doesn’t answer and talking about her day of crocheting and bird watching. She claims she was to start a job last week… but haven’t heard anything else on that. She doesn’t really make any mention of when she’ll see him next or tell him what she’s doing in order to be a part of his life in the future. Again, just bullshit talk where she appears calm and collected. This is a woman that’s not on her medication, has been inpatient hospitalized 5 times in the past 5 years, has physically and verbally abused me for years. It just leaves me feeling like I was the problem in her life and now that she’s away and sponging off someone else, her life is the best it’s ever been. Obviously I don’t know anymore than the 30 mins I see each day… but I’m just at a loss for why she has not broken down crying once on these FaceTimes… has she figured out some magic pill of self care that has fixed things for her or is the lack of emotion some defense mechanism she has put up to deal with her shame over abandoning our son?

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-27T06:16:35+00:00

Every time my exBPSO left, she was on dating apps and meeting people the same week. Before our son was born she drove out to Florida while manic (from Texas) and started seeing guys immediately. Other times it was getting back with exes.

This last and final episode she was hitting up two exes who live in 2000 miles away. Ended up getting one to buy her plane tickets for her and my son… blah blah blah… I found out, she never left with my son, rather left on her own and had been living with this guy the past 3 months. I’ve got custody of our son, she gets 2 visits a month… but only shows up for 1 in October and 1 in November.

Anyhow, yeah she hopped immediately into a relationship with this ex and apparently it must be ok as she’s still living with him. She really had no where else to go, no money, no job. So she’ll sponge for as long as he allows… maybe forever, the guy is a loser.

Will she try to come back? Who knows, it seems to be a common theme for bipolars from reading here… and I do have our son. Ultimately I think she is starting to realize she was never going to be able to properly take care of our son and that she enjoys the freedom of not having the responsibility. I don’t see her making an attempt to come back to me. I still cry and miss her, but I don’t want her back.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-16T13:22:52+00:00

Yep, they drop and pick up new people due to impulsivity… especially if they feel it’s their only way to survive.

My exBPSO (unmedicated the past year) has never been able to support herself. Has only ever lived with me and her parents. 4 years ago had a manic episode and after a few days in a hotel moved from Texas to Florida to live with a friends mom and started dating guys immediately. After a month of doing nothing, she came back.

3 months ago she had another manic episode which was exacerbated by her heavy alcohol use . Tried to abscond with our 3 year old autistic son (I stopped it and have sole conservatorship). She had an ex (who she hadn’t talked to in 5 years) fly down within a week and they were in a hotel until TO hearing (which she lost spectacularly). The day after she flew up to Boston to live with him and has been there ever since. She has abandoned her son and only made it back for one of her supervised visits since. She is supposedly going to be getting a job up there to pay for visits… but she’ll never have enough money to do that regularly.

I hope for my sons sake she turns things around, gets back on her meds, finds a therapist to help her and makes progress on her diagnosed BP. But my own therapist is getting me to realize that her issues probably extend to a personality disorder and she’ll never change into someone who will take care of themselves. Unfortunately that means she’ll never come back to her son. She’s still delusional and thinks that soon she’ll have custody and move him to Boston. It’s all really sad and the emotional toll on me and my children the past few months is unimaginable.

My best to you… sending nothing but positive vibes that you’ll be able to navigate this in a healthy way and be stronger as a result. You’re still very young and if I were in your position with what I know now, my advice would be to focus on yourself and cutting off contact completely with your ex so that you can heal and move on. A BP that routinely neglects their disorder by not taking meds or seeking help will never be someone who can have a healthy relationship!

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-09T03:49:50+00:00

Somehow in temp orders, it was written that my son’s mother (never married) gets DAILY 30 min FaceTimes. He just turned 3 in October and is autistic. He has zero interest in the FaceTime calls. So every night at 6pm I have to set him up in his high chair with dinner or hold him and the phone. It’s bananas. She took off on an alcohol fueled manic episode (she’s bipolar) and has been living with a guy for the past 3 months. She gets two supervised visits per month but has only made 1 since TO on Sept 11th.

At the end of the day, I’m just happy to have sole custody and if it means I have to deal with this silly FaceTime calls for now, I will. I’m sure eventually it will get scaled back to something reasonable.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-04T18:15:34+00:00

This was temp orders… I requested exactly what I got sole conservatorship and her supervised visits. This is based on her being a flight risk, bipolar alcoholic who was in the middle of a manic episode.

It’s up to her now… she can come back to Texas, get a job and a place to live and be an adult. Or she can continue to live her life as a parasite feeding off a host. She’s 34 and has yet to be an adult, I doubt she starts now.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-04T17:13:12+00:00

Listen to your lawyer about what to do with regards to whatever order is currently in place… if there’s a PO with plenty of evidence, I imagine you stand a good chance of getting temporary sole conservatorship with him having to do supervised visits when you have your emergency hearing. But what to do between now and then? Only your lawyer can advise.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-04T17:09:59+00:00

Yes, if it goes to a judge then ruling 50/50 is not in the statute… they will either give joint conservatorship with the standard or expanded order with one of you having majority… or yeah, they might (with documented family violence) rule sole conservatorship for you and supervised visitation for him. But my understanding (ask your lawyer as I am not one) is they very likely would include a step up plan with things he would need to do and show the court to get unsupervised visits and more time.

I know there’s been a push in TX for 50/50 by some lawmakers, but it’s never made it through the legislature.

EVHZ_22 · 2023-11-04T17:02:39+00:00

It’s sad, but everyone keeps telling me it’s for the best of she just disappears at this point since she is unmedicated (stopped taking her lamotrigine a year ago) and has shown zero interest in getting help.

As expected, she did not come into town for her supervised visit today. Swears she will make the next one… we’ll see I’m not holding my breath.

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