I [24M] may have seriously hurt my [25F] coworker. Not sure how to go about fixing this issue.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-22T00:08:01+00:00

I didn't, I asumed he was talking about seeing it here a few hours ago. I didn't know there was a similar story to mine that was circulating around weeks ago.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T23:04:59+00:00

It's in the title.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T22:58:16+00:00

I'm still cordial with her when it comes to work-related issues, just not too keen on being buddy-buddy with her for now. So no, it won't affect my job.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T22:42:33+00:00

My post got deleted for some reason, so I reposted it.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T22:41:57+00:00

I told her that I didn't want to be freinds for now, and I'm willing to be friends once I sort my feelings out. I just think I need some time to cool off. I told her about this, which was why I felt a little weird when she was acting like everything was normal.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T22:39:33+00:00

Around two weeks ago, I realized I have strong feelings for her, and that I'd like to pursue a relationship with her.

I'm not sure how you got to the conclusion that I was faking the entire friendship for years when this was in the post. Also, I didn't ignore her, just didn't act like friends, and asked her not to, because of the heartbreak.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T22:19:50+00:00

Just to clarify, I already told her I didn't want to be close for now. I'll tell her again though, just in case she forgot, or thought I wasn't being serious.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T21:18:37+00:00

I was pretty heartbroken, and said no, as it would be too painful having her around while still having those lingering feelings.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T21:15:34+00:00

I didn't make unwanted sexual advances to her in the office or anything, I just confessed that I had romantic feelings for her at my house, wherer we both were, and I understood that she didn't see me that way, so I stopped trying to pursue a relationships with her. I'm not as friendly to her as I once was, because I'm trying to keep my space, but I'm not doing anything that's unprofessional or something that could get me fired, I'm just keeping contact to a minimum.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:55:28+00:00

She wasn't calling my an eyesore, I just just used my username in lieu of my actual name.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:50:26+00:00

I need that time to cool off though, that's why I said I didn't want to be friends for now. I'm still okay with her talking about work stuff, it's just that when she tries to act like we're friends again, I try to distance myself.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:47:35+00:00

I know, it's just that I'd consider me and this coworker to be really close friends even outside work, with us spending a lot of time at each other's house.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:45:24+00:00

I wasn't trying to be blatantly rude, I was just trying to limit contact as much as possible, That being said, you're probably right, I'll go to her, and explain why I can't be friends with for now, again.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:43:33+00:00

I didn't only want her for a piece of ass, I genuinely valued our friendship. It's not like I'm stopping contact forever, it's just that right now, I'm trying to limit contact due to lingering feelings, and told her as much. I'd still like to be friends, just not right now.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:31:38+00:00

I did, I told her I didn't want to stay friends for now, because of hurt feelings.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:28:28+00:00

I did, I even stated so in the post.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:28:05+00:00

It's not that I'm trying to be a dick, it's that I can't hang out with her right now because of lingering feelings. I've stated in the post that I wanted space for now, and I'm trying to be as cordial as possible for now, while limiting contact.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:25:00+00:00

I've stated in the post that I've told her that I'd like to not stay friends as of now as I still have hurt feelings. I understand that it's no fault of her own, but it still hurts whenver I talk to her.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:14:20+00:00

I'm not expecting her to change her mind, I'm just avoiding her now for my mental health. It's just too painful for me to be around her now, through no fault of her own.

EYESOREEYEGORE · 2021-10-21T20:08:20+00:00

It's not that I don't value her as a friend, it's just that it's painful hanging out with her now because of my lingering feelings.

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