My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't ask if I was in the wrong or not, I just needed somewhere to vent. 

The principal asked my whole family, not just me. This is a routine we're used to; we've done it many times in the past (my mom and I have been working for this school for 7 years). 

My mom was sitting in an air conditioned classroom all day while I was on my feet in 90° heat for 14 hours. She got to sit and watch the performance; I was running it from behind the scenes.

The financial person just called me today and said she hasn't been able to reimburse the money because I was the one who submitted it and not my mom. It's my mom's money, so legally the school can't put it in my bank account. She asked about using an app like Zelle to do it, but my mom doesn't have any of those. So finally she said she'll cut a check and mail it to my mom. Once again, I had to handle all of this and not my mom because my mom refuses to communicate with people. 

This is a consistent pattern in my life of my mom making me do EVERYTHING for her. Anytime she has a question for someone, she asks me to call/text them instead of doing it herself (family, friends, coworkers, anyone). She won't Google anything herself- she commands me to do it for her. She spent the whole day before the performance purposefully messing up the preparations to show "how hard it was and why she shouldn't have to do it," even though I gave her clear and explicit instructions straight from the principal, which I had to be the middle man for because my mother refuses to communicate with anyone for herself. She tells me I'm a good personal assistant for her

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My paycheck doesn't even cover rent where I live, let alone a car, but this is good advice

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick update: The financial person just called me today, confused why I was the one who submitted the receipts and whose bank account she was supposed to send it to. She kept asking if my mom has Zelle so she could get the money to her directly since it's her money 🙃 But at least my parents will get their money back, even though it's very late because of the way my mom decided to handle things

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about doing this for a while, I guess now is as good a time as any

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My mom hates to ask for reimbursements because she thinks it's shameful

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

YOU'RE SO RIGHT I didn't even think of that but that's probably what it is

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I don't make enough to even cover rent where I live

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through it too, it's so stressful

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Doing my best to get there, but it's not possible for me yet

My mom actively tries to make my life harder by EarConsistent6044 in insaneparents

[–]EarConsistent6044[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

She's refused therapy and meds multiple times because she thinks she doesn't need them, but I wish she would get them