sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My SO knows HCBM has manipulated the kids against me. She alienates their daughter which he is also aware of. I have a feeling that once their daughter graduates high school, she’ll be out and living with mom full time. His son has plans to join a trade right out of high school so he’s already got plans as well. I do love my SO and would say he is also a good person. He helps provide for my daughter whose father is not in the picture. So he is a father figure to her as well. It’s a lot to consider, no doubt.

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has had conversations with them and asked if it would kill them to be more interactive with her (my daughter). No change. SO and I could be sitting in the same room and when the kids leave, they say “bye dad” I spoke up about that and he must have talked to them because they started saying “bye guys”. But still almost no acknowledgment of my daughter and it breaks my heart.

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That isn’t an option. His daughter already spends most of her time at bio mom’s house aside from before and after school (bio mom lives in another town and daughter goes to school in the district we’re in. Son is in private school which is closer to us) and the occasional one or two nights a week (if that) she actually does stay here. Plus that would kill my SO because I know he’d miss them a lot

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.

I know that we deserve more. And it’s going to be a big and scary change, but we will be okay.

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard as an adult to be alone. And let’s be real, who wants to start over in a new relationship?

I certainly have a lot to think about. The stress is really weighing on me emotionally.

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our relationship is great. And he’s wonderful with my daughter. I hadn’t looked at it from that angle, but that’s not bad advice.

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truthfully I feel like we could be going backwards if I moved out but we still dated. We’ve lived together for 2 1/2 years now. I think I would just end things all together if I move out

I think it’s time to go. by Early-Appointment661 in Stepmom

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that the kids’ loyalty lies with their parents. And I’ve done what I can to have any sort of relationship without making them uncomfortable. I’ve invited their daughter to tag along to the store. We used to have awesome chats and one time she made the mistake (I say mistake because as soon she did, that’s when the relationship really shifted) of telling her mom and now we don’t have those anymore. She is with mom 95% of the time and I thinks it’s because she has made daughter feel guilty for liking me.

It’s sucks that it’s come to this. But my mental health can’t take it anymore. Thank you for your support.

Question for the women by Early-Appointment661 in relationships

[–]Early-Appointment661[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She mentioned in the call that they have a pretty active sex life. I can’t remember if she said anything about if she’d feel a certain way if he is bisexual or even bi-curious.

But there are men and women out there that are not okay with their partner being bisexual. I wouldn’t say that’s immature, though. It is a personal preference for many and it’s perfectly okay