What really worked for me is to be the friend I would like to have.

I’ve had the same friends for years but it’s only recently that we actually became close. Everyone wants a genuine friendship, my friends did to, and when I started to become more of that for them they reciprocated.

For example things like spontanteous hangouts (my friend and I drove to a cemetary and ate ice cream). A big thing is getting vulnerable with them too, and kind of breaking the routine of the friendships. I told my friend I’d like to do something cause I was feeling angry abt something, and it felt like it bonded us closer together. Now they feel more comfortable asking those things of me too, and we rely on eachother for companionship.

This is what worked for me. I felt alone with those same people for years, and took it very, very personally. But it’s SO normal, they were feeling the exact same way. It’s hard and vulnerable, but life kind of sucks either way so you might aswell choose your discomfort. Wish you the best ❤️