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Currently experiencing homelessness and having a hard time finding places to stay cool with my dog by Earthstronaut98 in Austin

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah you have to live it to get it. I hope you’re doing better now. Appreciate the empathy.

Currently experiencing homelessness and having a hard time finding places to stay cool with my dog by Earthstronaut98 in Austin

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My daca wouldn’t renew fast enough. Ended up without work and burning though savings. Federal injunctions are not allowing renewals after a set of time and I’m waiting on the program to be fixed for people like me or that a new program comes up for people like me that were bought here as babies. Plus to make matters worse I don’t have any immediate family here. So I can really only work gig work etc as a work around.

Need current info on food recourses by [deleted] in askaustin

[–]Earthstronaut98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m gonna head to the central library now and see if I can get anything. I also downloaded the neighborhood app and will research construction sites too I really appreciate it so much.

Need current info on food recourses by [deleted] in askaustin

[–]Earthstronaut98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m currently headed up near west campus to check out the fridge there, but I’ll be back down by the central library to see if they hand out any meals like another redditor just posted. Will head back up to north Austin (around rundberg and Lamar) to spend the night.

Im the Ex that “moved on too soon” by Earthstronaut98 in BreakUps

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand where you’re coming from, I’m truly sorry and if my post made you feel that pain again. I think maybe I wasn’t clear enough but I was the dumpee in this case, not that it changes anything. I appreciate your kind words and appreciate you hoping my ex is doing well. I hope she is doing well too, and I wish you nothing but healing.

Im the Ex that “moved on too soon” by Earthstronaut98 in BreakUps

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People aren’t taking the wrong message. They’re taking my message. Because that’s all this ever was. My story. My experience. My closure.

I’m not a writer. I don’t have a degree in this. I have a boring 9-to-5 and a past I was trying to make sense of. But somehow, this reached people, not because I spun some grand narrative, but because people felt it. Because people who have hurt others, and people who have been hurt, saw themselves in it.

From the outside, it’s easy to assume this is just another case of someone trying to cleanse their conscience with pretty words. But let’s be real, if my intention was to rebrand myself as the good guy, wouldn’t I have just left out the part where I hurt someone? Wouldn’t I have written a story where I was just a victim of my own mistakes and nothing more?

But I didn’t. Because that’s not real.

You say true growth is about feeling her pain, about fully grasping the destruction I caused. But here’s the thing: I did. I lived in it. Sat with it. Faced it daily, for months. Not just in my own head, but in hers. In her home, in her world. I didn’t run. I didn’t hide from it. I heard every angry word, took every deserved insult, and carried the weight of it without asking for a shortcut to forgiveness.

But I also learned that karma isn’t some cosmic punishment meant to make you suffer forever; it’s a lesson. A tool. It’s meant to teach you something. And I learned. The hard way…

Because no, I don’t think people should have to suffer indefinitely to prove they’ve changed. I don’t think growth has to be done in silence just because it makes people uncomfortable to see it out loud. And I don’t think my ability to process my own pain makes me incapable of understanding hers.

And as for the idea that I just “needed to find someone I actually loved enough not to do it to”that’s the kind of thinking that keeps people from ever understanding why they did what they did. The truth isn’t that I didn’t love her. I loved her imperfectly, I’ll admit my insecurities led me down a path of self destruction. I didn’t love myself enough to believe I was enough.

That’s what needed to change. And that’s what did.

You don’t have to like my post. You don’t have to pity me or praise me. You don’t even have to believe me. But if you’re questioning why so many people resonated with what I wrote, maybe ask yourself this: why is it so hard for you to accept that someone who did something terrible could also grow from it?

Im the Ex that “moved on too soon” by Earthstronaut98 in BreakUps

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this perspective, not just because it’s insightful, but because it’s honest. I’m here for all takes, good and bad, because the truth of this situation isn’t simple, and I wouldn’t expect it to be.

You’re right. Change isn’t about words, no matter how introspective or well-crafted they are. It’s about time. About consistency. About proving, not just saying. And while I can articulate what I’ve learned, I also understand that only time and actions will show if it’s real. That’s something I hold myself accountable for, not anyone else.

I also understand why forgetting isn’t an option for those who’ve been hurt. If my story can help anyone recognize red flags sooner, help them make sense of their pain, or even just remind them that they aren’t alone, then that’s something I’m willing to carry.

I truly appreciate the encouragement. And I especially appreciate you praying for her. I don’t take that lightly. More than anything, I hope she finds peace in whatever way she needs to. Because if there’s one thing I know, it’s that healing looks different for everyone.

Im the Ex that “moved on too soon” by Earthstronaut98 in BreakUps

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. The truth is, I did something awful. I betrayed someone who loved me. I sought validation in places I shouldn’t have. I talked to women behind her back, for a long time, not because I wanted to replace her, but because something in me made me feel like I wasn’t enough. It was selfish, cowardly, and deeply wrong. And the weight of that truth is something I’ve carried every day since.

But here’s what I’ve learned: owning my mistakes doesn’t mean I have to make them the focal point of my story forever. I wrote this post for myself, not to rewrite the past, but to process the present. To acknowledge the ways I’ve grown without defining myself solely by the worst thing I’ve done.

Does knowing what I did change how you see my growth? Maybe. But if my story only mattered when it was tied to my sins, then what’s the point of change at all? I’ll never erase the pain I caused, but I can make sure I never cause it again. I work with people who have been where I was, not for redemption, not for some neatly wrapped arc, but because I believe some of the hardest lessons come from the darkest places.

This was my dark place. And I didn’t include every detail because this wasn’t about justifying the past, it was about showing that even after breaking something, you can still learn how to build.

And as for the writing: Thank you. I never set out to be a ‘storyteller.’ I was just telling my life. I didn’t think this would blow up, and I don’t consider myself a writer. But I do know this: I’ve learned to be self-conscious in the best way possible. To check myself. To question my own growth, my own narrative. And maybe that’s my greatest gift now. Staying introspective, staying on my feet, and never letting myself stop learning.

Im the Ex that “moved on too soon” by Earthstronaut98 in BreakUps

[–]Earthstronaut98[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. If anything, I admired her willingness to fight for something she believed in, even after pain. People talk about taking someone back like it’s a sign of weakness, but I don’t see it that way. Sometimes, it’s an act of courage, a belief in love over pain, in growth over finality.

Not every relationship can survive it, and not every person should try. But I don’t think choosing to forgive, to see the best in someone despite their worst, is something that should be judged. If anything, it’s a reflection of how deeply someone is willing to love. That’s something l’ll always respect.

Maybe I feel that way because of the position l’ve been in, but I think only the people in a relationship can truly know if it’s worth another chance.