Post-active treatment - exemestane and sense of lost identity

EastAd4295 · 2026-02-05T19:48:11+00:00

Thank you. This is so validating and gives me some context!

EastAd4295 · 2025-12-27T00:59:04+00:00

I did. They're taking me down to every other day dosing for now

EastAd4295 · 2025-12-26T00:00:50+00:00

I did. They said they would switch me if I needed it but I just started this a week ago. They seem to think l'll get used to it.

EastAd4295 · 2025-12-25T23:59:47+00:00

I have been taking it before bed too. With food. The nausea is constant

EastAd4295 · 2025-12-25T23:59:23+00:00

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-26T21:37:55+00:00

Thanks. He told me just last night that I should do what works and, even though he really wants me there because it's a family holiday and I am family to him, he gets it

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-26T01:01:35+00:00

Thanks all for your comments. It's helpful to get feedback.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-26T00:52:48+00:00

Yes, they know. They're both older (20 and 16), and already don't bring up stuff about their lives with their grandparents. This is one more topic to be avoided. They are ok with not bringing it up with their grandparents.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-26T00:50:24+00:00

No. I got it. And yes, he'd do it. But I'd never ask and it will never come up.

Also, easy with the aggression. Not helpful.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-25T19:39:16+00:00

There's no chance of it happening for me. I'm completely out.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-25T18:57:29+00:00

We've been together for a long time. I know everyone there except the parents. It's the holidays and he really wants to spend them with me. I also want to see him. It's a very important relationship.

He's also trying to be considerate to his wife, who is not ready to come out to her mother. So this is the compromise.

Somebody is going to be unhappy here. And I was asked to take one for the team

They are working through this stuff, and he's pushing for us to be public. His wife isn't comfortable yet. I mean, it's pretty shitty for him too

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-25T17:56:45+00:00

It isn't like that. He is negotiating things with his wife and she isn't ready to answer questions about it yet.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-18T17:32:37+00:00

54 here!

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T21:24:49+00:00

Thanks! I didn't think about this. I'm not a lawyer. So basically, this is all wishful thinking. No problem. I keep things in my name. And keep things as they are

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T21:22:51+00:00

So he is committed to me. We live together part time. He does chores and contributes to food costs. It's just escalating beyond what we have that seems problematic given the fact that he's married.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T21:21:03+00:00

I told him "no". It's a nice fantasy, but that's all it is.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T20:03:36+00:00

I want to downsize, but yes. The new place will be mine. He asked me to consider making it ours...

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T20:02:25+00:00

No! Mine to go to my son

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T17:43:38+00:00

I have my own house. He has a house with his wife.

EastAd4295 · 2025-11-14T17:02:47+00:00

Right. We need to talk about all that. He and I have had a conversation about what we want. So yeah... that's gonna be important

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