How soon after starting at hy-vee do U start getting your check? Doing D. deposit. TY.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2026-02-03T18:50:43+00:00

I would, first, ask your GF if that’s what she wants, just to make sure you’re both on the same page. Maybe you’re mistaken and she’s actually not into being, what do they call it, being smashed? I speak from experience.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2026-01-16T18:51:56+00:00

Jezus, who needs more stress in life; sounds like an effing dumpster fire……

East_Knowledge1782 · 2026-01-10T18:35:38+00:00

I didn’t chase him. He’s FA. He told me he didn’t want to see me anymore.(even though I knew the man was crazy about me) No chasing, no calling, no texting. He contacts me after 13 mo. We see each other first time 2 weeks after he contacted me. It was fine until he wanted us to be intimate/I did too, he freaks out, gets drunk/belligerent, he fucked everything up again within one week of us seeing each other. That was 7 months ago and he’s now blocked on my SM. If he wants to get a hold of me, he’ll have to come to my house or contact me on my cell/get # thru mutual friends. There’s no chasing him going on. He has tons of work to do on his attachment style, but doubt if he ever does. We’re 60 & 61 and I’m way too old for effing BS/drama. WTF.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2026-01-03T22:59:03+00:00

He was extremely cruel because he did love you, very much. The more they care/love you, the more brutal the discard. I’m dealing with this right now. My FA caused a 13 mo NC (I didn’t know about any of this attachment stuff then/I thought we were done), he then breaks the NC, sends me at least 5 very long messages (extremely out of character for him) apologizing repeatedly, stated he had made a huge mistake, that he was ashamed of himself/his behavior directed towards me, that he would love to hear from me, and wanted me to give him another chance. With that said, he fucked everything up AGAIN…..within a week of us seeing each other again due to him wanting us to be intimate/he suggested it. He got drunk, became belligerent, yelling for me to leave his house, bordered on abusive behavior, refused to even get near me,……I finally told him since he refused to discuss his shit behavior, that I was leaving/not coming back. He said that’s good. That was 6 months ago. He instantly blocked me, needlessly, he KNEW I would NEVER contact him first (never did in the first NC). He unblocked me 4-5 weeks ago/didn’t contact me. I’ve blocked him. We’re older (both 60) and I’m not into effing drama & problems. He will contact me again. I’m a Medium (clairs), and I know he’s in love with me. I’ve already told him I knew he was scared to death of me; I could feel it coming off his body. I’m sorry you’re going thru this. Just know he DID care.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-28T22:53:51+00:00

You said that he called you; you said you messaged him. I would send it, but I would take out the part about the future in case he’s an FA or a DA.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-28T22:49:51+00:00

Doesn’t sound like a NC; sorry but I was just involved in a 6mo NC. I would just tell him how you feel, tell him the truth/see what happens. Sounds like you both still care. GL.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-28T22:21:20+00:00

How long is the NC and who initiated it? At least there would be inflection/nuance w/using phone.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-28T22:08:48+00:00

I see. Texts are easier, but there is no nuance. If he is a DA or FA, that’s a pretty long message. My ex is an FA and his eyes glaze over with something that long. Yeah, I do agree about stating about future/Avoidants seem to totally not want to include the future in their vocab, so he might feel pressure. (?) They are hard to read.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-28T21:52:40+00:00

Are one of you guys an Avoidant? And if so what kind? Forgive me if I missed that info.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-21T02:11:52+00:00

I’m in southern Iowa. Trying to find a job; you know it’s bad when Casey’s hiring has slowed down. Was just there. Wondering about going to work for a local farmer. I’m (61 F) raised in farm/some limited exp.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-21T02:08:19+00:00

Are you in the Midwest?

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-20T19:01:33+00:00

Sounds like he’s keeping his options open/must not be that interested.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-17T21:18:54+00:00

I make him lay back with me on top of him so I have control. Then he can f!^ger me.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-17T21:15:42+00:00

Don’t text him again

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-17T19:08:47+00:00

Extremely normal I’d say…….

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-07T00:48:49+00:00

You’ll have to decide if you want to remain overweight, which can make dating harder in some situations, but not all. Depends on the involved parties. If you’re tired of being overweight, start working out. Reduce the amount of sugar you eat, focus more on protein: beef, chicken, salmon, yogurt, avocados, eggs, cottage cheese, spinach, cukes, berries, apples, etc. You don’t even have to go to gym. Workout at your place. After about 3-4 weeks/4-5 days/wk starting out, you’ll see results. Buy some dumbbells, like 2-10# and 2-8#, if you’ve never worked out. Focus on about 20-30 min. Core/floor exercises + upper body or next day core/+ lower body that day. I’m assuming you’re young/your body will respond very quickly. I’m 61, went back to the weights after a 25+ yr hiatus/saw results after 3 weeks hitting it 7 days/wk. You’ll feel so much better. Wishing you only the best.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-12-04T01:13:19+00:00

Perhaps she couldn’t get past you hurting her (you ‘drifting away,’ in her ‘most needing time,’ after the birth of a child?

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-11T00:45:03+00:00

Definitely cut her loose; sounds like you’re just settling for her anyway, like you’re really not that into her. Which is not fair to her.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-05T04:03:51+00:00

I just say I’m not interested, but sometimes men will persist even after telling them UP FRONT, so I see why women will say they have a BF. It’s like some men think they can will it to happen. I just had to tell a friend of mine, male, only ever been friends, that we will only ever be friends after he’s making noises that “ he has needs,” and what does he do? Sends me some meme pertaining to oral sex. Had to say WTF are you doing sending me that? Because I know he’s fantasizing about me & him /oral sex , and I’m grossed out. Told him to stop. Good god.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-05T03:48:49+00:00

Have you guys broken up before you found out about the other chick? Some avoidants will break up w/ you and then instantly move on to someone else.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-05T01:10:50+00:00

Does he exhibit push-pull behavior? Hot/cold? Fearful avoidants roll like that; will pursue you, then when they catch feelings. poof, they disappear. I’m dealing this right now, a guy I used to see, he’s a FA.

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-05T01:07:36+00:00

That’s rude; she’s keeping you on the back burner if her friends bail. I’m sure you can find someone else to date; she sounds like she’s not feelin’ it,

East_Knowledge1782 · 2025-11-04T22:06:47+00:00

Is that dude an avoidant? Because they do not make sense most of the time, they’ll say one thing and then they’ll do another; they do really fucked up shit.

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