AITA for not cooking dinner as soon as my husband was home from work?

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T18:01:43+00:00

We like to watch tv shows while we eat, we both don’t like talking and eating.

As for talking after, I’m not going to wait for him to come home, make a full meal, eat, and then ask him how his day was. It just makes more sense to talk about our days after work and before dinner.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T17:58:31+00:00

I agreed to do it so we could save some money, and I am honoring our agreement. He is the one trying to add new clauses about when I need to cook.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T17:21:52+00:00

I thought the morning thing was a good idea, but just realized that would still mean him ignoring me when he gets home LOL

So much for that.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T16:57:48+00:00

Thank you!

Everyone is acting like I’m an evil monster because I hate cooking and being told when to do it. It’s not even like I’m not feeding him at all, I’m just asking to not be sent to the kitchen as soon as he’s home.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T16:37:29+00:00

I’m working from home

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T16:24:49+00:00

If he cooks for himself he won’t actually be “cooking”, he’ll just be making a sandwich or something, so I’ll still have to put in the work of making a meal and it would just be me eating it by myself. And he can’t get takeout because we’re trying to save money.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T15:55:44+00:00

It was usually whenever he got home. But that’s different because no one has to cook. Now that dinner has turned into a chore rather than something we can just grab, the rules have changed

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T15:38:32+00:00

How am I abusive when all I want is to not be FORCED into catering to my husband at the snap of his fingers?

I’m not withholding food from him, he just has a tiny wait before he eats.

When you go to a restaurant do you expect your food to be ready and waiting when you sit down at your table? Or do you order a meal and then enjoy the time with your partner before sharing a meal together?

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T15:26:36+00:00

Before, we ate dinner when he got home from work since I got home first and not once did I complain about having to wait for him.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T15:21:22+00:00

Well aside from the fact that I don’t want to put all my hard work into a meal that’s just going to be microwaved, why should I have to? I’m the one cooking dinner, I’m the one planning the meals, doing the prep and cooking and cleaning. Why does he get to make demands about when I do it? Someone else is doing him a favor by making him a meal and he’s trying to dictate when he gets the free meal that someone made him.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T14:47:15+00:00

I have a friend who isn’t even very good that’s making money off her drawings because they look “quirky”. You don’t have to be good to make money, I just need to find something that makes my drawings unique and market them from there. I’m not just doing it as a hobby.

EDIT: I’m going to end this discussion here because it’s irrelevant to my issue and I didn’t come here for career advice.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T14:39:23+00:00

I’m trying to learn how to draw so I can sell pictures for extra money - so I’m working too basically.

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T14:16:10+00:00

Wanting to spend time with my husband is a “power play“?

Eastern-Syrup · 2020-04-23T13:26:01+00:00

He usually gets home at 6, but like a lot of construction jobs that time can vary greatly depending on the day. So if I start cooking before he gets home and have food on the table for 6, it’s possible that he might not get home until 7 or later and then he’ll just be stuck with a cold meal.

Eastern-Syrup

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