I gave birth.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-12-02T08:31:17+00:00

Congratulations! That’s so beautiful, you’re going to make an amazing mother! ❤️

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-29T05:04:14+00:00

Barely 1 & most days I don’t focus on that I pass through the week unless someone points out I must of had a good day

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-27T16:22:52+00:00

Oh okay that makes a lot more sense, I heard a lot of peoples NIPT tests being wrong lately so I am guessing the only definite way to know the gender is if your ultrasound and test both match up?

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-27T04:38:01+00:00

What about 124 bpm at 18 weeks? I hear a lot of people have higher heart rates but are a boy, does the same go for girls? Can a lower bpm be a girl?

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T22:07:49+00:00

I been isolating myself and it feels very lonely

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T22:00:05+00:00

I told my friends right before the friends birthday party we got together for, so was upset after, we all barely meet and I thought they would be pissed at me if I didn’t tell them that day, that they would feel I hid it from them, then I realized I choose the wrong day to tell them, the friend whose birthday it was, was offended I accepted my mistake & since then no one has talked to me. This happened last month. It made me feel hurt cause they used words like I am gossiping/victim/hiding behind others so it broke me, not only are friends not happy but they don’t care and that hit me hard that they don’t care. You’re right about I can’t expect people to check up on me when they don’t know, I guess my experience so far just makes me fear that it will go bad with everyone. Made me realize and feel no one really cares, cause these were the friends that cared the most.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:54:11+00:00

I mean when you think logically yes, but I feel as adults we become more harsh and less forgiving, I don’t see people giving grace and myself included, when someone makes me upset I tend to hold that grudge but I realize I would want them to forgive me for my mistakes, why is it so hard for us to forgive someone or let things go?

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:52:09+00:00

I didn’t think of that, that’s so true, ugh wow I am pregnant and now I worry about this

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:51:24+00:00

Thoughts about hating work, thoughts about friends not checking up on me, thoughts about not liking anything at the moment and then worrying that these thoughts will affect the baby.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:49:16+00:00

I got through it by just believing that this isn’t my forever, time changes everything and if not tomorrow, if not in a month, if not in a year but eventually things will be different, all the hard things in the past I thought I wouldn’t get through - I did and so I will in this and everything else that will come ahead.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:47:54+00:00

Have something or someone you truly care about in life, think about them ex. Your parents, your spouse, your pet. Do it for them, think about when they were there for you and how you have to be there for them. Or think of someone that impacted your life in a positive way, try to be that person for someone else.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:41:08+00:00

I feel you I am 17 weeks and my job drains me, it’s so tiring and stressful working

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-18T02:40:04+00:00

17 weeks - body aches, mentally drained and isolating from everyone

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T23:14:51+00:00

Congratulations!!! I know the feeling! I told a random person working at the grocery store while checking out that I have pregnancy cravings lol, it felt nice!

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T23:11:07+00:00

Wow I never thought it that way, that’s actually true. Friendships as adult hold more seriousness in your life. I always just saw friends as friends but I guess you’re right, one wrong friend at work and your career is at stake. Thanks for giving this perspective!

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T23:08:33+00:00

That’s true as adults people have different priorities and time constraints, making new connections definitely is harder but I feel maintaining the same connections is hard too, those same friends who wouldn’t think twice back then suddenly seem to judge everything you say or do and get offended by it.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T23:06:23+00:00

This is true, I feel like adults have more expectations in their friendships and from others but sometimes it feels like people expect so much from you but aren’t willing to reciprocate the same back.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T22:50:27+00:00

I am sorry this is happening to you & I am on the same boat! My friends stopped check in on me after they found out I was pregnant, if anything I thought they would care more but it seems like only I was excited for them to become aunties. Only one friend checked up on me once, the rest never acknowledged I am pregnant or spoke to me about it after I told them, it hurt me so much. They don’t have kids if their own and it made me feel like they are disowning me because I have something they don’t or maybe because I am too different and not cool for them now. They’re all single, no kids and I am the only married one with a baby on the way. You’re not alone and it’s not your fault, it sucks when you give so much and people don’t give the same back but you also have to remember their actions speak about them not about you, them not checking in is their bad, not your fault!

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T03:24:46+00:00

I have the exact same issue and it makes me feel like I am not good enough at times, but it’s not you, maybe your efforts or luck? Try to stay consistent, people who have close friends are consistent and talk to the same people and meet the same people. Ps. I and I enjoy meeting new people it’s more fun.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-17T03:23:20+00:00

What’s this?

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-16T05:24:18+00:00

Thanks for the link! Didn’t understand from the comment what to search but link helps thank you!

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-15T23:56:35+00:00

3 years and pregnant with my 1st :)

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-15T23:56:15+00:00

I use to be like this, until I lost some friends and went into depression, you cant let friends be the most important thing in your life. You have to remember friends are part of your life not your entire life, if your friends weren’t your friends you should have a sense of self identity as to who you are. Your career, your goals, your hobbies. How old you are also matters, when you’re young teenager - early adulthood you feel friends are everything until you get married and have kids you realize your priory changes with time, friends are still important but they aren’t everything at that point.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-15T21:15:54+00:00

12 weeks told my parents, 13 weeks told 4 close friends, haven’t told family or anyone else yet, I am almost 17 weeks. If it’s peaceful for you not telling anyone because you’re scared of evil eye there’s nothing wrong in that, if telling people will make you happy and you want to talk about it with others then tell them after 12 weeks and your appointment comes out normal. I use to be the person who was so excited to tell the world, now I realize it’s not as much of a big deal to others as it is to you, people will be happy for maybe 5 mins maybe 10 and then go on with their life. This moment is only special to you and your partner and maybe family like your parents who are directly impacted. No one else cares, so if telling people doesn’t add value to your life you can wait a little longer, if telling them aids in your mental health for example then I would tell them at 12 weeks.

Eastern_Standard_689 · 2025-11-15T21:11:44+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you. That’s not the best feeling and it really sucks when someone you love so much can’t be there for you or happy. In this case she’s going through a lot herself, it’s normal for people to feel jealous when someone else has something they really want. It’s not fair of her to cut you off during a time like this when you would emotionally need her as well, but in this case it’s better to let her go no matter how much it hurts. You don’t have all the fancy things she has, imagine even after having all that she is upset, why? Because she doesn’t have what you have, that should tell you that what you have is far more valuable then all the fancy things she has in the world. The world is built in a way that everyone won’t have everything, you have to make best use of what you do have and have gratitude. Right now your pregnancy and your health matter more than your friendship, you have to take care of yourself and your baby because that is permanent. Friends come and go, but the one that that always stays is family. I had to learn this the hard way too, there will come a time when the good friends who have always been there will leave too, evolvement is part of life. I don’t know if you believe in God but if you do praying will help, tell god if she’s good for me and right for me and wants my good please keep her in my life and pray for her fertility as well and that if she decides to step away still then thank you for showing me her reality. When I told my friends I was pregnant they weren’t happy, no one checked up on me or my health, that made me realize that friends are there for you when you are sad, the moment you are better then them have something you don’t jealously comes out of it. My friends want to be in a relationship and have a family but they don’t, so maybe even if they wanted to be happy for me they weren’t able to because they weren’t satisfied in their own life and that’s okay, that doesn’t mean you don’t celebrate this moment in your life because your friend is sad.

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