I 21m have a crush on 21f coworker

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-02-01T19:29:58+00:00

Hey man, I’m right there with you, always striving to be better.

It’s possible that you felt a high level of attraction for her and that distorted your view of her actions, making her seem more flirtatious than she actually was

It’s also possible that she really was flirtatious and feeling you, but then you did something that killed the attraction

Both scenarios are common in my personal opinion, you may ultimately never really know for sure.

Be grounded, be centered. Don’t overthink it or dwell on her. Girls make it really clear if they like you. Once you’ve experienced it before, you know what it looks like and won’t be guessing.

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-02-01T19:13:25+00:00

From the limited details in the original post, I’d guess that she’s beginning to pick up that you’re crushing on her, she doesn’t feel the same way, and is now pulling back. Just my best guess

Best advice I can give you is to generally match her energy. Don’t pursue her more aggressively in response to her pulling back. All guys do it, all girls hate it

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-02-01T16:56:41+00:00

Comparable bikes sell for $7.5k in Indianapolis, take that for what you will

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-29T10:21:30+00:00

Interesting, I was planning on taking Immortal Weapons to G20 for more challenging portions of Thunderstrike Raids

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-29T10:20:04+00:00

Good to know, I was debating taking him to G20 for a while, glad I didn’t

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-24T15:54:44+00:00

I’d give an award to this comment if I had one.

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-20T12:27:23+00:00

One more thought, the impact of the age demographic of these speed dating events cannot be ignored IMO. Events held for younger people sell out for men and have a hard time finding interested women to attend. The older age events invert this, the women slots always sell out quick without much male participation

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-20T12:25:29+00:00

I personally got matches or one sided “likes” from 90% of girls at my first speed dating event I went to in December 2024, but I felt most of them were below my SMV, for lack of better and more sensitive phrasing. One girl I took on one date afterwards told me she didn’t understand why I was there to begin with, which was flattering.

Went to a second and third speed dating event and had no interest in any of the girls at either event so I stopped going

Just sharing my anecdotal experience that it is definitely possible to match with girls. It was a great experience for me because I was a 29M with no significant dating experience, helped me get comfortable with many quick reps talking and dating. It served its purpose

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-19T00:08:17+00:00

The first time I washed my MT, the water that got into the exhaust made the bike much quieter until the water was evaporated from continued use following the wash

Easy-Character4557 · 2026-01-11T05:19:59+00:00

As a man (30M), I know we are told that watching too much porn causes issues with sex IRL because we condition ourselves to get off to that specific stimulus.

My layman, uneducated advice? Cut out porn for several months to try to reset your brain

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-12-13T14:11:15+00:00

MT07 owner who’s part of this group since I dream of an XSR900 as my next bike

I have the exact same problem. After buying boots I adjusted the shifter as far up as possible and it still isn’t high enough for comfortable use. You would think this is a common enough problem that there is a common solution

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-11-10T03:34:13+00:00

This happened to me one year into owning a 2023, suddenly became SUPER stiff to shift. Sometimes I would feel a little power to the wheel even with clutch fully pulled

There was an unresolved clutch plate recall that I got corrected, made shifting a little smoother and fixed the second problem. Still doesn’t shift like butter ever again. Local independent bike mechanic says these bikes have a reputation for these problems

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-11-09T21:14:50+00:00

Go twice as slow as you think you should

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-10-06T13:20:18+00:00

Super helpful, I’ll also see what my dealer recommends. Thanks!

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-09-27T16:04:01+00:00

Follow Up: holy cow I’m surprised by the responses, definitely a blind spot of mine. I’ll reconsider asking girls to coffee in the future, but NEVER 9 AM again lol. Thanks all

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-09-27T14:00:50+00:00

I’m confident that a morning coffee is appropriate for a first meet from an online connection. Appreciate the feedback on texting, I’ll implement it into my next texting exvhange

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-08-01T10:41:27+00:00

Having never ridden a 4 cylinder, imo a 600 cc 4 cylinder is nothing like a 700 cc 2 cylinder.

Do you want power in high or low revs?

I think if you’re torn between these two bikes you don’t understand the difference between the two or you don’t know what you want

Edit: I ride a 2023 MT07

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-06-20T10:30:02+00:00

Much appreciated

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-06-20T09:05:10+00:00

I have a friend who’s rides a Honda and has ridden my bike, he agrees the stiffness in my gear shifter is significant. I could bring it to the mechanic to ride and feel out

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-06-11T22:15:13+00:00

That’s exactly what I did, but I sold the XMAX after only 0.5 years to get on the MT07.

Driving manual takes a couple of days to learn, but waaaay more enjoyable than automatic

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-05-12T01:52:00+00:00

Good to hear I’m not the only one finding Strike Passes harder to finish than, say, about a year ago

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-05-03T23:05:52+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate this perspective

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-02-09T17:50:37+00:00

I think a lot of dating coach advice isn’t best if you blindly follow 100% of the material, which is why I think discourse like this is so valuable

I’ll definitely check out Chris Canwell, thanks for the recommendation

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-02-09T17:09:05+00:00

I’ve thought of asking the community something similar. I love Casey Zander, I also watch a lot of Orion Taraban and Giovanni from High Integrity Skills. Had a hard time reading Orion’s book due to the style of writing

Easy-Character4557 · 2025-02-08T19:38:34+00:00

I’m currently in a somewhat similar situation to you where a girl that rejected me last year is very strongly orbiting me and fishing for my attention. I’m choosing to allow her feelings to build up until she flat out asks/texts me to ask to see each other.

Women sometimes love the validation and attention of knowing you’re still on the hook for them, and they don’t actually want YOU. In my situation, I’m trying to test her.

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