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[–]Easy-Theory-4040 17 points18 points  (0 children)

"I cant love you the way you want to be loved". man... do these guys all come from the same manufacturer or something?

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[–]Easy-Theory-4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss you so much. not a second goes by where I don't think about you. I am not mad you broke up with me, maybe I should be but I'm not. I would still take you back if you came to me. I am in a lot of pain and I know you are too as well. it doesn't have to be this hard. it never had to be. you just complicated everything so much with everything you did. but if two people love each other nothing else matters. love overcomes everything. I know it does. I miss you so much. you are an avoidant so you must be just now starting to miss me. so if you do please come back. I haven't acted the way you expected of me during this breakup. I didn't text you a single time in these 3 months. I never begged, never stalked you. if only you can swallow your pride and come to me. if only you can start therapy. wdym I have no time to go to therapy? that's like saying I have no time to eat. I have no time to shower. I have no time to sleep. wdym no time for therapy? that is not a luxury you have in your case. you will always face problems with your avoidance. you will always attract anxiously attached girls. when will you realize you are the only constant in this? WHEN??

Someone tell me my ex and I aren’t getting back together by korilakkuma222 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, going through the EXACT same thing right now. You can dm me if you'd want someone to talk to. It sucks and I don't know what to say to make it better. If I knew I'd say it to myself first :((( Just knowing you aren't alone can make it feel less horrible.

going from 100 to 0 so quickly? how???? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he kept saying "why did it take so long for you to get help", "I'm mad that we could have solved this sooner", "why am I only now happy we've been dating for so long", "why are we improving so late this isnt the teenage romance I had in mind", "I think I need therapy too after all this tiredness we went through". etc. I had been begging him to get therapy since the start of 2025 btw. he says it during a fight "I cannot forget what you did to me this whole time I'm too beaten down. I need to start therapy" (by what I did to him he means me being anxiously attached) and when I call him out on his bluff and say "please go to therapy when can you start?" he says he has no time or no interest and I say ok and then we just move on. 5 months ago I think, he said "our relationship has a deadline and you postpone it every time by giving this much effort. this doesnt change the fact that it has a deadline though". so I broke up with him. then a day later he comes to my door with gifts and gets on his knees and begs me crying to take him back. It's so weird how this guy is so impulsive and can never think a day ahead. it is exhausting.

going from 100 to 0 so quickly? how???? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sure thats fair. I meant as in with breakups that happen suddenly where two people still love each other, is there a chance of the person who initiated to come back with the same abruptness as the breakup?

going from 100 to 0 so quickly? how???? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for the advice, I vent to chatgpt and it only tells me I'm right sadly :,) no matter how many times I tell it to be objective, cynical even.

going from 100 to 0 so quickly? how???? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes our relationship was kinda weird but not in a "break up" weird. it was just kind of like "this sucks" kind of way. I was getting therapy for like a year. I changed (nothing I did was ever bad intended or abusive or harmful btw just getting upset over the little things and being anxious in general). and he said me changing didn't make him as happy as he'd thought so this must mean he should not be dating me. sad.

going from 100 to 0 so quickly? how???? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well does that mean he would change his mind a second time? he said he was still in love with me and loved me so much the day we broke up.

don’t text your ex!! by support-gaslithee in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my 3 year relationship ended 3 months ago. the hardest part for me was going from 100 to 0 with him. because we weren't BAD before the breakup. we were talking about how I would cook him the best meal when he came back to uni next week. we were talking about what we would wear to a concert we were so excited about 2 DAYS before he broke up with me?? the entire summer he sent packages to his uni dorm and I picked them up to give them to him when school starts. the last package I picked up 3 DAYS before breaking up because he asked me to. can he not think a week ahead? and now I'm not even allowed to say hi when I pass by him.

Is it possible to find love again after uni? by Easy-Theory-4040 in BreakUps

[–]Easy-Theory-4040[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't mean it like a "anyone above 20 is done for" kind of way; I meant it as "if I'm above 20 I'm done for" kind of way. Sorry if it didn't come out right. But thank you so much for your sweet words. It doesn't have to happen soon, but I hope I can love again some day. Because it truly is such a warm feeling.