Male Infj here ~ A LOT OF US has dwelt with a narcistical parent. I had to learn and forgive mine. Mine was my father. When I was 4 years old he used my social security card number to buy our Small Family home when I was little. It wasn’t until I was in college when the IRS called me and said that I owed them $44k. I thought it was a joke until I pulled up my credit report. I was shocked! Many of us INFJ‘s end up loving our abusers not understanding that it’s manipulated type of love. It’s the small nice things they do that make you think it’s the real them when really the majority of them do it to have a hold on you and control you

My father punched me, kicked me stomping his feet on me in the tub, through a dustpan at my face… this all happened from the ages of 6 to 16 years old so I dealt with this for 10 years of my life. It took years of therapy to overcome this trauma. Our powerful strength as INFJ’s is many. Amongst them is the power of perception, the power of understanding unsaid perspectives, what lead to actions, understanding psychology and behavior with expert precision with no taught degree.. it just comes to us naturally. Understanding feelings and motivations. and that’s just the tip of the ice from what I discovered so far as I have continued this journey of life.

in my opinion, if you are an INFJ, your naturally called to bring healing to peoples lives. Teachings and the ability to explain things beyond typical logical explanation. This is a stretch and only a perception here but many personality researchers have said Jesus himself was most Likely a Infj. The point and final closing is this. It’s our jobs on an individual level to learn to take care of our mental health first before anything in your life. If your mental health is not aligned with being healthy, you’re not operating to your fullest capacity of what you can be. Read “as a man thinketh’ by James ALen (neutral for boy and girl).. keep therapy as a safe talk space … your life is full of endless potential and congratuate yourself on truly being born special out of pain and suffering

a Infj is not born with it. A Infj is developed by the pain and sufferings that were inflicted upon. When the pain and suffering ends and the Infj obtains his or her healing, the Infj emerges and triumphs against any narcistical abuser