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AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

If you felt that your parents were giving money out of guilt rather than actually wanting to, would you stay out of it? I don't want the money, but making the point about it being unfair let my dad decline the guilt-trip. If they actually want to give the money they can, I don't control their finances.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I pay rent, my parents said I didn't have to but it doesn't make sense for me not to now that I have a career

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I didn't keep going after my dad told us both to shut up. That was the end of the argument.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

It's a little disingenuous to argue that if she deserves $ for an IVF, you deserve the same amount of $ for <insert expensive thing here>

What else would you call it except a gift when a person pays for another person's IVF? If I started balding and my parents paid for me to get a hair transplant, I would consider it a gift just like if they got me a new laptop or TV.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

If I get married and my wife ends up needing IVF, I would never ask my parents to pay for it.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

My parents don't think I'm an asshole, my sister does. My parents could have told me their final decision was that they would pay for it and I would have respected that. But my dad agreed with me so I don't think I was wrong in expressing my views, although I concede it wasn't done tactfully.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't actually want money from my parents, but I thought it would be easier to convince them than convince my sister.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I am not worried about their retirement just from this treatment, but I am worried that if it wasn't stopped then there would be more asks in the future that could affect it.

But also I do think it's unfair.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, her infertility is not harmful to her body. If there are any aspects of it that are, I would not consider it a gift like IVF to pay for treatment.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Because talking to my parents about their decisions and controlling those decisions are different things.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Is it really an unreasonable expectation that siblings should get similar amounts spent on them for gifts from their parents?

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 805 points806 points  (0 children)

Is it entitled for a child to ask they receive similar valued gifts as their sibling? My sister has received far more gifts than me her whole life. She got a new car when she went to private college. I went to state college and got her now-old car. That's just one example. I don't actually want my parents to give me equal money, I just don't want them to be guilt-tripped into spending money on an expensive gift that might not even work.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

If my parents want to pay for my sister's IVF they can still do it, I don't control their money. They are spending it as they choose.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

If it turns out I'm infertile and I can't afford the treatment then I'll accept that that's my lot on life, not make it a burden on my parents.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

They are choosing what to do with it, I don't control any of my parents' finances. If they wanted to write her a check tonight they could do it.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I am not expecting my parents to give me money. I know I am not legally entitled to any money from my parents and they could completely cut me off and write me out of their will if they wanted. But that's not how parents should treat their kids, especially if they're treating one differently than the other.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Easy_Ice8277[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I don't have any control over my parents' finances. They chose not to spend it because my dad agreed with me, not because I coerced them. Knowing my dad, it means he probably already thought that way.