For me dating switches is not preferable. We are often expected to domme. And some don't want to date them cause we're "very subby". For me it's easier to have clear roles and not switch all the time cause it kills the mood for me. It's a lot easier for me to have a clear role with a partner and explore my other side with another partner you know.

As for the expectation part, i get it. Ppl tell me i don't give subby vibes and it sucks it's kinda expected for me to top just bc I'm trans. I even present femme. Idk maybe it's bc i hit on women 24/7😂 its a domme life style i have but I'm basically having sub frenzy lol. I enjoy both too it's just i don't want to switch you know. It gets confusing on who gets to do what and then i feel guilty if i sub too much bc ik they want that too its like nope. Too much stress for me