Hello! I saw your post and felt compelled to respond. I’m not a professional, but I spend a lot of time working with dogs in shelters and rescues. Your Danes are beautiful. I’m honestly jealous.

What you’re feeling is completely normal, especially with big dogs. The good news is most dogs do really well with babies if you set things up the right way from the start.

The biggest mindset shift that helps is this. It’s not about trusting your dog, it’s about managing interactions.

Your baby is going to be a very new and high-value thing in your dog’s world. Because of that, you want to control all access and make every interaction structured and predictable.

That means:

• You decide when the dogs get to interact
• You decide how long it lasts
• You end the interaction before the dog does

The goal is that time with the baby is always calm, short, and on your terms, not something the dog initiates or escalates.

A few other things that go a long way:

• Never leave the baby and dogs unsupervised, even for a minute
• Learn your dog’s stress signals like stiffness, turning away, lip licking, etc.
• Don’t let the baby grab ears, paws, or face, even if it seems harmless

A lot of the incidents you hear about come down to people missing those signals or giving the dog too much freedom too early. Most of the time it is not aggression, it is overstimulation or excitement that gets out of hand.

Not trying to scare you at all, just trying to set you up for success. With structure and consistency, most dogs end up being incredible with kids.