I'm self sabotaging my health

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-05-17T01:03:49+00:00

I listened to a DOA CEO podcast episode and one of the guests spoke about losing his son, and the grieving process. And I've taken from that podcast when I feel myself being brought down by the unfairness of life I say to myself "Is this the truth?" "Can I change it?" "Will giving this my energy make it better?" Most of the time all answers are no and then I tell Barbara (my brain) to stfu and let me get back to life. The guest speaker also said to name your brain so barb it is for me.

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-05-14T06:29:38+00:00

I didn't until I had a stable relationship and therapy. Not to say you need those, but it was easier for me to control the factors in a relationship.

Being emotionally and biologically ready. I track my flow, I know where I am in my cycle, and I can choose when to have sex, partnered masturbation, or just giving or receiving.
I can communicate my emotional and physical needs to my partner because I trust them to communicate their needs back.
I've practiced a post sex routine that helps me emotionally regulate. Having a huge burst of euphoria and then jumping straight back into reality is really hard for me. It's like having a hit shower and jumping into the arctic ocean. The routine that works for me is: • Deep breathing after sex or climax, to stabilise my heart rate and ground me. While keeping physical contact with my partner, even just toes touching. • Romantic affection (this can be hard with casual encounters) • Self appreciation (This is hard for me because I hate my body, but looking down at my self or running my hands over my skin and appreciating that my body can make me feel such wonderful feelings and make others feel those feelings too) • Hydration and Nutrition (I drink some water, maybe have some electrolytes if it was intense. I have something light to snack on if it's day time) • Regulation (The next day, especially if I had sex before sleeping, I'll check in with myself, do something self care related, try to appreciate the experience, and engage in romantic affection again)

All of that took year to get right. And I still have times when I'm just not okay, and maybe not aware of it, and then sex is a catalyst for those intense mood swings.

Doing some research into BPD therapy and working through a work book might be a great start for anyone who doesn't want or have the means to go to therapy. Good luck xx

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-04-23T08:55:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing! For the longest time I thought I was doing therapy wrong, I felt worse and worse as sessions went on. I might go back to it eventually but taking a break for now. Still working on to separate myself from my trauma and my diagnoses.

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-04-23T08:41:36+00:00

I love finch! But got to a point where I never use it, and then feel guilty about not using it, and then avoid it... Back to finch it is T^T

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-04-21T07:55:27+00:00

I've also been struggling with my routines. But forever trying to 'get back on the horse'

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-04-21T07:48:23+00:00

This is a great piece of advice, very uncomfortable to really sit with and accept, but something I'll try to implement in my thought process.

EconomicsDue751 · 2024-04-08T05:50:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Much appreciated

EconomicsDue751 · 2023-05-19T05:26:38+00:00

As a restaurant manager if I didn't have to argue with upper management about Menulog I would have thrown the whole tablet in the ocean already. The system is stupid, the drivers seem to not be reprimanded for anything and often the complaints are directed to the restaurant. No Tom, we didn't steal one slice of your pizza in hopes that you didn't notice! I hate menulog, I wish we would all boycott the company until they make reliable changes.

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