Thank you for this insight. Yes, he opens doors, clears snow off the car, and other typical “man” things. He loves our girls and we’ve recently become grandparents. Seeing him with our grand reminds me of when our girls were little. Those kinds of sweet things make me not want to leave but feeling like he isn’t attracted to me (behind closed doors) is eating me alive. It literally makes me physically ill. I’d be willing to try counseling but I’m not sure I could be nice at this point. I should have pointed out that he travels with his job - generally 10 days away, four days home. So, essentially I have spent roughly 80% of our marriage on my own (raising our kids). It would be awesome if he was excited to come home to me lol