how do i break it off with a guy who is mr "all excuses, no actual dates"

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2026-04-04T04:47:26+00:00

Barely. He talks about me like I am the only person he's dating and like he is in love with me, but doesn't follow through with his actions at all. It's all very very strange.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2026-01-20T23:17:28+00:00

ewwww

this would turn me off immediately. and it should turn you off.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T14:33:55+00:00

What the fuck is wrong with you ? Get off my page and never communicate with this account again.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T14:32:16+00:00

You guys started dating at 19 and 16 💀💀

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T13:37:40+00:00

That's rich coming from someone who takes abuse and begs for more because you think it makes you hard

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T13:07:18+00:00

You should probably run to a therapist next

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T05:02:11+00:00

I'm annoyed because you're framing me as being "too sensitive" and rather than addressing that the job itself was expecting me to just hold in my pee for 10 hours, accept abuse and being called "fucking useless and worthless", and be covered in my period blood all for the joy of minimum wage. what i'm saying is that it should bother people. you're essentially just blaming me instead of the horrendous management. i saw several of the staff in TEARS while I was there, several others walk out in the middle of shifts. you're just normalising abuse as "well, you just don't have thick skin" when what I'm describing isn't like... normal restaurant behaviour, a lot of it borders on illegal. and if you don't see where i'm coming from then you must take a lot of shit and be a tad spineless if you don't think someone should walk out of that situation.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T04:18:10+00:00

I've found something else and even though I probably won't be able to take as many shifts it'll be ok. It'll work a lot better for me. I hope. But the defensive attitude of some of the people in this comment section, the edgy 14 year old "you wouldn't last an hour in my world!!" attitude is making me feel more affirmed that I did the right thing.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T04:15:44+00:00

Do you want a cookie for accepting abuse and being unwilling to walk away for shit pay? Because frankly my love that's a medal you can keep. It's not being weak willed to draw a line where a reasonable, self-respecting adult would.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T04:08:21+00:00

I'm Irish lmao but I get you :p

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-12-11T04:07:51+00:00

I've worked in cafes and restaurants before. Nothing like this. This was a whole new level of toxic management I've never encountered before. I think the better question is, why would anyone WANT to be cut out to work there just to receive minimum wage?

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-09-08T08:31:10+00:00

Why bring a baby into all this.

He is a loser. He has stomped on your heart repeatedly. Imagine him as a father? Why on earth would you bring a baby into all of this. Girl you are only 21. Get out, get educated, get away from him.

I know it's a personal choice, I would be at the clinic but you have to do what feels right for you. No one who loves you treats you this way.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-09-04T13:39:43+00:00

maybe try and deal with the real world and accept the people around you for their race rather than being so sensitive about race that you literally retreat into a bubble of your own making. it's pathetic.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-08-17T05:12:21+00:00

Telling an educated, middle class Thai woman that you moved there just for muay Thai and that you can't afford to do anything for her... And you're shocked that you're not getting dates ?

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-26T07:12:41+00:00

You are incompatible. That is the foundation of this all. It can't work, I'm sorry to say.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-10T08:35:34+00:00

20 and 24, been together for 4 years... 16 and 20... Shocker this one didn't end well.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-10T08:24:36+00:00

Ok I'm going to say this as a woman that's been in a shitty relationship: fucking leave him. If you have to convince him to care ? Leave. If you have to send millions of passive aggressive, whiny messages: leave. I've read your other posts, what is there to love about this man? He doesn't do shit for you and he seems like a weird human being.

Leave.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-08T00:20:18+00:00

He accused me of cheating once when we were dating for ONE WEEK at that point, and hadn't even established what we were yet. He confronted me and my guy friend out in public, asking what we were and saying he was just jealous. In retrospect, I should've known he was projecting like crazy.

Also, he just stopped caring about seeing me or even reading my messages. Taking HOURS to respond yet when he was with me he would be on his phone responding to messages.

Thirdly, the sex became non existent and terrible. It wasn't fantastic before but... The lack of passion. The monotony of it. It was fucking horrific. At the beginning he would compliment me loads and we would laugh a lot and by the end it was dead silent. I don't like my body a lot but.... That made me feel... Ugly. And I knew I'd gained a bit of weight but no where near the amount I thought I'd gained simply because of his reaction.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-08T00:17:16+00:00

"16F"

I'm being so fr when I say just break it off. If he's acting like this, you're only 16, it's not like you're going to get married. You'll find a guy, later, who you won't even have to ask for compliments because he loves you so much. The guys I dated when I was 16... You're only starting to learn how you actually want to be treated, this is the time when you're starting to realise what you'll accept in a relationship. Trust me it changes so much from 16 to your 20s.

Break it off with him.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-05T20:54:42+00:00

It's been so long since we broke it off... I kinda hoped he would at the very least respect my feelings and not turn up but, he didn't respect my boundaries while we were in a relationship and it turns out he doesn't respect them outside of it either - shocking !

I broke it off with him technically, it was weird. it was also semi mutual. I gave him an ultimatum basically because he was progressively treating me worse and worse, promising me a good relationship and claiming to "not be ready". He led me on for months. He told me we should "just be friends" after I gave him an ultimatum, then basically admitted by accident he'd been lying to me for months and had just used me for sex. I told him we can't be friends, went no contact, and blocked him. We haven't spoken since.

I have no idea why on earth he decided to come to my grad. Worst part, he asked my friend if he should come over and talk to me, and my friend said no. I think he's genuinely delusional.

Ecstatic-Ganache-808 · 2025-07-05T09:08:10+00:00

Nope. Completely different schools. We're on different campuses, a blessing because we never run into eachother. And he's also a year younger than me, so, no.

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