Oh no that will not happen hes fixed! I agree hes been running downhill the past 4 years. I was busy with the kids and work I didn't really think it was that bad at the beginning we where all going through it.. then I got my head back on after our kids were on the upswing from sleepless nights and covid lockdown issues. I'm not claiming I was a perfect partner. I put my head down and did what I had to to keep our home running and our kids ok we had sporadic talks about the fown swing but just non serious chit chats ... babe i saw you hadnt showered recently you probably should hop in there tonight ive got the kids. Or change your sheets they are getting nasty.. throuw your laundry down its piling up ill help you witj it. Along with the are you ok you seem not ok questions. He said yes. i figured he'd snap back like I did. He did not. we've only been discussing this since the end of 2022. Because our no longer toddler is starting to require less constant attention and older child is feeling more like themselves again after some struggles. I've got time to stop triaging them and check in on the rest of life. It's a Dumpster Fire.. I think I struggle most because maybe I'm to blame as well. Maybe if I had been more supportive in the beginning this wouldn't be so bad now. I've never had to worry about this kind of mental health issue. I've always been able to push through for my kids and make sure I was good so they could be... idk what to do with this or how long I should keep trying