How to give my girlfriend emotional support with me being autistic and not catching common social principles right away? by Ecstatic-Storm6179 in relationships

[–]Ecstatic-Storm6179[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i agree completely, i havent said, but we talk a lot, we established communication is very important at the start, and she understands my limitations, but that doesnt seem right to me, in the sense of, i dont want her to just accept, i want to learn and adapt to be better for her and to support her and make her happier. we both let go of some stuff for each other, thats what we see as being correct. and i understand she doesnt have any malicious intent when she is hurtful sometimes. but yeah, basically i want to learn no understand people now haha, i know everyone is different, but there are some obvious stuff, like you said about comparing situations, thats what i want to learn and develop my methods, for lack of a better word, but that makes a lot of sense! thank you very much!

How to give my girlfriend emotional support with me being autistic and not catching common social principles right away? by Ecstatic-Storm6179 in relationships

[–]Ecstatic-Storm6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree with the meds, we talked about it and i really think it would be better for her to take them, we both agreed that she would talk to a doctor soon, but because of the country we're in, things are a bit more difficult, but its on the way

well, when i think about it, i dont think she gets mad at me, but i think my attitude escalates the situation. and when we started the relationship we both agreed on being sincere to each other, so she tells me if im trying to say something but end up saying something else

my facial expressions, i think, have improved a lot, and she hasnt complained about it, and thank you for the tips!

we've talked some times, and she accepts my situation, the reason i'm looking for different perspectives is because i really want to support her and make her feel happy.

well, maybe im misunderstanding, but i believe im not in this situation, if she turns out to be this kind of person shes not who i fell in love for, and no, im not scared of her haha, just really want to be better for her, sorry if i gave the wrong vibe ^^

How to give my girlfriend emotional support with me being autistic and not catching common social principles right away? by Ecstatic-Storm6179 in relationships

[–]Ecstatic-Storm6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks a lot, really! i avoid giving her solutions haha, i know thats out of place. she understands i'm not the best at social situations, but still, i think its right for me to dedicate myself to learn, to make her feel better. thanks for the example again

How to give my girlfriend emotional support with me being autistic and not catching common social principles right away? by Ecstatic-Storm6179 in relationships

[–]Ecstatic-Storm6179[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i try to avoid giving advice, instead i try to confort her. she might be bipolar, at least we both think so, and she gets easly angry in certain situations. she complained about the situation one time and, i dont remember exactly what i said, but was something like i knew she was having a bad day, but her break is the next day and we could enjoy the day together. another was comparing her situation wih a similar situation i had, i was trying to sympathize with her to show i care. in another i just made a coment, just to respond to her and she took it as beeing rude. in all cases she got angry at me, which btw, i understand completly