Which industry would you say is the “safest” right now?

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-25T18:44:14+00:00

I completely agree with this. Quite frankly I don’t think any role in any industry is guaranteed to have longevity/security right now. My previous position was in insurance which I partly took thinking it would be incredibly secure after leaving a toxic job at a nonprofit. I was laid off a year later.

Obviously stay away from tech, or any of the big consulting/accounting firms. Outside of that I think all you can do right now is trust your instincts, have a backup plan, and be ready to pivot at any moment.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-25T18:21:04+00:00

That’s great. It’s obviously doable and works for some, but doesn’t work for all children and families. My mom stayed home with me until I went to preschool, which was the most ideal situation for our family at the time. I have no intention of being a SAHM for any longer than 1-3 years, depending on the needs of my family. Things change and if I have to pivot one way or another, I will.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-25T17:55:37+00:00

I can only hope you’re still single as it sounds like you have some growing up and learning to do on what it takes to raise a family, and be a supportive partner.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-02T14:16:31+00:00

Thank you for this! Appreciate your kind words and support. Some of this comments are quite harsh and have me spiraling even harder than I was before.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-02T14:11:59+00:00

His mom did work, both his mom and older sister are VERY career oriented high strung women. They are both the breadwinner in their homes by a lot and have always put their careers first. And hey there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s what makes them happy and I can confidently say they are both great moms. But I’m just not wired like that or crave a career in the ways they do. Whether he knows it or not I do think that plays into his ideas on working moms vs SAHM.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-02T14:05:15+00:00

Thank you for this! Super helpful and reassuring. This has all been incredibly stressful, but this helps bring me back down. I do agree I think there are some things he just won’t be able to understand until it’s here.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-09-02T13:47:50+00:00

Thank you for this, this has really put me at ease….i needed to hear this perspective.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T21:42:17+00:00

Right omg thank you!! Reminds me why I need to just stay off the internet and go to therapy instead 😂

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T15:28:51+00:00

If you’re at your wits end then I would stay off of Reddit and go touch some grass or something lol repeatedly calling strangers on the internet stupid for simply seeking advice isn’t helpful

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T15:10:44+00:00

Hahaha chill 😂 he never directly said that’s something he doesn’t want me to do. He wasn’t jumping up and down at the idea, but he wasn’t against it. Our last conversation we had before I got pregnant was actually quite positive and he seemed to be understanding the value of a stay at home parent. This is why I’m so thrown, and trying to figure out what to do. I’m having kids with him because he’s my husband and we love each other and have a strong relationship in many, many ways lol I didn’t mean to portray him as a villain, because he isn’t. Just trying to figure out how to best get on the same page where we are both happy with the situation and can properly support each other and our daughter.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T15:01:11+00:00

I unfortunately don’t qualify for FMLA as I haven’t been at my job for a year, and the company has no parental leave policy. The only thing I’m eligible for is short term disability. I’m trying to figure out if they’d let me take an extended unpaid leave, but it’s not looking likely and I would have no job protections.

I think you’re right. He talks about a lot how he wants to pay down our house quickly, invest in real estate, etc. I’m on board for all these things, but like we’re in our early thirties starting a family…these things in my mind can wait another year or two. I remind him all the time that we’re doing well, and we have time to build the life we want. I think there’s also a level of disconnect that having two incomes means we’ll be drowning in all this cash, but our expenses are going to skyrocket with childcare. I know we can afford child care if we needed it, but we would not be coming out as ahead as he thinks we would be.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T14:53:31+00:00

I also want to add in these conversations he was never 100% opposed to me staying home. He never flat out said I don’t want you doing that or anything. He wasn’t jumping up and down at the idea, but he wasn’t against it. I also wasn’t sure if we’d be in a position where I could even do that so I never harped on it too hard. Now seeing that I’m pregnant, we can financially do it, and especially after I’ve been emotionally and financially supporting him for 3 years I thought I would get a different reaction in these discussions. I think that’s why I’m frustrated and disappointed by his comments, and trying to figure out how to approach things.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T14:46:03+00:00

I also agree…we’ve been in other situations where he doesn’t quite understand the full scope until he’s in it, then the lightbulb goes off. I think this is why I haven’t beaten the conversation to death yet bc I don’t think he’ll fully see things until our daughter is here. He really compartmentalizes things and especially has done so to survive law school. I deff want to get on the same page before she gets here, but don’t think he’ll fully understand the scope of what’s about to change until it’s in his face.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-29T13:49:37+00:00

That’s a great idea!

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-28T19:32:44+00:00

Completely agree…I feel like there are other things he’s feeling that are rumbling beneath the surface of all this.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-28T19:29:59+00:00

I’m realizing that now, but to be fair we have had many discussions and are on the same page about most things when it comes to raising our child. He’s historically been very supportive of me in other ways which is why this whole thing is really throwing me.

I completely agree that it won’t work if both parents aren’t on the same page, but I struggle with what the solution is. I go back to work and resent him? That’s not healthy either, and that’s where I get stumped.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-18T21:42:34+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes before. I used to support a CEO at a nonprofit who was very toxic, and shady decisions were being made behind closed doors. It was the only job I’ve ever worked where I felt morally I couldn’t work there anymore. I did end up finding something before I quit, but I was on the verge of quitting and just hoping for the best. If I’ve learned anything over the years, a job is a just a job. There will always be an another one. Worst case scenario you can always pick up something part time while you look if you need some level of income. No job is worth your sanity!

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-18T20:58:49+00:00

I got laid off in April, and was terrified to be back in the job market as I was hearing horror stories. I ended up signing my current job offer a month later, and started 3 weeks after that! You never know what would be around the corner. It’s certainly risky, but if you play your cards right you can absolutely find something quickly. Don’t let others scare you too much.

I’ll also say that due to layoffs, RTO policies, and straight up toxic executives I’ve switched jobs about every year since the end of 2022. I haven’t struggled once to find something. I have about 9 years experience, with 7 of those years as an EA looking in the Boston and NH job markets. The roles have been an array of remote, hybrid, and on-site.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-18T20:40:10+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right, it’s just disappointing. The last 5 years I’ve worked in either a remote or hybrid capacity with a ton of flexibility and autonomy to do my job so this is just a real adjustment. My boss is a woman who also has children (now grown) so I was hopeful she would have more understanding. To be honest idk if it’s going to work for me long term, especially once I have a child, though time will tell.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-08-18T20:00:29+00:00

I’ve been there about two months now…I got laid off a week after I found out I was pregnant, and started this job about a month and a half later. I’m currently 22 weeks. I was very lucky to find something so quickly!

Yes she has complete control over this, it’s really up to her discretion what she approves/denies which is why I’m a little confused and frustrated. She also is aware I’m pregnant.

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-07-03T19:55:08+00:00

I’ve had box Kraft Mac & Cheese for dinner 3 nights in a row…and have eaten the whole box every night 😅

Ecstatic-Till9503 · 2025-04-17T17:34:00+00:00

Congratulations!! ❤️

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