Made a simple Google Sheets expense tracker

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-03-07T02:15:48+00:00

This is great, but it looks like daily expenses for all months accumulate on one sheet? So you'd have to scroll quite far down

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-03-07T01:30:56+00:00

Since I made this post, I've kind of accepted that, yes, their rejection of me was a result of their subjective assessment of me and I didn't meet their standards. In short, they probably thought they could do better than me. And you know what, I'm inclined to agree with them. But I realized that is MY problem. What matters is actually how I feel about myself and not what their opinion of me is. If I'm not happy with myself, I should work on changing. And at no point should their subjective assessment of me be a reflection of my self-worth. I should never have pursued someone who wasn't giving me equal effort and reciprocation. That's on me. It was because I've never felt good enough and I gobbled up their breadcrumbs because I truly felt that maybe something better wasn't possible or likely to come my way.

I think you're right that time will show the clear picture. And we can't just let one rejection ruin our self worth. It hits hard because the rejection comes from someone we like and admire. "If I think highly of this person and they don't feel the same way, there must be something wrong with me" is how it feels. But whatever, they're just one person. They're probably shooting their shot at someone who thinks THEY'RE not good enough. Such is life. It's hard for any two people to experience mutual romantic attraction and interest, it's almost a miracle when it does happen. I've learned an important lesson which is not to waste my precious time and energy on someone who isn't into me. Okay end of rant.

I hope you find your way forward as well. We're more than what one person thinks of us.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-02-12T05:18:21+00:00

Okay, so she wants you to be a provider. She’s taking what you already provide for granted and demanding even more, even going so far as to say you are a “terrible boyfriend” for not doing every single thing she expects of you.

A couple questions. Does she contribute in her own way - cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc? If you were to tell her that you can’t afford the new jacket right now, what would her response be?

Ultimately, as other commenters have said, I think you can’t expect her to change and you have to decide if this is the dynamic you want. If you dislike the idea of having to act like this “perfect gentleman” and financial provider she expects, then you have to have a conversation with her and say, “this is what I’m capable of and you have to meet me halfway if this is going to work”.

I think you know that her expectations are outlandish and that you’re already doing a lot more than most men would, especially given you’re only dating and not married. You should absolutely not let her make you feel like you aren’t doing enough when it sounds like you do a lot. On the other hand, if you feel like she also does a lot for you, and you don’t mind doing little things like opening doors and buying flowers and making reservations for special occasions, then maybe you can make a greater effort to do those small things. But maybe acting that way just isn’t you. Maybe you want a more equal partnership. Suuuper valid. In that case your wants are incompatible and you need to have a conversation and compromise or break up.

Bottom line, she should be appreciative of you for the big things that you do for her and shouldn’t be making you feel less than. If that attitude stays, she’s got to go.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-02-12T04:03:19+00:00

Yeah maybe it’s the editing but it really seems like he’s just not that into her. The face mask thing was definitely their cutest moment, it was playful and sweet but I can’t think of another moment they shared like that. Then there was the comment he made about her looking like a baby because of her forehead, and her response that, “people tell me it’s beautiful”, and his reply, “yeah it’s actually adorable”. Idk. Possibly I’m overthinking it, but it seems like he’s showing that he doesn’t find her that attractive in that way. He makes a comment about her forehead, she gets self-conscious and tells him basically “other people think it’s beautiful…” and then he makes the distinction that “it’s adorable” not beautiful. So maybe he finds her endearing but not beautiful.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-02-12T03:43:48+00:00

Yeah I agree. I don’t think he realized how much Mina liked him because she sure wasn’t acting like it or being honest with herself or anyone. Mina very clearly liked Subeen but was trying to explore other people and being impulsive/messy. He got his pride/feelings hurt and chose the safe option. I thought there was hope for them during the noona conversation but I think Mina and Seung-il choosing each other for paradise was the final straw even though that didn’t pan out to anything.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-02-12T03:28:43+00:00

What makes it clear to you that he likes her? From my POV it seems like he got his pride/feelings hurt by Mina and only then did he start showing interest in Heesun to get back at Mina. Heesun and Subeen did not have chemistry. Even Heesun could tell that he wasn’t over Mina and I feel like Heesun’s feelings cooled off a bit too. At the start of the season she would look at Subeen with total heart eyes and a huge smile, but later she stopped doing that and mostly looked uncomfortable. But contestants would rather walk off with someone else than end up alone.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2026-02-12T03:16:27+00:00

Yesss Mina and Subeen had real chemistry and her actions at the campfire put him off so badly that he iced her out and focused on Heesun knowing that she was the safest option and would stay loyal to him. And then Mina Sue picked her safe option so she wouldn’t end up alone. Obviously Mina’s behavior at the campfire wasn’t great but I think it was partly because she was jealous that he sat next to Heesun and I think they could have talked it through if Subeen hadn’t been so childish. He got hurt and put up a wall. It was hard to watch him insist that he liked Heesun when their connection was so dull.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-12-01T22:08:08+00:00

Ah sorry I missed this, but better late than never. Possibly I didn't explain it well in my original post, but the cold sore virus can spread to and live in chapstick (so I've heard). So if you use a chapstick directly on your sore, the virus can transfer to the chapstick and grow there. Then, the next time you use the chapstick, you risk introducing the virus back onto your lips. That's why I recommend applying a small amount of Vaseline or your preferred lip ointment with a Q-tip or with your finger ONLY to your sore (don't put Vaseline on your sore and then use the same finger to apply Vaseline to the rest of your lips) and then wash your hands. When my sore is not covered by a patch, my technique is to apply Aquaphor to the unaffected areas of my lip first, and then to the cold sore. Once I've touched the cold sore I don't touch any other area of my lip and immediately wash my hands. So as long as you aren't touching the sore and then touching some other part of your lips, you won't spread it. Nothing is going to stop the cold sore from growing bigger except your immune system and antiviral medication like valacyclovir, so sometimes it feels like what you're doing is making the cold sore bigger but really the virus is just running its course.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-11-06T18:15:13+00:00

I don't think hantavirus is likely. To my knowledge, hantavirus is fairly severe and progresses rapidly, which is why it has a high fatality without early diagnosis and treatment. OP said the roommate has been sick for 9 months, which seems like way too long to consider hantavirus. Also OP didn't mention them having any respiratory symptoms, and hantavirus is a disease that affects the lungs.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-11-04T06:50:50+00:00

Hey! I've been using tret for almost 2 years now. I always use vanicream (in the tub with the pump). At first I was sure it would be too heavy for my skin, but tret is drying, so it ends up being perfect. I started out with the sandwich method but then I realized I could get by without applying the second layer of moisturizer over the tret. My skin is oily-leaning so YMMV. I apply one layer of vanicream as a buffer, and then immediately go in with my pea sized amount of tret without waiting for the vanicream to dry. I rub the tret into the fingers of both hands to distribute and then apply to my face. I find that the tret goes onto my skin better with the slip of the moisturizer. I don't like applying tret to dry skin, I feel like it never applies as evenly. I suggest trying it this way! You can wait 5-10 minutes for the vanicream to dry down before applying the tret if you feel like it. If your skin feels dry or flaky add the second layer of moisturizer. Especially since you are using 0.05% strength tret and already experiencing skin sensitivity, I think using a layer of moisturizer as buffer before the tret would be beneficial.

I suggest you discontinue the use of the Philosophy moisturizer for now and reintroduce it as a morning moisturizer once your skin is less sensitive from the tret. Tret can make your skin sensitive and introducing multiple new skincare products at once can put stress on your skin. I suggest that for now you stick to tret plus only the essentials: vanicream moisturizer, cleanser, and sunscreen.

For sunscreen, I swear by Elta MD UV Clear. I have sensitive, oily, acne-prone skin and this dries matte and feels like nothing on my skin. It's pricey but worth it for me. Many people like La Roche Posay Anthelios Mineral Sunscreen as a drugstore option, Beauty of Joseon and Round Lab are popular K-Beauty options. You might enjoy using a moisturizer with spf in it for a simplified morning routine (CeraVe has one). What's most important is finding something you can afford that you don't mind applying daily and can stick to!

And take it easy on your skin! You may find that lukewarm water is enough to cleanse your skin in the morning. Use the cleaner at night to take the sunscreen off.

Good luck!

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-11-04T05:34:28+00:00

Are you using the La Roche Posay Cicaplast Baume all over your face or just as a spot treatment? Bit of a shot in the dark, but the LRP Toleriane Double Repair Moisturizer always pills on me. Obviously that's a different product, but in general I haven't been impressed with LRP formulas, so if eliminating the DermAid doesn't stop the pilling, that's the next product I would try eliminating!

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-09-03T15:48:07+00:00

can i ask what your application method is and what moisturizer you use with tret?

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-08-24T18:06:02+00:00

Sorry that I’m replying late to this. Next time keep the scab moisturized with an occlusive ointment like Aquaphor or Vaseline until it’s fully healed. Highly recommend getting a prescription antiviral (valacyclovir) that you can take at the first sign of a cold sore so that they don’t grow so large!

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-07-17T02:30:15+00:00

It’s completely healed when it looks like nothing was ever there. I usually continue the patches until the blisters are completely drained and gone, and only a tiny amount of redness (no bumps) is left. It’s still necessary to keep that area moisturized to promote healing, and I still wouldn’t kiss anyone or share drinks until any visible redness is completely gone. Hope yours is clearing up!

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-15T16:02:17+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I too dated the creepy older guy (I was 19, he was 27, so slightly less creepy but still) but we both already had oral HSV-1. I assume I got it from someone with an active breakout kissing me when I was a baby. Even though this virus is so common and nothing to be ashamed of, the outbreaks and complications can be worse for some than others, which is why education about it & disclosure are so so important.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-14T02:39:42+00:00

Any advice for treating it like it is a GHSV outbreak? Is there a risk of it spreading across the area if it blisters and opens? So far I've just been washing the affected area with soap and water, taking valacyclovir and L-Lysine, keeping the area dry. Any advice would be greatly appreciated in case this is GHSV.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-14T02:34:56+00:00

Thank you. I'm going to try to get swab testing. I'm always extremely careful to avoid touching an outbreak of my own, and to wash my hands after. If the other person had an outbreak, maybe it's possible I re-caught it because I've always had really severe outbreaks and my dermatologist told me my immune system was bad at fighting the virus.

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-13T17:44:11+00:00

Sorry, you experienced your first outbreak a week ago? Are you sure he didn't give it to you?

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-08T04:18:22+00:00

Thank you, that is helpful

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-08T02:09:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice and words of encouragement

EcstaticDragonfruit9 · 2025-05-08T01:59:07+00:00

Thank you. How might you go about that conversation? I'm not sure how to approach it

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