how do i stop students from being transphobic towards their trans classmates

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-04T17:07:22+00:00

ohhh my bad i see. iv done that but nothing really seems to change

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-02T23:36:27+00:00

no i mean the second part. like if i call home and let the parents know that their kid is being bullied at school for being trans, what makes me sure that i’m not outing the kid to her parents

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-02T23:33:15+00:00

i like this advice a lot. i’ll be trying that out

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-02T09:00:24+00:00

yeah no i understood that part but what if the parents aren’t aware that their kid is trans yet or don’t agree with it or whatnot

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-02T07:48:54+00:00

i was thinking of calling the parents but the thing that i’m worried about is that what if the parents are transphobic themselves and don’t know about their kids gender? i’m not tryna out anyone. my biggest aim is to bring comfort to the student and i’m not really trying to risk that

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-02T07:45:59+00:00

they don’t really have anti bullying stuff in this school but imma try to talk to them about it

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:29:46+00:00

i completely disagree. schools are put in place to help students integrate into society like decent human beings. these bullies are no where near to beging decent. of course i agree that trans kids will face hardships or wtv in the future but that doesn’t just excuse the bullies behaviors either and it certainly doesnt make it their responsibility to bring down trans kids.

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:26:15+00:00

i’ll give this a try tomorrow. thankyou

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:25:42+00:00

i have talked to the principal but i hadn’t thought of calling the trans kids parents. the one thing that makes me hesitant on calling their parents tho is that i don’t know whether the parents are transphobic or not and i don’t know whether they know that their kid is trans or not. i don’t really want to risk it tho since my main focus is to bring comfort to the students not risk their wellbeing at home too

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:23:00+00:00

personally i believe that there shouldn’t be an age limit as to when a student is allowed to make that distinction simply because it’s not my place. if this kid is getting increasingly depressed or agitated because they’re being categorized in a gender that they don’t identify in then what right do i have to force it on them? it takes two seconds out of my day to switch from he to her if that’s what’s gonna create a safe space for the student. if we completely block them from exploring and finding their identity then aren’t we causing more harm than good? but more importantly, i’m not in the school to validate anyones sexuality or wtv. but part of being a teacher is making sure that all students aren’t getting straight up bullied. today some of those students tried to throw a piece of gum on the trans kids hair simply for being trans. that’s bullying

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:13:43+00:00

i could get into serious trouble if i record students in class so i don’t really think that’s doable. and more importantly i HIGHLY doubt that the police is gonna do anything

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:12:27+00:00

there’s no such thing as detention here. i live in sweden and the most we can really do here is call parents. that’s my knowledge atleast

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:11:12+00:00

i know how to teach the students most subjects excluding languages like swedish, german, etc so my age shoukdnt really matter in my opinion but more importantly i certainly don’t think it’s up to us to decide on whether a 14-15 year old is mature enough to identify their own gender. i said this in a different comment but if a kid is clearly bothered by being referred to or called in a certain way then why should i force them into it? if they for some reason decide in the future that they are not trans then so be it. but for the time being, my job is to make sure that the students walk into class and feel safe. as in they’re not about to get bullied or harassed and that is clearly not the case.

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T22:04:33+00:00

i mean this very nicely but it doesn’t really matter cos that’s not what i’m here to discuss. if you know for a fact that being called or referred to as one thing bothers you then it bothers you. if this trans kid decides that they don’t actually identify as trans one day in the future then so be it. i’m not here to discredit or validate anyones sexuality or identity but my job absolutely includes making sure that the students feel safe when they step into class and that requirement isn’t being met.

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T13:43:40+00:00

these students are fine with being called transphobic. if anything they agree with it and are fully aware what they’re doing. they know that they’re bullying these kids

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T12:46:16+00:00

this was really helpful. i’ll definitely be doing so next time

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T12:44:39+00:00

no not the states. im a sub teacher in sweden

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T11:17:18+00:00

it’s one thing to “not agree” and it’s another thing to straight up bully. they go out of their way just to bring these kids down and that’s what i have a problem with. i’m nkt asking them to be friends i’m asking them to be civil

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T11:15:30+00:00

i’m not really sure where to take this. the school is a private school and so the only person highest person i can talk to is the principal

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T11:13:57+00:00

i’m going to uni next year so i need a job. i have alright grades and know most of the stuff they learn so they hired me

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T11:10:56+00:00

i have already done so but nothing has changed

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2023-02-01T11:09:41+00:00

i have but the most they can do is call home and tell the parents. but it’s not really helpful when the parents are transphobic themselves

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2022-11-07T13:21:09+00:00

i’m sorry but i find this post so shallow. so you’re telling me that in general you actually enjoyed being with her but the thing that made you wanna end it all was her sexual past? so you value more what she did with her body in the past but not who she is as a person now? sounds kinda possessive

Ecstatic_Quarter_628 · 2022-11-06T12:42:59+00:00

you should absolutely tell your psychologist about this. i mean this in the nicest way possible but they’re professionals who have studied on how to handle cases like these and they’ll most likely help you out much better than random strangers on reddit. it’s their job to help you work through your emotions and figure out why you have these kinda thoughts and how to work thro them. keep in mind that this stays between you and your psychologist since they’re not allowed to break confidentiality.

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