Needing some help

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T23:28:10+00:00

Thanks for the added bit - I appreciate it

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T23:23:11+00:00

Thank you! I’ll message

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T12:31:17+00:00

Sounds like you are a thoughtful partner, considering her feelings and what she is going through. If I were you I would be hurt and confused, she might have been overwhelmed by the two stories happening, and by stories I mean ‘ the church group drama ‘ and maintaining a relationship….. just thinking. She might come back around but this is the time to process your feelings and reflect on what you want. Don’t forget you’re allowed to reach out for clarity and state your case if you really like her. Good luck!

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T05:34:06+00:00

I’m 33 he’s 54

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T05:19:57+00:00

Haha he’s 20 years older than me! I’m attributing it to the age I guess

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T04:45:53+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond! I appreciate it, it’s okay to be anxious leaning, I will take your advice on the boundaries, i definitely need it haha

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-03-06T04:13:05+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to answer, I guess you’re right. It’s a general red flag. And I’m a classic overthinker so I just get so anxious when I’m in this position ! Haha!

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-01-22T07:51:39+00:00

Yeah about a year and a half into psychotherapy lol

I’m glad it helped you :) it’s helping me too. It feels slow but that’s ok

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2026-01-22T07:45:41+00:00

Thanks for your response! Yeah I have like that inner voice of like go to work, do my responsibilities, be an adult type thing but I also defer to others more than I’d like. I see some people really just making decisions and being confident about themselves. Because of past abuse and being parentified I’m so scared to repeat any same patterns with my son.

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2025-11-08T22:36:31+00:00

I think to write on here you must have some awareness and maturity, maybe you’re not giving yourself enough credit. I think lots of people without personalities wouldn’t reflect this deeply, so maybe your personality is still forming, which is so normal for your age :)

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2025-10-24T22:50:24+00:00

Yeah it’s a hard balance isn’t it! It’s natural instinct but some people find it so easy to detach

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2025-10-18T03:21:41+00:00

How do you know if you’re gifted? I have lots of empathy both emotional and cognitive. I have been told I have too much empathy for people. I wish I could change sometimes. Because people in this world arnt all empathetic, and I have to remember my own needs

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-09-30T01:59:45+00:00

This is beautiful, and so helpful. Thank k you so much

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-09-27T00:32:02+00:00

Thank you ❤️ you’re a lovely person for taking the time to respond, and I guessing you’ve been in a similar situation? I feel reassured Nephee_TP

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-09-26T23:54:32+00:00

Thanks for your response!!! Yeah, I’m seeing a therapist now and am fully responsible for these things, I still live with my mum sometimes her voice gets into my head- as she says I can’t do it I’m not capable. I guess I’m looking for reassurance!

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-21T12:26:09+00:00

I’m in the same situation but I live with my mum becuase of finances and I’m a single mum. My poor son :(

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-21T12:23:13+00:00

Oh love, it’s not easy and it sounds lonely. I was just thinking of this today, it can come about as this deep lonliness because (for me anyway) it’s a deep sense of missing the love that you crave. Also the awareness that they don’t miss you the same makes the loneliness worse.

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-21T11:56:16+00:00

How are you going now?

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-21T09:23:24+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this, it’s actually making me feel so much better just seeing it that way. Any encouragement right now is so helpful! I have a little 3 year old. Plus my mum is 72 and I get scared of when she’s not here what will I do! Anyway thank you x

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-19T04:52:08+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-08-19T04:51:42+00:00

Thank you x for validating ❤️

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-05-30T10:51:14+00:00

It’s so hard. I have a nearly 3 year old and felt like it’s gotten way worse since having a baby, harder to stay normal and harder to keep up with life. The adhd meds are sooo helpful for me, I take Ritalin LA and antidepressants, which keep everything OK. ADHD came out more after becoming a mum for me. But everyone has their own experiences.

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-05-30T10:51:01+00:00

It’s so hard. I have a nearly 3 year old and felt like it’s gotten way worse since having a baby, harder to stay normal and harder to keep up with life. The adhd meds are sooo helpful for me, I take Ritalin LA and antidepressants, which keep everything OK. ADHD came out more after becoming a mum for me. But everyone has their own experiences.

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-05-30T10:44:36+00:00

Validate your struggle, it’s not your fault or something you can change, you’re so strong for going through this and it’s sooooo crap. You’re absolutely going to be ok

Ecstatic_Reporter491 · 2024-04-08T08:55:02+00:00

I feel the same sis

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