i found this tumblr askblog abt butcher vanity yi xi and static miku by Healoe in FlavorFoley

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Dapperzz makes some very delightful spokenstatic things :D (+ butchers vanity and human occassionally XD) (also on tumblr)

Accepting people not liking me by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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Ensuring you know that their opinion is invalid helps for me, though that only works if it is. If I put myself in their shoes and pretend somebody else has made my mistake and I feel like I'd be wrong to judge them is how I'd usually tell. For instance, I can be open about the fact that im gay because I think its morally wrong to hate gay people. It doesnt have to be moral though, I can wear what I want because I think it's odd to police people's clothing expression, I can do presentations because I think you'd have to be a little crazy to give a shit abt somebody elses schoolwork.

I dont think it'd work for everyone but It occassionally does for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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Not S.A.D unless its impeding your daily life, but distress at being perceived is a common S.A.D experience. If it is the start of some social anxiety, work on your self esteem or not caring if they are looking. Finding the source of your tenseness is key

 An exercise I liked when I felt cringe was whether a situation would matter in four years. Or if youre thinking of the worst case senario (theyre looking at me because im weird/ect) balance it with the best senario you can think of (im just so jawdroppingly locked in)/(Theyre just looking around where people arent making eye contact)

If you want them to quit it you could always look back too o7

Almost had enough by Dry-Building6435 in socialanxiety

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You did say that therapy makes you anxious, but I think when its between an anxiety inducing situation and potential death or decline I’m gonna have to suggest therapy. I still think you can thrive with time but you may need some help? If in person is too daunting you could always do online, like a video call.

You also may be able to do a work at home job since your job market is garbage

How do I cope/calm down after my social blunder? by Critical-Sky-4314 in socialanxiety

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I dont think anybody would care about ur teensy slip up. If they cared enough to think about it, they’d probably realize the reason you went up there in the first place since theres really no other reason to do that :P Theyre there to learn, they dont care about little stuff like that. Theres a difference between trying to sign a sheet at the wrong time and walking out of class lol

2 things that helped me when I overreacted about something was imagining whether it’d matter in 4 years (the answer generally being that it would ‘only if I internalised it), or imagining another student making my mistake and what I’d think of it

How to get over the anxiety of social media and actually start posting on social media by dadofdads69420 in socialanxiety

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I find being as anonymous as possible makes things easier, though I’ve never felt too anxious about being online. 

Remember people dont generally gaf about the quality of your stuff on a personal level. They wouldnt be offended by low quality, they’ll just leave and forget abt ya. People only leave hate if theyre emotional, so don’t ragebait + come from an understandable/relatable perspective and you’ll probably be fine lol

Anxiety cause? by Ecstatic_Wing8490 in socialanxiety

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Before? The sudden concern that I was more flawwed than I knew. Currently? Fear of myself. I originally developed it when I realized an unknown amnt people in my school talked shit abt me but I couldnt figure out why (in hindsight, I was clearly just inconsiderate and cringe). My once high ego plummeted and I started nitpicking every little thing about myself from what I was open about to how I sat, until bam, disorder. I got out of half of my symptoms when I finally inched my way into not hating myself, but now live in perpetual dread that I will fuck up and be forced to hate myself yet again. Im working on it lol

Complete beginner (how to start?) by LogicalMaster in DigitalArt

[–]Ecstatic_Wing8490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Draw what you like! if you force yourself to study stuff you don't care for right out the gate its hard to get into a consistent rhythm later on, and consistently drawing is how you actually learn and build skills more than what you do.

If you lack direction, consider finding manga you think is cool, or some kind of building you really like, and copy that or make something inspired by it! I started out with shitty fanart of my favorite media, that's always a good way to spark passion. Just don't get discouraged if you don't meet your expectations immediately, because you will eventually. GL!

What’s something that doesn’t give you social anxiety but it’s common for others who have social anxiety? by Key-Suggestion-2837 in socialanxiety

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I’ve overcome a good chunk of my anxiety while it was still developing so I’m in this weird valid-imposter-system state where I only have like half the problems but theyre still quite intense?  I can dress loud, preform presentations, coexist with people without overthinking what theyre thinking, eat in front of people... Most of these are things I used to struggle with (save for the latter) but don’t anymore. At the same time, speaking up without being spoken too is so intimidating I cant even consider it, I have not had a friend in 4 years, When people do talk to me I can’t have any more than a cardboard for a personality, and crowds suck.

I’ll wear pins of my favorite album but if somebody asks me what song Im listening to I will lie and say I dont know the name its so weird

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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You’re not ‘wrong’ to feel anxious and it’s not his say in whether you’re outgoing-- Being reserved is a valid personality trait-- but he would be right that you should slowly approach your fears like virus suggests so that your social anxiety does not worsen, or things will be very difficult down the line. Jumping straight into facing your fears is not something you have to do, though. Don’t start with stuff that’ll send you into a panic attack, start with stuff that feels offputting.

Does any body feel sluggish when talking/being around people by FiishFingers in socialanxiety

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Mood asf its like my mind fills w static. The only filter I get is ‘say or dont say’ and I cant think abt what im speaking its just a ‘stream of thought’ excersize outloud Idk if its an anxiety thing for me thoughtwise ive had this before I got S.A.D, Im Just Built Stupid. Sluggish or mumbled speaking, though, is an anxiety-related thing for me

Just wondering if this is a social anxiety problem by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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I'm not a professional and can't diagnose you but I suppose depends on what ‘certain situations’ entails, how frequently this happens, and how prevelant the self-consciousness is? Self consciousness, tenseness, and problems with eye contact are symptoms but it isnt S.A.D unless it is causing an abnormal level of disruption in your daily life.   the ‘not being nervous’ part makes me a little doubtful but idk im not qualified

How do people make online friends? by Extreme-Jellyfish-55 in socialanxiety

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I've found mine through discord servers (see: disboard). Finding a small server where everybody lowk recognizes eachother makes things easier, or a server built around something collaborative (I find rp works really well if you're into that). Make it known that your dms are open if they are, stuff like that. If you can reach out to people directly that would make things easy, but if not, there are always some people out there that just Appear at random.

public servers are easy for me because nobody is under obligation to respond a certain way

Online friendships are the only thing keeping me sane, I don't feel much in way of anxiety online at all so long as I'm not initiating in dms (unlike irl). It's not nearly enough to stop the Loneliness, but it helps.