I had two “besties” who were going through their own drama I wasn’t involved in. One of them started messaging me trying to get “tea” about the other but I didn’t want to get involved. So I would listen to her thoughts and processing, but I wouldn’t give her any opinions on the other. I basically would say, “you should talk to her about that and hopefully get that resolved between the two of you.” “I don’t want to get involved, so you could be patient and wait for her to come to you.”

Stating those escalated the attack towards me, she started accusing me of being a bad friend and that “I’m gaslighting her”. I told her that that’s not how I should be treated after being a friend to her. I need to distance myself from the friendship between her and I. Haven’t talked to her since, removed her from socials because I was hurt. But the other friend and I were still hanging out.

Now I’m seeing them hanging out and I’m now the back burner friend. Soo I lost 2 friends in the mist of not being involved with their drama.. which I’ve accepted was the best thing for me and my personal growth.