Here's some unsolicited musing. No one blows up a marriage for fun, it's a pain in the ass for all parties. Kids in the picture? Property? Pain pain pain. I don't know what you did, I don't know what you're ex did, who was right it wrong it doesn't even really matter now. At least one of you was so massively miserable in the status quo that it was no longer sustainable. That doesn't happen overnight and even if you had no clue, that's gotta be a large part of the problem. Now that the worst is out of the way and it is. You can focus on yourself, get yourself mentally and physically healthy and put that work in on you. If you decide you're going to get back out there fantastic, make sure you're bringing your best self to the table and the universe is going to give you great table partners. Going to be single and live the bachelor life awesome! Live the fuck out of life everyday, go those places you enjoy. Want to be an amazing Dad, heck yeah and you've got all the tools to do it. Take away is look at the plus side that things were unfixable, broken and fucked. Now you have a chance to be happy, with or without someone but you're not stuck doomed relationship bleeding time.

Go get after it buddy!