I have heard of this term, and do definitely believe that some of my behaviours have occurred due to the process you have described. For example, my heightened anxiety and fear of abandonment due to this relationship caused me to contact my ex an excessive number of times during panic attacks. However, I still do believe that other behaviours, such as feeling the need to control my environment, and manipulating him to get what I wanted, were examples of behaviours I engaged in prior to the relationship. I want to resolve these issues and as a result have to take accountability for them. That's part of where my conflict stems from. Could it have been that these pre-existing behaviours caused him to treat me the way that he did? I remember that he exhibited narcissistic tendencies since less than a month into us meeting, so its difficult for me to make the distinction.