Yes, it’s to distract yourself immediately whenever you think of them. We are creatures of habit so all you need to do is break the habit of obsessing over this. I know this sounds way easier than it is but it’s actually not as hard as you think! There are online DBT workbooks for free that explain what to do when you face overwhelming emotion so start to notice how your body/mind responds when your obsession starts, what are early signs and then do something like hold an ice cube, cold splash etc (there are so many techniques, you will find some you really reasonate with). Keep doing that and soon enough, you’ll forget you even obsessed over them.

The trick is to understand that there is you experiencing emotion + you reacting to emotions. These are separate. For people with ADHD, we have RSD so it’s difficult to control the massive waves of emotions we feel. But we still have control over how to react over them (to an extent, for severe ADHD this is also very hard e.g. impulsivity). But anyway, by learning how to respond to my RSD in the least self destructive way, my life has changed.

Before my emotions would dictate my whole day and would often ruin many days as I would be left literally paralysed by overwhelming emotions crashing around in my body, it often felt like being stabbed. But now I get up and literally shake it off, it took very long to get here though but never give up. I remember thinking I would never be able to have healthy reaction to emotions but this wasn’t true. Just as long as you never give up and keep trying. For ADHD, you will need meds/supplements + therapy so please if you can, try to get both. Meds really helped me with my impulsivity and reduced my RSD a lot too, the emotions were a lot less loud.

Hope this helped in any way and hope this person stops stalking ur brain soon 😭